Hallo, invisible.

I sort of get where you coming from.

Am I nice? Yes, I believe I am. In that umbrella of 'nice' I can be strident, I can stand up for myself and I can get my point across.

How do I like to be seen? I'm not sure, so I care what the general public think of me? Yes I do.

I am respectful, I find it annoying when a woman with a double kinderwagon is on a narrow path and people do not give way to her, people who are not aware of their surroundings. So they stroll on through and leave her to wait till the narrow path is clear.

I find it obnoxious when people play loud music in their cars, for two reasons, one: How are they to hear an emergency vehicle approaching? Two: If I wanted to be listening to their music, I would be sitting in their car.

A couple of examples of my day to day life...

Forum life? I am pretty nice in my exchanges, I may be a tad sharp sometimes, I may be somewhat aloof, in that I do not claim that I have many friends, because I cannot be arsed with the crap that is associated with that and get wrapped up in it.

I am not on any forum to be popular, I like forums, I find them interesting and a great study of human behaviour... I'm here because it suits me.

Too nice? I don't like people who are sort of insipid and wet. I like strong people, like youself, people who know the art of debate, people who are not afraid to stand up and say what they think. Inspid gives me a feeling of nausea, and I have been known to virtually shake them and say 'step out of being nice and tell me what you really think'

Kindness is something I like, more than nice, kindness is an art, true kindness. Those that take the time to be kind, are my sort of people, people that I would go out of my way to spend time with...

Forum behaviour grants being nice, because people do not want to be banned, so it pushes real feelings underground. I never block people, I do, however if they have a problem with me, give them one chance to get it off their chest what they feel about me, then I tell them 'You don't like me, so don't bother emailing me, they will be deleted unopened'

Human nature eh? How fragile and weak the brain is at times...

What a wonderful question.

Yes I think our experiences matter. I have had two long term relationhips, one was my husband, the father of my children and the second was with a man who I loved so much, it hurt.

My husband had an affair for three years, I found out and it almost killed me, now I am over all of that and we all get on and are quite the nuclear family.

My second ended because of cultural differences, the primary factor, there were other contributing factors of course. He is American and I am European, there were many difficulties, he would explode like a shaken bottle of champagne, if he took my words the wrong way and I could bore you all with the details, but I will not.

My experiences, despite their behaviour and how I loved both these men, have contributed to how I am now, I looked at my own behaviour and their reactions and what I found was that they were both unhappy about the same things, my behaviour in those relationships, and that was hard to face, but I did.

I know what love is for me, I never want to ask it, I never want to be asked to prove it, if I love him he will know I do.

Those two men in their loving of me have taught me alot, how not to be bitter when it all ends, and I am not now, I was for a time, anger, hurt, resentment even hatred at times, but all I was doing was turning that back on myself and I was the one suffering. My recovery from that was long, and now I am happy. Happiness is an ongoing journey not a destination, and in my journey, amny things matter when I love a man.

I have never spanked my children.

I was spanked as a child and while I do not suffer from that, my father and I were very close, I do remember the feeling of injustice I felt and how I wanted to be able to speak.

I was not one for sending my children to their rooms, because I believed that was their special place, where they could be private, they were to sit at the kitchen table and think about their actions.

Like my son called someone a TWAT once, when he was 12, that person came and told me, my son knew I would be cross and he went to my friends and told her what he had done.

She called me and told me he was there and then when he came home, he was walking up the drive, with his shoulders hunched over and my heart went out to him, he had called the person and apologised to them and he was feeling bad.

He came in and looked at me and asked me what his punishment was going to be and I told him that I think he had punished himself enough and did he understand why there are certain terms that are not to be used?

It was done and hitting him and being made at him, would have served nobody.

I share my feelings with my family, friends.

Fraid I'm not made of stone.

I have to agree with your first statement there. Although your second, people hurt, that is not making a choice, making a choice is finding a way to move forward...

So if I give you love, you will guarantee that you will break my heart?

So that am a total mess, cannot eat, sleep or function...

Fascinating.

Go on then, break my heart.

A navy blue pin stripe suit, a white blouse, white underwear.

I don't believe that 'freedom of speech' is a basic human right.

Otherwise the world would be in chaos.

My students do not have the right to tell me I am rubbish at my job.

I do not have the right to tell them they are rubbish at their subjects.

And in public forums, we do not have the right to go around telling people what we really do think of them.

We have the right and priviledge to post in a forum, because we have agreed to the rules. When we overstep the boundaries, we lose that right and people should not complain. If we cannot agree to abide by the rules, then mouthing off about freedom of speech, will get no person anywhere.

We sign our work contracts, abiding by the rules, so if we were to tell our boss he was a tosser, chances are, we are to be fired.

We do have to right to challenge anything that we feel is unfair and claim discrimination in anything we do, that is a human right, but freedom of speech??? Nah, I don't buy it. We think we do, but we don't.

We do have the right, to speak with our fellow members of the human race in a dignified, respectful kind way. How we execute that is up to us, we have the right to speak as we wish, but if we do not conform to guidlines, terms and conditions, then freedom of speech is not going to get folks anywhere, aside from in a pile of poo.

Sweden is a socialist country.

Austria is a democracy.

Oh no I am not, I found a couple of others, I may be one of two post in the forums.

I'm definitely stumped with that one.

If hazing is happeniing at my school and a student was writing this on a website, then I would want to know. There would be no charges, just a clear sign that 'not in my company'

If it was my daughter, then she is like me able to say, get lost and not be troubled by it, but then if it was a problem she would come to me and we would look at what is best.

Depends on the level of the her and how she feels, they could simply horny teenagers, but follwoing girls around is sort of not the way to get them through that...

Although we did have one boy, who followed a girl around, never aggressive, after two weeks he asked her if he could carry her books.

Okay, at my school, I would ask you the following questions!

1. Do you at any time feel threatened, uncomfortable or that your safety is at risk?

2. Have you transcribed the events and details what happened?

3. Have you asked them to leave you alone?

4. Would you be making a case of harrassment and want me to do something about your claims?

5. Get me all the evidence, if I feel that there is a case, I will have a disciplinary meeting tomorrow and we will listen to their side and then we will take it from there.

The reason I post this, is because if you go to report it, then you should ahould have all the evidence to hand, then it can be dealt with quickly, hazing, bullying, harrassment, is taken very seriously at my school and I hope your school has the same zero tolerance, but nobody can help you unless you speak up.

Well, don't do that will you, now?

Poor old POF, it's had it's fair share of slating...

I had to smile when I read that. I never get stalked either.

I usually find a polite foxtrot oscar works.

Oh so here, how it works is that one posts two threads about the same topic, doing half and half in each?

I saw no concern in this thread title, other than a young woman asking why people hit on her and that they got super aggressive!

I am a teacher at a boarding school, young people are learning how to deal with aggressive behaviour. As in control it.

It was an ambiguous opening statement.

I would consider yourself lucky, I heard it was a cattle market!

Ah. now am with you...

Bit slow sometimes Jesse...

Eh?

No, I think I did.

What?

It is nice the summer, intense and can get hotter, 30 is the threshold.

Yes, we have been know to be able to handle the ski slopes...

There are not many people from Austria here? How disappointing, maybe the Communistic regime has closed the internet down too.