I agree that not everyone has drama. I have no time for drama in my life. I seriously think some people feed off drama and when you don't give them their fix it really upsets them. Life is too short to get upset over small things as I have seen way to much death in my life time. To me; if no one got killed or hurt; it can be fixed; so why get upset over it?

Awesome post/question!


I guess bottom-line is that when I hear people using phrases like that... I just move on. Since, to me they're non-sensical, that's my first clue that there will likey be other miscommunications down the road.

I think sometimes a person may mistake "Drama" as any ties or complications between them and friends they make
Or maybe they mean they are just looking for sex without any ties or complications ?
Shallow but it is their choice in life...
personally if my only drive or motives to make friends
Were based on my sexual needs
I would rather not have a sex life {ughhhhh}
{might as well go pick up a hooker or those bar fly type who go home with a different man every night}
And i am a very sexual creature
But that is just me...



Who am i to judge anyone but myself
To each their own...

Whoa. That sounded like my last date

So, having feelings means drama? What is your definition of drama?

good list - can we add when she is cooking dinner while talking on the phone? only so much multi tasking can be expected....

As long as women fantasize about being porn stars . . .

I think it works both ways. (For men and women.)...Our partners aren't "things" or our "possessions." Nobody wants to be "talked at" when they are concentrating on something or watching a favorite show or movie..Constant interruptions can be annoying and disrespectful...It's unfair to expect our mate to drop everything and be "on call" for us 24/7...This is how young kids act with their parents and they have to be taught to respect other peoples' boundaries.

Nice wish to have, but it aint gonna happen.
The male species will never give up on their porn star fantasies.
It's useless to try to change that.

MWG, I'm just complimenting you at this stage, and no. Since my split, I spend a good deal of time in my master bedroom. She wanted the 42" Sony instead of the 60" Sharp, so of course I said "whatever you want." I then went and got a pretty nice 46" Samsung which fits my bedroom entertainment system PERFECTLY. What's the point? From the distance I sit and sometimes lay, I noticed your hair and facial expression well before anything else, and I thought "whoa - way sexy look there"

I only looked at the girls after you introduced them!

Hello ladies!!! (the answer to that age-old question = I've got a happy-a$$ banana in my pants that's glad to see ya!)

The Pun-murderer, Darnell

I'm not interested in being the hooker, or the trick. If I want a business partner I'll get one. Love is about me sharing and it's about me being comfortable that what is ours separately is ours together. If not than staying friends is cool with me. Bonding in degrees is fine but it's not the 100% that people talk about unless it is truly the 100%.

Lets not kid ourselves greed and self is the beginning of the end or it's a business contract with boundaries. I don't see any problem with folks going part way. What I have a problem with is the lie that comes along with "I give you myself completely" with no strings attached, but lets not truly become one. Completely means completely and people have been twisting the better or worse thing around so badly over the years that it has little meaning any more.

Oh no, Michael's about to pitch, not really. All of us have lines and sit there with our own dictionary ready to defend those lines we draw in our sand, but keep in mind this is our sand and not necessarily by the book of the 100%.

I'll take companionship (sometimes) but what I want is love and to me that means a sense of ownership (both ways). I want my worth to be claimed by the one who loves me and at the same time protected by that same person with all they have. Likewise what is giving if it is only part. And if it is only part, what part is it? What part do I think she can't handle that keeps me from giving all? And if I can't feel the joy of giving my all is it something I really want to be doing? Not me! You see I like to pour 100% into what I do for richer or poorer. That goes for love or biz. Why would I want to have a puzzle with missing parts? Spending time working on it only to find it incomplete at the end doesn't say "whole". My goal in life is to be complete, and to have someone who completes me and I them as well as the things we give ourselves to.

I wish that women would try to avoid communicating during the following:

Football game- Any topics that are not of the emergency status (meaning someone is dying or passed, etc) need wait till halftime. I know halftime is brief, but you'd be surprised how quickly a dude will communicate all the topics his lady wants to go over within that seven minute time span. After the game is over, communication can continue. Respect the football game and your man will love you more for it.

During sex- Okay, unless you wanna know how how your man wants to treat you like the pornstar he loves watching, then all other conversation topics can wait. Don't ask about the bills, or what's for dinner, or how should you guys work on fixing up the house. A man needs to concentrate so he can satisfy his women. No extra undue stress need apply.

When he is working on fixing something that is broken in the home- You want him to be the repair man right? Well, then please be kind and stay back. Allow the man to do his thing. If he is attempting to fix a leaky faucet, then don't come around five minutes (after he has begun to work on the faucet) and talk about other stuff. The man needs to analyze the issue. He needs to focus on the one problem. He doesn't need you coming around with more issues. Give him about fifteen minutes on the faucet and then just simply come by and see if he needs any assistance. Once he has assessed the damage and knows how he is gonna fix it, then let him tell ya about it and then ask him about other things.

These are but a few examples. Guys don't mind communicating. We just hate it when you ladies wanna communicate at the most inappropriate time.

Disagree. Most men communicate extremely well. Most women communicate extremely well. Just not with each other.

Most men don't communicate as well as most women. That goes both for sending and receiving clues like body language. I'd suggest you either flat out tell him of your interest or send a very strong single like "accidentally" touching his penis. I remember a woman once doing the latter to me. She then smiled and said "excuse me" while looking at my crotch. Pretty bold on her part, but it also showed a lot of confidence. I liked it.