Wow you ask a crap load of questions. Yes they do!
Fact is at least until your 13 your not even legally allowed on Facebook for example and before your 18 you aren't allowed without parental consent. If your living at home your parent can snoop all they want, it might not win bonus points with the kid but it is your right.

Cell phones? If the parent bought the phone yes! If the kid did then maybe not its really up to the parent to decide.

Email another hot topic but legally until your eighteen you need parental consent to have email! Even with parental consent if your under 13 Hotmail policy at least says you cannot legally have an email account.

Children put themselves at risk all the time, their are pedophiles and other criminal elements all over taking advantage of idiot children and youth.

If the child is involved in criminal activity or a possible victim a parent has an obligation to check it out! Game consoles have parental controls as well.

Look when a kid shoots someone at 2AM and the parent just let the kid go out and knew the whole time the child was involved in gang activity. That parent is responsible for not informing the authorities and stopping their child.

Until your child is of legal age they are your responsibility. It is your duty to ensure your child is not in danger or a menace to society!

Take Columbine for example. The parents of the bullies who provoked the attack who drove the kids to murder and then kill themselves. The bullies parents were all aware of what was going on, in interviews parents said that they knew.

So the parents let it happen, who is to blame? The kids but their parents didn't do anything to stop them!

Parents need to take responsibility for their off spring!

Because I'm abstinent!

Pretty much the deal, every girl who actually wants an emotional and loving relationship is married.

Seriously every girl I've ever asked out was dating, except for back in grade 5 and 7. Those two girls didn't wanna go out with me because I had acne lol.

I have no shortage of girls wanting me as a best friend.

But all of them don't want me, well they do their just idiots and I finally got rid of them.

Seriously when you call me multiple times a week to talk for up to 10 hours about your feelings. When you come over every second day to visit. When you want to go out for dinner constantly. When your sad you come to.my house to cry on my shoulder. When you wanna see a romantic movie you go out with me.

But do you want a relationship nope.

The girl then gets dumped and is back crying on my shoulder about another jerk.

Look I asked the girls out a few times.

The most common response is "Joel your too perfect I need someone with flaws". But then they always say when their dumped "Where is my prince charming the perfect guy doesn't exist where is he Joel"!!!

Its really stupid and finally a few months ago I severed ties with the last of them.
I still have some former friends on Facebook.

Another one bitching about the horrible guy that knocked her up. I asked her out 7 years ago and multiple times since but she blew me off. Now apparently she wants me!

Ya right you ignore me 7 years and then after getting knocked up your interested. Screw you!

Now people say I have too high standards. My friends say I have the lowest physical standards they know, I won't date a girl I find unattractive but I've asked out girls that my buddies thought was horrific. A girl covered in acne a girl who was slightly over weight.

I'm not as picky physically though I still have standards.

My only real standard is the women has to respect my choice to abstain and being Christian is almost essential it would take a lot to convince me to go out with a non-Christian!

Those are my two standards, plus the has to be slightly attractive. I've even asked out an alcoholic!

So if those standards are too high then seriously girls don't deserve a relationship with me.
sorry have to be blunt but is it so much to ask that you respect my beliefs? Is that so hard?

Besides every girl that wants a good Christian guy, is married.
yes I know theirs a ton online and even offline who say they do, their freaking liars. They wouldn't be getting dumped and putting up with all kinds of **** if they wanted a real man!

Their are good guys everywhere who are single, so if you say you want a real caring loving gentleman and don't have one, your either flat out lying or the guys think your in a relationship!

I did just locate one girl at my church I'm hoping to ask out. Thought she was in a serious relationship. Turns out she isn't, so trying to decide how to ask her out!

But other then her I don't know of any girls actually wanting good guys, when I say that I mean really do.

Turns out the girl I'm thinking of asking out isn't exactly a dater. So she must be shy and most guys must just assume she's taken, I did!

I am looking of course for a girl I find remotely attractive, I don't care if she's my dream girl physically but remotely attractive will do.

I'm mainly looking for a self confident girl who is loving and caring and has an amazing personality.

Essentially a girl I fall in love with who shares my beliefs or at the very least respects them.

A life partner.

But typically I go after girls who are hard working, overly confident and strong women.

I have to look up to them and bring something to the table that I don't. I'm a mad genius lol other then Math I'm brilliant but I'm not as great at some other things and I like a girl who is better then me at some things.

