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Sun 04/01/12 11:44 AM


gangs,, since the beginning of time

they are like civilian armies,, protecting their form of governing and their territory


without 'legal' authority to do so,,,no doubt they will be prosecuted,,,,,,as they should be,,,
so,Drive-By-Shootings is Protecting Your Own now?what


collateral damage,,,,

the parallels are there,,,

doesnt make it right though,, just adding a different perspective

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Sun 04/01/12 10:08 AM














Mankind has had religion since the beginnings of what we can dig up. One could say it is part of what makes us unique. Since it has such a long history as being part of our daily lives, it is hard to understand how one could say it is alien, harmful, or damaging.




One only needs to look at the state of
the world to understand how it has been damaging.
Eons of indoctrination has not served us well.
No difference between teaching a kid to make a bomb
and teaching a kid to use a gun to kill.




Now again since I can't account for all the different beliefs. Just look at the Christian point of view on what you have said. Heck the scriptures teach the same as they teach in elementry about your conduct "treat others the way you wish to be treated".


Matthew 7:12
12Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

do you need scriptures to tell you this or can't you think on your own?Matter of fact how stupid were people thousands of years ago to need someone to tell them,"you need to treat others as you want to be treated"


If it is not needed to be told, then why do they teach this to our children in early school? If they already know, then why tell them? And do you think children truly know this when they are born?




Some things are in our genes and do not need to be learnt, other things we pick up throughout life.

Children are instinctively gullible for a reason, it is in our human nature to trust our parents for reasons of survival. 'Dont swim with the crocodiles' for example, is good survival advice, and if we didnt listen to our parents advice we would not be as strong a species as we are.

This is why it is wrong to bring kids up with religion, because they will believe whatever you tell them even if it is wrong. If Christianity happened to be correct, then all those poor islamic and jewish kids are being led to a life full of wasted time, money and beliefs.





so who has the expertise or authority to determine that reigious beliefs are 'wrong'?


children are to be guided in the right direction, and that is each parents perogative to decide what that direction is,,,,,


sometimes not only children are gullible, sometimes children grow into adults who have been brainwashed to think if it makes you 'unhappy' or doesnt let you do WHATVER happens to make you happy,,,,its wrong


There are all kinds of mental and emotional abuse of which religion is only one.

A good sign of someone that has been abused and/or brainwashed is some one who continues to believe what they have been taught, even when clear and astonishing evidence has been put before them to prove the contrary, but they are still unable to change their view. This is also a good sign of someone who is likely to be an abuser themselves.



abuse is not about belief

abuse is : improper or excessive use or treatment

there is a list too long to mention of things that can be improperly used or excessively used

people use EXCESSIVE focus on sports abusively to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on academics to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on appearance and beauty to villify their children

but , as I said before, the abuse starts with the PERSON, not with their tool of choice,,,


When the tool of choice has been passed down to them through generation after generation, century after century, then that tool of choice has to take some blame eventually.



great, lets stop teaching boys to be athletic or girls to be ladies or that education is important or that we should try to be 'healthy'

these traditions keep being passed down and used abusively by many too,,,,,


The problem with discussing religion with people that will defend it to the end, is that they will come out with the most stupidest of arguments in order to do so.



same as discussing it with people that will use the 'stupidest' arguments to condemn it,,,,:smile:

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Sun 04/01/12 10:07 AM
gangs,, since the beginning of time

they are like civilian armies,, protecting their form of governing and their territory


without 'legal' authority to do so,,,no doubt they will be prosecuted,,,,,,as they should be,,,

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Sun 04/01/12 01:32 AM












Mankind has had religion since the beginnings of what we can dig up. One could say it is part of what makes us unique. Since it has such a long history as being part of our daily lives, it is hard to understand how one could say it is alien, harmful, or damaging.




One only needs to look at the state of
the world to understand how it has been damaging.
Eons of indoctrination has not served us well.
No difference between teaching a kid to make a bomb
and teaching a kid to use a gun to kill.




Now again since I can't account for all the different beliefs. Just look at the Christian point of view on what you have said. Heck the scriptures teach the same as they teach in elementry about your conduct "treat others the way you wish to be treated".


Matthew 7:12
12Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

do you need scriptures to tell you this or can't you think on your own?Matter of fact how stupid were people thousands of years ago to need someone to tell them,"you need to treat others as you want to be treated"


If it is not needed to be told, then why do they teach this to our children in early school? If they already know, then why tell them? And do you think children truly know this when they are born?




Some things are in our genes and do not need to be learnt, other things we pick up throughout life.

Children are instinctively gullible for a reason, it is in our human nature to trust our parents for reasons of survival. 'Dont swim with the crocodiles' for example, is good survival advice, and if we didnt listen to our parents advice we would not be as strong a species as we are.

