"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."
— Friedrich Nietzsche

Good enough for me brother.

Ya got a good head on your shoulders and I completely understand what it is to feel snake bit.

Hard to get past the past. Took me years.

I think you will do good my man.

I was just winging that stuff out there for those who can't see past what is in arms reach. (there are alot of those people out there)

You sure about that?

Cause if you are comparing every woman to your past....you are holding every chick to a knife edge.

Do you expect them to judge you next to thier ex'es?

or do you want to be judged for the man you are?

I will simply say the same thing I tell the guys at work..."Lower your standards"

It will improve your success rate...thereby building confidence....confidence = sexy = higher score ratios which only boots kavorka (Polish for "magnetism")

I have known plenty of dudes with thier "ideals"....skinny, gorgeous, does all the cooking and cleaning....never once have I seen any of them get what they want.

I dropped my standards (I used to be a slut) and then stumbled into someone who is better than any expectation I ever had.

What guys and gals think they want is completly overrated.

It is like walking into a massive buffet thinking that you only want a hamburger with fries.....a closed mind can only limit you when life has more to offer than what any of us can imagine.

Throw aside those "standards" brother......they limit you.

Well I have to say I disagree with your opinion, lol JK. No I think it is good to have a strong opinion about what you believe in ( anything, not speaking religion )

When people stand their ground it shows confidence, that can be a turn on, but I'm not into fighting at all. Some threads like religion and others I see same people back and forth, and I wonder if that makes them crush in a weird semantic way. It's not unheard of

Ya all got any steak and salad and salsa to put in this giagantor pitty pockets?

Come on nice people exist you just have to set back and watch people's behavior a while.

Nice people are not going to jump out and announce they are nice. I mean who needs to be stampeded? lol But nice people generally have a lot of things in common.

A) They work or at least contribute to the community where they live in a way they can. Maybe if they are disabled they still volunteer or help and elderly neighbor or family member.

B) They try to be considerate of others; even people who have no power to do anything to them if they don't. Example They wait patiently in line, pick up something that is spilled, help an animal.

C) They consistently tell the truth. Not the polite social crap and even the big stuff like might make you cut and run. Few people like to admit they screw up in life but everybody does and nice people admidt it. And it is how they make up for it or at least try everything they can not to repeat their mistakes that only you can know by taking your time to know people and their people.

D) They generally take care of what they have. How people take care of things they work for is a good hint on how they take care of the people they value.
They can connect the dots between actions and results. Example have you ever seen some spoiled brat hell a car that a parent or granparent sweat blood to pay for? They might seem sucessful but they have a habit of useing up anything and anyone and those kind of people you want to avoid like the plague. You see a person that has an old car that they clean up, change the oil on, and keep insured you have a responsible person who will more than likely have a good driving record with the DMV and people in general.

E) They aren't eager to shack up. Nice people want to do things where everyone is equally invested. When one side or the other is only partially in when it comes to responsibility that makes things lopsided. One person has all the responsibility and sometimes power and the other is set up to be resented. Rarely good for relationships. No promises made might seem like an easy out but the reality is neither side is really in.

F) They like you. They don't just need someone or use someone, or lust for someone but actually like you. They can tell you that and you can feel it because they want to have you around more than not. They are comfortable when you are around and miss you when you aren't. Being around you isn't a grind for them. Even if you are not just like them they like you.

G) They don't blame others for everything. Yea they don't want to be the scape goat but they own what they bring to the table. If they are weak in some areas they try to be extra strong in others and make it a good bargain for you.

I am sure there are other things but this is a good place to start. Look around the room and see what you find.
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...yea, half that I can't or don't have