Actually me whole life I've been after active girls who can also chill. The reason I am very smart but I also love to do some physical stuff and enjoy trying new things. I like going camping and such, problem I'm always to busy doing things I see as more important.

But when I have a girl around who likes physical activity I actually have an excuse to do the stuff. Haven't been camping in years, why? Because I have better more efficient uses of my time. But if I have a girl then Ill have an excuse to go out and do that stuff!

Yes age means a lot to me. I currently have a five year difference limit. Later in life Ill change that to ten. But it is important that you aren't older then that.

Why do I believe this. Yes If I fall in love with a 35-40 year old that's awesome. We fall in love she's beautiful and I'm good.

But when I'm 45 she is what 60! When I'm 60 she's 75-80!

Why is this an issue? Because shell be sent to an old folks home I cant be with her. I want to grow old with the girl I love. But also the average life expectancy for a human is what 75.

Then what about having kids? I'm still not 100% I want kids but if I dated a 35-40 year old wed have to pop one out fast or no deal. If she already had kids great but they will never actually be mine I can love them as much as I want or can but they will never be mine.


So many problems occur!

It is far better for the two to be within a ten year difference. My Grandma and Grandpa are 9 years apart and one of my foster parents were 11 years apart and that survived 15+ years. But I haven't seen a relationship work with a greater distance then that.

Well I have the guy was loaded and when I say loaded I mean loaded. She wasn't going anywhere that money kept her there.

But that's not a loving relationship!

Because every guy wants sex, even the abstinent ones. If they find a goddess and she gives it up he's likely going to stick around a bit if their is anything their. If he's not a player he's going to think he loves her and sexual contact like orgasm releases chemicals in the brain that stimulate many different emotions. You have a hormonal experience.

The guy is going to feel this every time he has sex, he's going to crave it. The problem he's not actually craving the girl he's craving the sex. He's craving the chemical release he's craving the orgasm and release. See he can get that release with another girl but at the time he might get confused.

Now if your a player or a guy who is all about the hunt then once your laid you go for the next girl. That is simply because your not dumb you know its a chemical reaction you know you can have that with someone else so you move on to the next girl.

Girls seem to think if a guy screws them that theirs a relationship. I'm not a girl so I cant really explain it to much but I know a ton of girls who think they love the guy because he's having sex with them. Sorry sex is a chemical reaction in the brain and release of pent up energy.

Sex isn't anything special if their isn't love with it.

Because love cant be manufactured. You can pretend you can get confused but love is love and your not going to be able to screw your way to love!

Sorry my phone keeps auto correcting Destiny was sexting and sects was sexts blame the dang phone lol!

Yes its cheating, porn isn't another person. Nobody is on the other end of the screen beating off to you! Cyber sex is a form of sex I mean I don't consider it really sex however. But you are purposely and intentionally exposing yourself and turning another guy on to orgasm!

It is intimate and it is personal. When your dating or married the person your with should be the only one getting off with you regardless of whether it is physical sex or cyber sex.

Porn is completely different.

Heck even destiny is pretty much cheating. Why are you turning someone else on? Why are you doing it? Obviously because your looking at that individual as a partner.

I know a guy who was getting nude pictures and sects from a girl for years while she dated another guy. Then she finally got engaged. When he finally found out the marriage was over and she came to my friend and he didn't want her either.

Why? Because she was keeping my buddy on the side. She was keeping him their as her back up she always had an escape plan. She wasn't actually dedicated to her relationship. Then she writes on Facebook how a guy needs to love you unconditionally etc..etc...

Look if you get a good guy and he's actually staying with you, especially if he proposes or marries you. Why are you needing this other guy? Why? Your husband should be there to do what ever you need! If he's doing something wrong tell him how to do it better.

But this comes down to my earlier thing. If your doing this then your relationship was built on sex, because if it was genuine you wouldn't require sex to be so great or need other partners.

I've been abstinent my whole life I could do it the rest of my life if I had to, I'm not saying you should. But if your married or dating you should have some self control.

Actually what I'd suggest is councilling for that couple. Because obviously the girl needs it and if her husband isn't performing and its that much of an issue, then it should be addressed!

What do I think about married people dating?

That the guy should have signed a prenup! lol

Or if its the guy dating she should have signed one!

As for separated, that means squat I wouldn't date a women unless she was fully divorced. Separated means they are still together she can always go back its not dead its not over.