This is why it is wrong to bring kids up with religion, because they will believe whatever you tell them even if it is wrong. If Christianity happened to be correct, then all those poor islamic and jewish kids are being led to a life full of wasted time, money and beliefs.





so who has the expertise or authority to determine that reigious beliefs are 'wrong'?


children are to be guided in the right direction, and that is each parents perogative to decide what that direction is,,,,,


sometimes not only children are gullible, sometimes children grow into adults who have been brainwashed to think if it makes you 'unhappy' or doesnt let you do WHATVER happens to make you happy,,,,its wrong


There are all kinds of mental and emotional abuse of which religion is only one.

A good sign of someone that has been abused and/or brainwashed is some one who continues to believe what they have been taught, even when clear and astonishing evidence has been put before them to prove the contrary, but they are still unable to change their view. This is also a good sign of someone who is likely to be an abuser themselves.



abuse is not about belief

abuse is : improper or excessive use or treatment

there is a list too long to mention of things that can be improperly used or excessively used

people use EXCESSIVE focus on sports abusively to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on academics to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on appearance and beauty to villify their children

but , as I said before, the abuse starts with the PERSON, not with their tool of choice,,,


When the tool of choice has been passed down to them through generation after generation, century after century, then that tool of choice has to take some blame eventually.



great, lets stop teaching boys to be athletic or girls to be ladies or that education is important or that we should try to be 'healthy'

these traditions keep being passed down and used abusively by many too,,,,,

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Sun 04/01/12 01:15 AM
Edited by msharmony on Sun 04/01/12 01:16 AM










Mankind has had religion since the beginnings of what we can dig up. One could say it is part of what makes us unique. Since it has such a long history as being part of our daily lives, it is hard to understand how one could say it is alien, harmful, or damaging.




One only needs to look at the state of
the world to understand how it has been damaging.
Eons of indoctrination has not served us well.
No difference between teaching a kid to make a bomb
and teaching a kid to use a gun to kill.




Now again since I can't account for all the different beliefs. Just look at the Christian point of view on what you have said. Heck the scriptures teach the same as they teach in elementry about your conduct "treat others the way you wish to be treated".


Matthew 7:12
12Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

do you need scriptures to tell you this or can't you think on your own?Matter of fact how stupid were people thousands of years ago to need someone to tell them,"you need to treat others as you want to be treated"


If it is not needed to be told, then why do they teach this to our children in early school? If they already know, then why tell them? And do you think children truly know this when they are born?




Some things are in our genes and do not need to be learnt, other things we pick up throughout life.

Children are instinctively gullible for a reason, it is in our human nature to trust our parents for reasons of survival. 'Dont swim with the crocodiles' for example, is good survival advice, and if we didnt listen to our parents advice we would not be as strong a species as we are.

This is why it is wrong to bring kids up with religion, because they will believe whatever you tell them even if it is wrong. If Christianity happened to be correct, then all those poor islamic and jewish kids are being led to a life full of wasted time, money and beliefs.





so who has the expertise or authority to determine that reigious beliefs are 'wrong'?


children are to be guided in the right direction, and that is each parents perogative to decide what that direction is,,,,,


sometimes not only children are gullible, sometimes children grow into adults who have been brainwashed to think if it makes you 'unhappy' or doesnt let you do WHATVER happens to make you happy,,,,its wrong


There are all kinds of mental and emotional abuse of which religion is only one.

A good sign of someone that has been abused and/or brainwashed is some one who continues to believe what they have been taught, even when clear and astonishing evidence has been put before them to prove the contrary, but they are still unable to change their view. This is also a good sign of someone who is likely to be an abuser themselves.



abuse is not about belief

abuse is : improper or excessive use or treatment

there is a list too long to mention of things that can be improperly used or excessively used

people use EXCESSIVE focus on sports abusively to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on academics to villify their children, they use EXCESSIVE focus on appearance and beauty to villify their children

but , as I said before, the abuse starts with the PERSON, not with their tool of choice,,,


where there is BALANCE there cant be abuse, if children are given a balance they are not being abused,, if they are in an imbalanced environment where one thing is the central/unique focus for life,, thats abusive


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Sun 04/01/12 01:03 AM
My issue is I pick people who are not good matches,,,and they do the same,,,

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Sun 04/01/12 01:02 AM


First point: The question assumes 'religion' is one distinct, easily definable principle , which is false, religions have many many different principles within them which are taught in many many different manners


Second point: The federal government defines child abuse as
Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation"; or


"An act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm."



I was brought up with religion. It did not kill me, physically harm me, emotionally harm me, sexually abuse me, or exploit me or put me at SERIOUS Risk of harm. So I guess there can probably not be an honest YES or NO answer to whether it is child abuse, because I know of MANY MANY other people like me for which religion has done none of these things.


so I come to the third point

RELIGION is not child abuse, although people can be ABUSIVE in how they choose to teach it to children. In many of the scenarios listed here, the issue is the ABUSIVE manner in which the child is supposedly introduced or 'indoctrinated' into the religion, it is not the religion itself.


