Topic: CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS
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Mon 06/18/12 12:34 PM
nah we not born that way sometimes its maybe your lover aint givin you much love like he/her must.4 man are dogs and 2 b perfectly honest sometime thing we do we dont knw y we do em but we do anyway.gues therez jus time 4 evrytin

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Mon 06/18/12 12:51 PM
I said it before, and I'll say it again...I blame those damn Teletubbies.

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Mon 06/18/12 12:55 PM
I believe it's mainly because they're selfish and/or too chicken-*hit to risk loosig what they have. Some use the excuse they don't want to break-up the family. But here are some other reasons: their partners don't put out as much as they'd like or aren't good enough in bed, lost lost attraction, ego booster, the thrill, partner cheated 1st, or no longer in love.

I say, suck it up and get a divorce rather than hurt the ones who love you!

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Mon 06/18/12 12:59 PM

I believe it's mainly because they're selfish and/or too chicken-*hit to risk loosig what they have. Some use the excuse they don't want to break-up the family. But here are some other reasons: their partners don't put out as much as they'd like or aren't good enough in bed, lost lost attraction, ego booster, the thrill, partner cheated 1st, or no longer in love.

I say, suck it up and get a divorce rather than hurt the ones who love you!


Lot of people are selfish. The main reason why they don't do it is one lame excuse after another. Ultimately there are a lot of cowards out there. And the whores they cheat with deserve a special place in hell.

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Mon 06/18/12 01:12 PM


I believe it's mainly because they're selfish and/or too chicken-*hit to risk loosig what they have. Some use the excuse they don't want to break-up the family. But here are some other reasons: their partners don't put out as much as they'd like or aren't good enough in bed, lost lost attraction, ego booster, the thrill, partner cheated 1st, or no longer in love.

I say, suck it up and get a divorce rather than hurt the ones who love you!


Lot of people are selfish. The main reason why they don't do it is one lame excuse after another. Ultimately there are a lot of cowards out there. And the whores they cheat with deserve a special place in hell.
I agree!

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Mon 06/18/12 04:11 PM
I agree with Erin, Caliente and Mariah. You all have a good point there

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Mon 06/18/12 04:28 PM
Because people are shallow and closed minded.

One reason I intend to remain a virgin till marriage, my relationship will not be based on sex but actual emotion and love.

See I've been in church leadership for years. We have adulterous relationships coming unalloyed the time. My pastor councils couples all the time and I've seen relationships fall apart all the time.

Why? Because the relationship is built around sex! Sex is very important to the survival of a relationship in the long run but cannot be everything.

If we are thinking with our ***** when we give you a ring were going to be thinking with our ***** when we leave you for the next girl that makes it hard.

You cant seriously expect a guy who is with you only because you **** his brains out is going to stay with you when he gets bored and sees the next girl! Sex clouds judgement and makes people think they love each other when they don't.

I see it all the time.

The guys like I don't love her anymore. Umm then you never did!

Their isn't one person that I genuinely loved (more then Christian love) not one that I don't still care about, maybe to an lesser extent then I once did but if you genuinely love someone it doesn't just go away.

The guys coming in say I'm bored she doesn't turn me on anymore. She's their every day it was so much better when we were dating.

Or the friend he's a player who thinks he's looking for love.

He's a decent guy but every time he finds a girl he cares about he bangs her and then well its over within weeks. Because he didn't love her he lusted over her he was only after sex.

He complains all the time "I cant find a girl every time I think I've found the one I fall out of love with her".


I know girls same thing!

People need to stop putting all the emphasis on sex. Because if sex is the cornerstone of your relationship it will crumble the second something happens.

Sex is the glue that helps hold a healthy relationship together but it isn't the most important thing. If it is then you shouldn't be in the relationship!

I'm not dumb enough to go into a relationship where sex is going to be the only thing holding it together. To avoid that I'm.simply going to abstain if the girl.loves me enough to marry me without sex and I love her enough to commit without sex. Then it can last!

I've seen guys marry a women after a car accident paralyzes her, why? Because he fell in love with her not her *****. He fell in.love with her.