Plus when their separated is it only the girl dating? Or are they both dating? Because if he still loves her he's going to try and save the relationship and you are stealing his wife which is simply wrong. You have no business going out with a woman who is still married.

The only acception I see to this is if she was physically abused and then their should be a restraining order and police report to prove it.

Because if the guy she's married to isn't abusing her then the marriage is legit till the divorce is fully filed.

But then I'd still be skeptical to date a girl who was divorced without knowing why she divorced because if she said something like "I just didn't love him anymore" or "He didn't love me anymore" or anything short of infidelity or abuse.

If she left her husband why wouldn't she leave me?

I know my foster mom had seven husbands before finally settling down. Seven husbands not just boy friends I'm talking she got married seven times. Shed always fall out of love and find another guy file for divorce.

Sorry if your going to go through that many guys, then they aren't the problem you are and I am not going near you!

Wait what? Isn't everyone off limits when your in a relationship? Seriously if your cheating at all your off limits. Deserve to get dumped!

Just realized I'm not against any kind of sex between married consenting adults. I only said that is what my church advises. If your married and love each other do what ever you want if you both consent then let er rip lol.

Oh last part. One last thing that the church hears all the time is after 15 years of one position the guy or girl gets tired. Now.my church personally doesn't believe in anal or oral etc..etc... but really maybe you should spice it up a bit after a few years lol. Maybe even after a few times. I mean theirs nothing wrong with being adventurous and open minded after your married lol go at er!!!!

I just know we hear that complaint often too. Usually the girl or guy refuses to try something new.

Of course the church doesn't promote anything kinky etc..etc..

But I do know that secular councillors talk about that stuff helping and I can definitely see how it would help psychologically.

But again sex shouldn't be the cornerstone of a relationship it should be their for the enjoyment of a couple and help keep them together not to get them together in the first place!

Because people are shallow and closed minded.

One reason I intend to remain a virgin till marriage, my relationship will not be based on sex but actual emotion and love.

See I've been in church leadership for years. We have adulterous relationships coming unalloyed the time. My pastor councils couples all the time and I've seen relationships fall apart all the time.

Why? Because the relationship is built around sex! Sex is very important to the survival of a relationship in the long run but cannot be everything.

If we are thinking with our ***** when we give you a ring were going to be thinking with our ***** when we leave you for the next girl that makes it hard.

You cant seriously expect a guy who is with you only because you **** his brains out is going to stay with you when he gets bored and sees the next girl! Sex clouds judgement and makes people think they love each other when they don't.

I see it all the time.

The guys like I don't love her anymore. Umm then you never did!

Their isn't one person that I genuinely loved (more then Christian love) not one that I don't still care about, maybe to an lesser extent then I once did but if you genuinely love someone it doesn't just go away.

The guys coming in say I'm bored she doesn't turn me on anymore. She's their every day it was so much better when we were dating.

Or the friend he's a player who thinks he's looking for love.

He's a decent guy but every time he finds a girl he cares about he bangs her and then well its over within weeks. Because he didn't love her he lusted over her he was only after sex.

He complains all the time "I cant find a girl every time I think I've found the one I fall out of love with her".


I know girls same thing!

People need to stop putting all the emphasis on sex. Because if sex is the cornerstone of your relationship it will crumble the second something happens.

Sex is the glue that helps hold a healthy relationship together but it isn't the most important thing. If it is then you shouldn't be in the relationship!

I'm not dumb enough to go into a relationship where sex is going to be the only thing holding it together. To avoid that I'm.simply going to abstain if the girl.loves me enough to marry me without sex and I love her enough to commit without sex. Then it can last!

I've seen guys marry a women after a car accident paralyzes her, why? Because he fell in love with her not her *****. He fell in.love with her.

I've seen a girl marry a soldier who was burnt from head to toe, why? Because they loved each other.

I know a women who married a guy after MS took his body out!

These relationships wouldn't be possible if they were built on sex.

Love is the only thing that will bind a relationship together. Only genuine emotion and not just sexual attraction. Of course I still see sex as extremely important and physical attraction I have a policy using the objectifying and offensive out of ten scale a girl needs to be a five for me to ask her out!

That simply means I have to be at least slightly attracted to her! But If she's an amazing women I'd much rather date her then a perfect ten jaw dropping goddess. Besides when you love someone they become a ten.

Whether you think I am good or not is subjective to you!