For instance, as a child, I was at a certain developmental stage. Parents often give children stories to develop their imaginations and their sense of lifes possibilities,, at this stage. Some parents may be upset if their child does not adhere and they may disown them ,,like the parent who threatens to not give a christmas gift because a kid says santa isnt real, or a parent who 'disowns' a child for merely 'disbelieving' in some tradition when they get older (disbelief and disrespect are different things though...)

,and that would be abusive. OTher parents (mine, for instance) provide the resource and the information and let the children get from it what they can, which is NOT Abusive at all.

My siblings and myself ALL grew up with religion. OF the five of us, only two of us grew into adulthood with a strong belief in God or the Bible. The other three would probably be considered agnostic.

My parents exposed us to as many DIFFERENT cultures/philosophies as possible when we were children so we could use the brain they gave us to use them towards our own emotional and intellectual benefit.

,,short answer,,

Is teaching religion to children abusive? .....NO

Do abusive parents teach religion to their children with abusive methods?,,,SURE


I never said that all parents that bring their kids up with religion are abusing them. But it is often the case, even if you cant see it. Also, many adults that i would consider to have been abused by their parents through religion would not be able to recognise or acknowledge the fact either. Just like some pedophiles that were abused themselves as kids, they believe their actions to be normal.




but the title was 'religion is child abuse'

not can children be abused through religion...

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Sun 04/01/12 12:58 AM








Mankind has had religion since the beginnings of what we can dig up. One could say it is part of what makes us unique. Since it has such a long history as being part of our daily lives, it is hard to understand how one could say it is alien, harmful, or damaging.




One only needs to look at the state of
the world to understand how it has been damaging.
Eons of indoctrination has not served us well.
No difference between teaching a kid to make a bomb
and teaching a kid to use a gun to kill.




Now again since I can't account for all the different beliefs. Just look at the Christian point of view on what you have said. Heck the scriptures teach the same as they teach in elementry about your conduct "treat others the way you wish to be treated".


Matthew 7:12
12Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

do you need scriptures to tell you this or can't you think on your own?Matter of fact how stupid were people thousands of years ago to need someone to tell them,"you need to treat others as you want to be treated"


If it is not needed to be told, then why do they teach this to our children in early school? If they already know, then why tell them? And do you think children truly know this when they are born?




Some things are in our genes and do not need to be learnt, other things we pick up throughout life.

Children are instinctively gullible for a reason, it is in our human nature to trust our parents for reasons of survival. 'Dont swim with the crocodiles' for example, is good survival advice, and if we didnt listen to our parents advice we would not be as strong a species as we are.

This is why it is wrong to bring kids up with religion, because they will believe whatever you tell them even if it is wrong. If Christianity happened to be correct, then all those poor islamic and jewish kids are being led to a life full of wasted time, money and beliefs.





so who has the expertise or authority to determine that reigious beliefs are 'wrong'?


children are to be guided in the right direction, and that is each parents perogative to decide what that direction is,,,,,


sometimes not only children are gullible, sometimes children grow into adults who have been brainwashed to think if it makes you 'unhappy' or doesnt let you do WHATVER happens to make you happy,,,,its wrong

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Sat 03/31/12 11:39 PM



With all the media convicting the guy, he won't get a fair trial.

Media should be accused of swaying a jury.



EVERYONE does not pay attention to the news.

If you askeed 20 random people about the case right now, plenty of them would say they 'heard about it', some of them would not and off those that heard about it, few would care or have read it for themself.

So being in a jury where they would get FACTS, would make it more than reasonable for them to be able to be FAIR in their ruling.


Yep! Just like the OJ trial.



you can blame the precious infallible police force for that verdict, they supplied more than reasonable doubt,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 11:38 PM

Give Zimmerman a medal.

It is against all state laws to attack a person walking on any street.



let the court prove thats what happened, and that zimmerman was the attacked and not the attacker,,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 03:11 PM
just mathemetically

divorce leaves one with HALF of the whole they were entitled to while married,,,,

so I dont really think money is as much a motivator to divorce as unhappiness or discontent in general

money is often a motivator to get married though,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 03:07 PM
I guess it would help to define the difference between attracted and 'sexually' attracted

I have not ever quite understood the term either,, to be honest,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 03:05 PM


....that drive a man crazy:

1. Game-playing/manufacturing drama.

(I'm tired of dudes saying its always us. When you bring your exes into the picture I'd say that treads the line to drama. Just one example.)

