I will never be in a relationship where he is so jealous and doesn't
trust me enough to have male friends. Yes, I have one in particular
that I'm attracted to, not where I live. But it wouldn't matter if he
were. If I'm in a relationship, I devote myself to him and don't cheat
no matter how tempted. My partner would no that about me and should
trust me unless I give him reason not to. And I'd give him mutual trust
or I wouldn't be with him.

LOL, as long as you are careful there isn't one.

Punctual gals don't want to be kept waiting. I get PO'd if a guy isn't
there on time within a few minutes. Shows a lack of respect. A guy
only stands me up once too, then I move on. The wildest guy I know, is
also the nicest guy I know. Nice guys don't always finish last, except
in high school.

Yep the best one is in VA, the other in OR. I'm in KS Right in the
middle. LOL

I haven't been to Church for years but I do know this one. LOL
The fish symbol comes from Rome, it was illigal to be a Christian and
they were persecuted. The local Christians had to have symbols or their
faith so they could recognize each other. The fish was one of the main
ones, I think because Jesus was a fisherman.

Micheal, if all the women you meet are only out for a bad boy, or money,
you are meeting the wrong women. I know there are gold diggers, but we
aren't all that way. I never ask if he has money, and don't care
whether he does, and many more of us are like that then not. You are
either going to the wrong places, or looking at the wrong type of woman.

I completely aggree with Netuserella. You can't force it to happen. And
when you find her might be a inconvienent time for you when you don't
think you're ready or involved with someone else. But we can't choose
when we bump into the right one. There is always a reason for it. They
may be a season in your life that's meant to teach you something, or
someone to get you through. Or they could be your "Soul Mate" that you
are destined for. Sometimes it takes patience too. I know a couple
finally getting married after 9 yrs of best friendship. He was a 49yr
old bachelor, and it took years before they admitted to each other that
they were right for each other. Persistance can pay off.

King, I can tell you how to get every woman I know to trust you.
It's called emotional support. Whenever she needs someone and is at the
end of her rope, you are always there and available. Drop everything if
you have to, (If you love her or think you might). Tell her to call you
24/7 if she needs you, and mean it. You can't believe how having
someone you can call makes you alright and not need to. Never be too
busy to talk or at least give her another time to call if you can't.
And SWP00's right, be honest. Be brutally frank if you have to, but be
an open book and never lie to her. You can say "Don't ask if you don't
want the answer" but if she does, tell her.
My best friend is such a man, and I trust him with my life and more than
I ever have another human being. I'd jump off a bldg if he ask, knowing
full well he would protect me and never allow me to be hurt.
If you get a woman to trust you like that you'll be able to ask the
world of her and she'll happily go along. But just remember, once that
trust is broken it may never be regained. So once you've gained it,
treat her trust of you as sacred.

Myspace. lol
Failing that, I've heard grocery stores to pick up women. To find men
I'm not sure. I usually talk to them online before we date.
But I concure, there has to be someplace better than Ks for meeting
guys.

Very interesting. The guys all say yes, the women all say no. LOL Of
course, every guy wants a harem. Would you be as willing if it were 2
guys instead of two women?
Yes, I would do it for, and with the right partner. Bringing others
into sex where you are vulnerable or in bondage requires a great deal of
trust. Mainly that your main partner can control the situation and keep
you both phyically safe, mentally safe and safe from STDs.
It wouldn't ever be my first choice, especially with a woman,that
wouldn't do a thing for me. But if I made my partner happy, and I loved
him I would try it. Matter of fact there are only 3 things off limits,
I'll let you wonder what. <Wink> But they are off limits for the man I
trust most in the world too.

Good guys do finish last, In High School. But I've found that as a
woman matures she comes to appreciate men that are "Nice Guys". There
is a certain strength in that. Think about it. "Tom Selleck, Harrison
Ford, Kevin Costner, Ty Pennington and many so called hollywood heart
throbs are generally nice guys in real life and that is half of what
makes them sexy. So guys, just keep on being nice, it will pay off.

ShagnaC
I totally disagree with you that you can't love someone you've never met
in person or know them that well. It may be rare, but people do meet
online and fall in love before they meet, and some of them even marry.
In a way it's even preferable. This way you fall in love with their
personality and soul not their looks. There are places to check out
that they are who they say. You catch the good and bad moods, just like
in person. And if you chat 500+hrs and talk on the phone 200+ hrs, you
have a pretty good idea what they think about everything. You can't talk
that much and keep up a pretense of acting. And if you can, you can in
person too. It's a great way to meet like minded people that are far
away, and if there is enough interest, it's worth one of you traveling
to meet.

Being friends first is great, as long as you don't get into the "just
friends" trap. Hey guys, how many of you have started as friends, then
became lovers and partners? Or instead, started as lovers, became
friends, then partners? Just curious. It's been my experience that
once a guy thinks of you as a friend, the lust goes away, and so does
the chance for more. Be honest, I'd like to know if you guys think that
is generally the case?

I met a guy randomly on Myspace and we've been friends talking email,
chat and voice for 8 mo. I know he's the one, but he's a committment
freak (1300mi away) and I need to convince him that I am. He's there
for me 24/7 in a crisis, and boy do I have alot of those. He's an
e-Harmony 99% match too. LOL He was totally unexpected, not my regular
type, and not like any man I've ever known. So don't close doors to
possible relationships until you know the person.

#1 No
#2 Yes
#3 Maybe
#4 Hell yeah, take a bullet, walk thru fire, whatever

The greater danger, the greater trust required. But if I truely trust
and love him, I'd do anything he wanted pretty much without question, as
long as I knew and accepted his boundries ahead of time. It should
always be up for negotiation, and it take two to say yes, one to say no.

I guess I'm one of the more open women too. You can always say, I don't
want to answer that, or change the subject. But don't say "ask me
anything" then get offended. And your muff answer didn't shock or
offend me, I doubt if you could say much that could. My best friend is
extremely kinky, and also open about sex. LOL

You get to know people by talking to them, first here, then when
comfortable by voice, then if you're lucky and not 1300mi away by
meeting them. Get a feeling for what she's comfortable with, then ask if
it's ok to ask measurements, talk sex and such.