I'm a good Christian, good gentleman!

But that doesn't mean I'm good intact as a good Christian believe that everyone is bad and that we are all just trying to beat our human nature.

I mean I'm the pro major corporations, pro Government, pro law enforcement and pro charities kind of guy.

I always view human life as more important then anything else.

That means when animal testing can save human lives I don't mind it as long as it isn't cruel.
if a forest being chopped down provides farm land that will feed people who would otherwise die, screw the forest.

I'm a Utilitarian, anything done for the good of the greater amount of people is my thing.

So if something has the greater out come and benefits the larger amount of people I think it should happen.

So if taxes need to go up, then they go up! If we need to do somethings that suck but they will accomplish the greater good we do them!

So no hippies hate me, I'm a horrible person!

But if you value human life, honor and dignity you'll love me!

I believe in the spark!
I've personally had it happen, though I wouldn't call it love!

I really don't understand exactly how it works. You see someone and suddenly butterflies go up your stomach, you get nervous and you like freeze. Your amazed by the person and your like a deer caught in the head lights.

Problem.it doesn't make any sense because I've had it happen to girls I really didn't find attractive in the slightest. I've never talked to her before so it really doesn't make sense their. Then their are smoking hot chicks and I don't have the spark and sit their going what the heck!

Its very whack and I don't know if Ill ever understand it!

Also I've had hate at first site. Saw a chick and from the second I saw her felt "This is a bad person" and I to this day am pissed, I don't judge people. So I decided tl get to know her because I was really upset that I was judging someone without getting to know her. It was a very stupid decision we ended up in a rivalry that almost tore up a group of our friends.

Turns out she was essentially me, she was a leader, she always liked people turning to her for help and she liked always leading.

It became a competition she took control every chance she could and we got really intensely involved.

I remember being called by my church to volunteer and lead a group helping the disabled. I accepted I showed up and she had called me in sick and had hijacked my position!

It was a very dumb idea to ignore the spark. Its never steered me wrong. Every girl I've had the good spark with have been amazing women, everyone I had the bad spark with they weren't bad people we just were not compatible at all.

Then like 98% of woman I have no spark with, but that's perfectly fine!

Most people I talk to says the spark is from God!

It might be because I have had the spark for several girls who were in real trouble and when I got to know them I was able to help them..ones who were suicidal and others who were suffering from depression and others about to move and needed help moving..

All kinds of weird things when I listen to the spark!

Though I would say it isn't love! Love is eternal and is nurtured and grown not something that happens at first sight!

That is probably pheromones , outter appearance and a chemical release in the brain caused by external stimuli!

Wow Sue you've dated some scum bags lol, unfortunetly I really need to learn to lie it would really do me some good in relationships lol! A girl asked me once do you think that girls hot I was like "sure" she was super pissed. Another time a girl was complaining about being fat, she wasn't fat at all I told her "Your Skinner then my sister" my other female friend asked me to walk out of the room she was like "You just called your sister and her fat".

Its stupid I'm brutally honest. One girl was saying to me "Man my last scum bag boy friend watched porn isn't that sick" I was like "Man I used to watch porn" it did not end well!

I really need to learn to lie a bit lol! Unfortunetly I'm not that capable of it!

Anyways my advice dump his ***, he's not only cheating on you (Yes if your talking dirty and flirting with married women with any intent other then being nice your cheating). But he is helping promote cheating with those women.

Those women who are openly cheating on their husbands need to be put in their place, they are going to hurt their husbands greatly and a guy should see the damage he is doing.

I always wonder how a guy can date a girl who is cheating, how would he like it if some *** hole was dating his dream woman.

As a child of divorce it appals me that a guy can do that to another guy and let alone the woman.

Though if my wife cheated I would likely try to save the marriage. I'm way to forgiving and if I love girl I always am willing to help her. Of course I would have my limits to how much I'd take before a divorce was filed too lol.

But your not married and have absolutely no reason to save anything!

Ya sadly us good guys don't have much luck. Actually I know.some girls who like good guys, unfortunetly their all married. Seriously they started dating at like 14 and married their high school sweet hearts. Their all happily married it sucks for the good guys like me who missed the good girls in high school.

Now I resort to online hoping to find some left in my province sadly nope cant find any! Though I did find some great girls from Nigeria and the US and else where.

Sadly I'm looking for a real relationship one where I actually can date the girl. Long distance would work for me only if the relationship was pre established.

