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Topic: CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS
Precious-Man's photo
Fri 06/15/12 11:21 AM
WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?

lilott's photo
Fri 06/15/12 11:54 AM
Because they are stupid.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 06/15/12 12:11 PM
Never cheated, never been cheated on.
I might assume those who feel the need to cheat
are basically so insecure that they need
constant proof of their desirability.

galendgirl's photo
Fri 06/15/12 03:23 PM
Been cheated on...


If you are cheating, you aren't IN a relationship.

BettyB's photo
Fri 06/15/12 04:11 PM

WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?

I suppose every cheater has a different reason, at least in their own mind they do.

djkrisnka's photo
Sat 06/16/12 04:12 AM
Edited by djkrisnka on Sat 06/16/12 04:14 AM

WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


most likely cause their relationship has lost that spark,

alot of older women that are married will sleep around cause their husbands isn't pleasuring them enough "i don't know if i'm allowed to say this on here but if i'm not can a moderator edit this"


i'm 19 year's old and alot of you might say im not gonna take advice from someone who's only 19 but

if you're in a relationship/married make sure you're sex life is good

and when i say sex life i mean not that 30 seconds for you then you smoke a cig then pass out, but actually taking care of her needs so she is not out trying to find someone who will satisfy her needs.

and as a old saying: Ladys first "lady's first doesn't just mean being polite in public but in bed also."

so make sure you're relationship still has that spark and you're sex life is good and their shouldn't be any cheating issues, and while you're having sex make sure you communicate too make sure you like what you are doing as also that she is enjoying it too, don't just read this and say oh hes young he doesn't know what his talking about .

vivian2981's photo
Sat 06/16/12 06:09 AM


WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


most likely cause their relationship has lost that spark,

alot of older women that are married will sleep around cause their husbands isn't pleasuring them enough "i don't know if i'm allowed to say this on here but if i'm not can a moderator edit this"


i'm 19 year's old and alot of you might say im not gonna take advice from someone who's only 19 but

if you're in a relationship/married make sure you're sex life is good

and when i say sex life i mean not that 30 seconds for you then you smoke a cig then pass out, but actually taking care of her needs so she is not out trying to find someone who will satisfy her needs.

and as a old saying: Ladys first "lady's first doesn't just mean being polite in public but in bed also."

so make sure you're relationship still has that spark and you're sex life is good and their shouldn't be any cheating issues, and while you're having sex make sure you communicate too make sure you like what you are doing as also that she is enjoying it too, don't just read this and say oh hes young he doesn't know what his talking about .


For a 19 yr old you have some sense,,I have two grandsons your age...they amaze me at times...but my question is this..you mention 'older' women cheating..sweetie, any woman over 25 is 'older' to you..:wink:
Why didn't you mention men also? They are historically the 'cheaters'. But either sex will cheat.
People cheat for a variety of reasons, sex is only one of them...I have to agree with soufi on this...it's mostly about insecurities.

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 06/16/12 06:44 AM
Different reasons for different cheaters.

indianadave4's photo
Sat 06/16/12 06:17 PM
The age old assumption: men stray while women remain faithful.

According to The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.

The majority of married men have affairs with married women (near 90%). If a married man is straying it's highly likely it's with a married woman.

Oh, most marriage counseling sites also state that while sex happens in affairs it's not the major driving cause of an affair for either gender.

teadipper's photo
Sat 06/16/12 06:31 PM

The age old assumption: men stray while women remain faithful.

According to The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.

The majority of married men have affairs with married women (near 90%). If a married man is straying it's highly likely it's with a married woman.

Oh, most marriage counseling sites also state that while sex happens in affairs it's not the major driving cause of an affair for either gender.


Can you share a link to this article?

no photo
Sat 06/16/12 06:54 PM
I guess you have to ask that to someone who did cheat...I don´t know ´cause I never cheated on anyone ....
but you could ask that to my ex-boyfriend... he never answered that question to me.. and now I don´t even care. I agree with Soufie, insecurity, or this thing men and women have in their genes: it´s an animal instict to "have them all". (Guess I´m lacking in that gene.....)