I've seen a girl marry a soldier who was burnt from head to toe, why? Because they loved each other.

I know a women who married a guy after MS took his body out!

These relationships wouldn't be possible if they were built on sex.

Love is the only thing that will bind a relationship together. Only genuine emotion and not just sexual attraction. Of course I still see sex as extremely important and physical attraction I have a policy using the objectifying and offensive out of ten scale a girl needs to be a five for me to ask her out!

That simply means I have to be at least slightly attracted to her! But If she's an amazing women I'd much rather date her then a perfect ten jaw dropping goddess. Besides when you love someone they become a ten.

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Mon 06/18/12 04:41 PM
Oh last part. One last thing that the church hears all the time is after 15 years of one position the guy or girl gets tired. Now.my church personally doesn't believe in anal or oral etc..etc... but really maybe you should spice it up a bit after a few years lol. Maybe even after a few times. I mean theirs nothing wrong with being adventurous and open minded after your married lol go at er!!!!

I just know we hear that complaint often too. Usually the girl or guy refuses to try something new.

Of course the church doesn't promote anything kinky etc..etc..

But I do know that secular councillors talk about that stuff helping and I can definitely see how it would help psychologically.

But again sex shouldn't be the cornerstone of a relationship it should be their for the enjoyment of a couple and help keep them together not to get them together in the first place!

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Mon 06/18/12 04:45 PM
Just realized I'm not against any kind of sex between married consenting adults. I only said that is what my church advises. If your married and love each other do what ever you want if you both consent then let er rip lol.

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Tue 06/19/12 05:16 PM
I agree with you Joel!!!

People think that sex is everything nowadays, and it´s obviously what they sell to us in the media.It is what sells and most people buy it. It´s sad but true... once a man/woman gets bored, they´ll move on to another thing, the next person who turns her/him on

I agree with spicing it a little bit, if you´re adults and with both consent. But I´m against the idea of "spicing it" just to prevent him/her from ending the relationship...

I just agree with Joel
that´d all
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Wed 06/20/12 08:56 PM


I believe it's mainly because they're selfish and/or too chicken-*hit to risk loosig what they have. Some use the excuse they don't want to break-up the family. But here are some other reasons: their partners don't put out as much as they'd like or aren't good enough in bed, lost lost attraction, ego booster, the thrill, partner cheated 1st, or no longer in love.

I say, suck it up and get a divorce rather than hurt the ones who love you!


Lot of people are selfish. The main reason why they don't do it is one lame excuse after another. Ultimately there are a lot of cowards out there. And the whores they cheat with deserve a special place in hell.
I live close to Hell does that countlaugh laugh laugh

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Wed 06/20/12 10:41 PM



Lot of people are selfish. The main reason why they don't do it is one lame excuse after another. Ultimately there are a lot of cowards out there. And the whores they cheat with deserve a special place in hell.
I live close to Hell does that countlaugh laugh laugh


Then we are neighbors! pitchfork

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Wed 06/20/12 11:47 PM
I think cheaters cheat for mainly two reasons. First, they are selfish. They put their own desires above their commitment and loyalty to their partner. Secondly, I think society as a whole has become too enamored with instant gratification. Satisfaction is found in what feels good in the moment, and people always seem to want more than they have instead of being happy with what they already possess. They risk losing someone they love for a night or two of strange...just doesn't make any sense to me at all.

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Thu 06/21/12 02:06 AM
because they got tired of each other.

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Thu 06/21/12 03:23 AM
Been cheated on. Even had her try her luck with more than one guy right in front of me. I think some people are just too selfish to care whether or not their actions affect others.

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Thu 06/21/12 03:39 AM
Some people cheat because of LUST.

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Thu 06/21/12 03:58 AM
because they didn`t study what relationship subject is all about....

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Thu 06/21/12 05:35 AM
You know, this question is asked over and over, I'm more curious as to why people stay when they've been cheated on?

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Thu 06/21/12 05:38 AM
if they cheated each other better way break up

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Thu 06/21/12 06:24 AM

if they cheated each other better way break up


yeah,that's mature, I have a good idea! How about you just break up?