Though I notice that the majority of girls who are claiming they want a good guy, their all smoking hot and I even got told one was out of my league. She wanted her white knight the amazing Christian gentleman who had rock hard abs!

Sorry you won't find that! Their either married already or they know that girls will sleep with them and they often end up becoming players!

If you want a good guy your going to have to look at everything.

PS if your a smoking hot Christian girl and you think your settling if the guy isn't ripped. Sorry your not settling in fact the guy who doesn't have the six pack might be way out of your league from a personality and spiritual level.

I know a happily married girl who always talks about how she settled. lol the guy was ten times the person she was he was a virgin, he had the amazing career, he was loving and caring and he looked past her past.

If anything the guy settled lol, but he doesn't mind letting her believe she settled cuz he loves her.

A quick question for all you that are trying to understand this!

The US according to the last census is over 70% Christian, is that true? Are they all Christian? Now if you don't think that 70% of all the US KS Christian why do you assume all who claim to be Muslim are?

If you do think anyone who says their Christian is! What about the guy who ate gay people drinking their blood and eating their flesh? Now he's a Christian? Is a leader in Africa who killed thousands is he a Christian?

Is that sick freak pastor in the Southern states who sleeps with a women who was trafficked to the country who is a slave. Is that pastor who raped that poor innocent woman and did nothing to help her, is he a Christian?

If we start judging everyone who claims tl be Muslim as representing Islam you better be prepared to defend those who do horrific things and call themselves Christian.

Guess what the prostitutes in your city, half of them were kidnapped and forced into the trade.

I have a friend who heads up Not for Sale. Guess who rapes and victimizes more women then anywhere in North America? The Bible Belt!

A sex trafficking ring was busted in the south and it came out that several pastors a judge and police were actively raping those poor women.

Guess what this was occurring in a city that was considered a Bible church strong city.

In fact a women tried running but the churches turned her away because she was a prostitute. They called her horrible names and she was sent back to be raped again and again.

Now let me ask is that Christian?
If you think that's Christian it is sad!! That you would support raping an innocent woman constantly and then throwing her out of a church because you think your better then her.

Another fact the Bible Belt is the largest consumers of Pornography in the world, gun violence is extremely high in the Bible Belt.

In Africa pastors are sending missionaries to the Bible belt!
That's right missionaries are coming to the Bible belt!

In fact my church sent a team to the Bible belt tl reach out to the false Christians a while back too.
Why do you think we are sending missionaries to your Bible Belt?

Willing you appear to have a fairly narrow view. Your questions are Christian church, which Christian church? The United Church that preaches God is love and the Bible is only a guideline? Are you talking the Catholic church?

Then you ask Muslims, as if all of Islam is a single entity!
Some Muslims are horrible people stoning others for fun and to spread fear, they are tyrants.
But others who stone are doing so because they are following a text identical to our own!
Then their are other Muslims more liberal ones that have a different understanding of what the Quran is preaching!

You cant narrowly group all of them together and ask a question like that!

Its like if I said are all Black people not criminals?

Wait what?

That's not acceptable because its ignorant and uneducated, in the same way you can't group all believers of any faith together!

The Quran itself doesn't promote killing people for sport and the fun of it if that's what you wanted to know.

And our Christian faith is the entire Bible not part of it. If you aren't reading the entire thing and taking in its whole message it is easy to be manipulated!

Willing traditional war fare that is the case. But you aren't fighting a nation led by a leader you aren't fighting a unified military organization. You are fighting a group of extremists that actually believe it is the will of God to kill innocent men and women.

You kill their leader he is a martyr and thousands join up to support his memory. You kill the next guy and a dozen rise up to replace him. Kill them and another thousand pop up to replace him.

You cannot fight an extremist group that has no fear of death and no respect for human life by killing them!

As Christians that is why the Bible says love your enemies.

Yes if a guy is coming with a bomb on his chest to blow up a school shoot his butt. If a group is shooting up a church or genocidal ly attacking a town. Defend them!

But what the US has realized by now we cannot win a war against terrorism solely by military means. We need to win hearts and minds!

Which is exactly what the Bible preaches, using love compassion and forgiveness to win over our enemies. Using military force only as a last resort and in defence of those around us.

The best way aid describe Al-Qaeda its a Medusa. You cut off one head another two grow in its place within seconds. The only way to kill it is to kill the body!