Personally, I think cheating´s stupid and immature, if you want to be with someone else just break up with the person you´re with and go and have sex with who ever you want to, I mean, stay single, without any commitments and go to bed with anyone you want to.
In my country there´s a saying: "De la muerte y los cuernos nadie se salva" it means: nobody is free from dying or being cheated on (I know that in English it doesn´t make much sense :( but I think it´s true)


Citizen_Joe's photo
Sat 06/16/12 11:41 PM
All statistics aside, the women who cheated on me used drugs or went back on drugs. They already had a first love, drugs. For others, it could be an addiction to sex that no one person could ever fill. For my most recent situation, my daughter got cheated out of a mother and I've yet to be with anyone else.


IRL, it seems as though there is at least one woman taking an interest in me, but I'm more interested in how our kids get along, and even more importantly, observing of how she treats her kids. That last part is really important because if any relationship gets serious, she'll treat my kid exactly like she does hers. It took 3 years to find real love the last time and if it takes twice as long for a longer lasting love, I'd be content either way.

djkrisnka's photo
Sun 06/17/12 02:43 AM

All statistics aside, the women who cheated on me used drugs or went back on drugs. They already had a first love, drugs. For others, it could be an addiction to sex that no one person could ever fill. For my most recent situation, my daughter got cheated out of a mother and I've yet to be with anyone else.


IRL, it seems as though there is at least one woman taking an interest in me, but I'm more interested in how our kids get along, and even more importantly, observing of how she treats her kids. That last part is really important because if any relationship gets serious, she'll treat my kid exactly like she does hers. It took 3 years to find real love the last time and if it takes twice as long for a longer lasting love, I'd be content either way.

i'm sorry to hear that you where cheated on but you have a daughter relationships end daily for multiple reasons at least you can you got a daughter out of it that will forever love you.

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Sun 06/17/12 03:04 AM

WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


Because they want to have their cake and eat it!

indianadave4's photo
Sun 06/17/12 12:00 PM


The age old assumption: men stray while women remain faithful.

According to The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.

The majority of married men have affairs with married women (near 90%). If a married man is straying it's highly likely it's with a married woman.

Oh, most marriage counseling sites also state that while sex happens in affairs it's not the major driving cause of an affair for either gender.


Can you share a link to this article?



https://surviveinfidelityhq.com/men-women-emotional-affairs/

indianadave4's photo
Sun 06/17/12 12:01 PM


WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


Because they want to have their cake and eat it!


Because they feel emotionally let down by their partner.

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Sun 06/17/12 12:15 PM



WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


Because they want to have their cake and eat it!


Because they feel emotionally let down by their partner.


If this is the case, they don't need to be in the relationship.

ErinxCx's photo
Mon 06/18/12 08:38 AM
I've been told before that when you cheat its because of insecurities or it's because they're not happy in the relationship. Maybe you're not giving them something that they secretly want. So they feel the need to go seek it elsewhere.

Honestly though, who knows why cheaters cheat. It's for many different reasons. Not just one in particular. Some people cheat just because they think they can get away with it.

no photo
Mon 06/18/12 12:27 PM
Well said!

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Mon 06/18/12 12:33 PM


WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?


most likely cause their relationship has lost that spark,

alot of older women that are married will sleep around cause their husbands isn't pleasuring them enough "i don't know if i'm allowed to say this on here but if i'm not can a moderator edit this"


i'm 19 year's old and alot of you might say im not gonna take advice from someone who's only 19 but

if you're in a relationship/married make sure you're sex life is good

and when i say sex life i mean not that 30 seconds for you then you smoke a cig then pass out, but actually taking care of her needs so she is not out trying to find someone who will satisfy her needs.

and as a old saying: Ladys first "lady's first doesn't just mean being polite in public but in bed also."

so make sure you're relationship still has that spark and you're sex life is good and their shouldn't be any cheating issues, and while you're having sex make sure you communicate too make sure you like what you are doing as also that she is enjoying it too, don't just read this and say oh hes young he doesn't know what his talking about .
Well said!:banana:

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