I haven't forgot any lesson's I've learned. I am not always trusting, as it comes in time and with actions. I am smarter than before those experiences.

I'm not scared to let someone go through my stuff as I've been in long term relationships and married as well. Ask and you shall receive in that case. If its fun to go through others stuff, go to garage sales or out to the trash bins on wednesdays, get a national enquirer or something else to focus on....lol

I do understand that Men and Women can be scary for many reasons. I wouldn't live with them or get too involved if I didn't feel we had trust in the first place. I just don't automatically put them into those categories without reason. So it is always a risk, letting someone get close period. I do observe, pay attention, communicate and such, as to get to know the woman I'm investing time with. Lets just say that with all words said, some may be read into the wrong way, dissected and misconstrued. If I have to justify each thought, word or occurrence in my general communications because enquiring minds want to know, that spells Trouble. If a woman feels the need to keep me within the gates of all her personal beliefs or boundaries, Im not for her. I won't ever walk on eggshells again.

No privacy at all in an intimate relationship?
So it's ok If I barge into the bathroom while your doing your business?
or how about sniffing or testing your panties frequently?
Putting a recorder somewhere hidden, to catch your conversations with your friends or Mother? Following you around, when you leave?

You see, it starts there and can go further for those who may feel that need. I do understand your feelings and justification.

No bueno for me.

I agreed with them, so here's my take on it.

I have definitely been betrayed, but I do not, transfer that to another individual. Each person deserves the chance to earn my trust, though their words matching their actions. I am big on that idea. Yes I can be skeptical about certain actions or track records that some bring to the table. I judge each person separately, not lump them into my issues of not trusting. I go with my gut instinct about people and I observe them without judging, unless something I perceive needs to be brought up.

If someone was needing something from any of those "places", they should ask and I would be more than happy to show or let them look through it if need be, as I wouldn't be hiding anything. If something seems shady, then ask about it. If someone needed to snoop, then I would consider them not trusting me, and a breakdown is already on its way is it not? Someone who would snoop would set me off thinking, they are a control freak, paranoid and possibly very insecure. I am very independent and don't want or need someone with those temperaments, nor do I want to have to be looking over my shoulder at them. If I want that type of excitement, I'll go to the amusement park and ride the roller coasters there...

Example: If I have a few friends who send picts of funny, stupid shyte sometimes and I surely don't want to be grilled about the findings of this non-issue stuff. "They" shouldn't have been into in the first place, at least without asking, imo.