2. Expecting the man to pay for everything.

(I always offer if I can, especially if its past the first few dates)

3. “Wanting to know ‘where the relationship is going’ before he’s ready to say, or before he knows himself”

(Most men haven't a clue what they want anyway. They'll never admit it unless we finally make a decision.)

4. Being controlling.

(Men are super controlling when they never call.)

5. Not getting enough “guy time.”

(Most ladies here can put up with mind-numbing sports activities.)



1. No one likes games. Least of all me. I am serious and honest and ask the same in return.

2. This is not an issue with me. If I invite you somewhere, I expect to pay. Now it would bother me if I was invited someplace and expected to pay.

3. I pretty much always know and have little problem telling you. This ranks up there with game playing oftentimes to me.

4. I'm not controlling and don't bother with those who are. Control freaks are annoying and just make everything unpleasant.

5. What the hell is guy time? I have never understood this concept. I can understand "ME" time, but that works differently for different people.


I don't see this list applying to a great many guys, although it will apply to a lot more than in a perfect world it shouldn't.



brava,,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 02:37 PM

....that drive a man crazy:

1. Game-playing/manufacturing drama.

(I'm tired of dudes saying its always us. When you bring your exes into the picture I'd say that treads the line to drama. Just one example.)

2. Expecting the man to pay for everything.

(I always offer if I can, especially if its past the first few dates)

3. “Wanting to know ‘where the relationship is going’ before he’s ready to say, or before he knows himself”

(Most men haven't a clue what they want anyway. They'll never admit it unless we finally make a decision.)

4. Being controlling.

(Men are super controlling when they never call.)

5. Not getting enough “guy time.”

(Most ladies here can put up with mind-numbing sports activities.)

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=12468&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1184536

What are your thoughts?



I think most people dont really like the games,
Many men were raised to pick up the bill and feel offended

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Sat 03/31/12 02:32 PM
this will probably be moved to parenting,,but

if you have a teen or young adult who introduced to you their boyfriend/girlfriend

and they ask you what you think of them after you meet them

how is the best approach at being constructively honest if you see red flags that cause you to think they arent right for your child?

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Sat 03/31/12 02:28 PM
It was the name of my favorite song at the time I opened this account

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Sat 03/31/12 02:25 PM
Edited by msharmony on Sat 03/31/12 02:26 PM
against asking an opinion if you really just want someone to mirror your own,,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 02:19 PM

thats different than the first quote,,lol

and its accurate,, 'it' (whatever that referred to), wasnt 'done'(whatever THAT referred to) in three years

and its being used to suggest he should only have one term,,,,


I wasn't quoting him the first time hence no quotation marks.

The question asked Obama was about the economy.


ok,,,but its still just as ambiguous without knowing what qualifies as 'having this done'

he said there will be progress, and there are arguments to support the case that there has been, because the 'economy' covers alot of different political goals and issues,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 12:45 PM




Spike Lee apologizes, tweeted wrong Martin shooter address


NEW YORK (TheWrap.com) - Spike Lee apologized on Twitter for retweeting what turned out to be the wrong address for George Zimmerman, who shot unarmed Florida teen Trayvon Martin.

The tweet left an elderly Florida couple who lived at the address, David and Elaine McClain, afraid for their safety.

"I deeply apologize to the McClain Family for retweeting their address. It was a mistake," Lee tweeted. "Please leave the McClains in peace. Justice in Court."

The director did not address the issue of whether the initial retweet encouraged vigilantism against Zimmerman. The Smoking Gun revealed Thursday that Lee had shared the wrong address with his more than 250,000 followers.

The McClains' son's name is reportedly similar to Zimmerman's.

Elaine McClain told the Smoking Gun that she was scared that her family would be targeted, and that they had already received a disturbing letter.

"We're keeping everything locked," she said.

The original tweet was sent to Lee and celebrities like Will Smith on Friday by Marcus Davonne Higgins with a request to repost the address.

Zimmerman's father said in an interview with an Orlando Fox affiliate that he was surprised by the "hate" from President Obama, the Congressional Black Caucus, and the NAACP toward his son. He did not provide examples of the hate.

Obama famously said that if he had a son, "he would look like Trayvon," but the president expressed no hatred toward Zimmerman.


*I see lawsuit in his future. He is an annoying little man. What did he think would happen when he did this? Ummm... wonder if he thinks much before he acts?

(Editing by Chris Michaud)
http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/tribu/sns-rt-us-spikelee-trayvonmartinbre82s10s-20120329,0,4602260.story


And he can't direct movies either!



yeah, thats why he has won NUMEROUS film awards, because he cant direct a movie,,,,laugh


he's a racist, plain and simple... his movies even spell it out...



racist or not, doesnt change his ability to direct movies,,,

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Sat 03/31/12 12:41 PM
thats true

if animals had opposable thumbs,,

but I get your point,,,it was an inhumane event and should and no doubt will be punished to the full extent of the law,,,

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