I don't think so. I believe that confidence and a good smile and relaxing manner are most important. My only issue is that I have to get past "THE HAND!". lol I hate that hand!

"Yes baby, I'm here" (in falsetto, crackly voice)..."Come on in!".

You're mean. mmmmm..I love it! lol

I'm no Tom Cruise or (your favorite andsome hunk here) but my friends, every one, wonder how a little smart ass Mr Know-It-All like me has the luck to have had, and still be loved by, such beautiful, intelligent and strong women as I have. The ones your jaw drops at.

I smile and show a little confidence...and talk to the ones that I'm interested in. The "un-approachable" ones are usually the ones that really want someone to not be scared to apply (within). Then treat them like women, not belongings (well OK, some belonged to me), or breakable trinkets... and just be a good guy.

Being the best f**K in the world helps too.

Lex, You need to take a weekend off, come visit my cheesy little town, and let me take you out and reintroduce you to life and how to meet people that are interesting. Face to face is SO much easier. 5 seconds tells you if they're even remotely interested withou having to tell your life story. Evidence: I myself, jerk that I appear to be on here, meet a lot of fantastic people that I just start cnversations with at spot a on avenue B.

Not that I often try to further reltionships (my own psychological issue to bear), but surely an intelligent, somewhat famous (infamous) person such as yourself should be doing great in the interpersonal relationship department. May I suggest the library? College library?

I ain't feeling sorry for ya! lol

be seeing ya. lol

Ahhhh...one who, if they know this, must be as freaky as me!
(I can make 64 work in mine, but only 8.6 oz of oil on my rubber sheet)

Dang it. The Dixie Chicks just popped into my head!!!

I've lived in Manhattan, NYC and other big cities. I loved it..for a while, until I needed some space. I lived with my ex in my REMOTE and very isolated cabin in the country. Loved it...for a while, until I needed some activities.

I like to live in a house in the country NEAR the big city and all it offers.

You reading this Tom? I'll buy it, rent it...whatever. lol

OK

I thought almost exactly the same thing my friend. I knew that I had friends but I seldom, if ever, called them or visited. And when they call I just usually cut it short. I basically imposed that lonliness on myself without even defining it as such. Friends can cause you some heartache and trouble...but it's worth it I think.

I had a MAJOR heart attack last Sunday and I told the EMS guys that if they were going to like, jam a needle in my heart, to go ahead and let me die. I didn't care. And I REALLY didn't. But they worked hard on me and, obviously, I lived. That even though the head of cardiology said that he had never ever seen anyone survive the two 100% and 2 90% blockages that I had in my main coronary arteries.

Since then, so many people that I had even forgotten were my friends have come by, called me, sent me cards..and one of my less sensitive biker friends brought me a gun cleaning kit (wire brushes on rods) to help me keep my arteries scrubbed out. Bastard! lol

I meet a LOT of people out ad about every day and make a lot f aquaintances that I never call back or see again. But after this, I believe I'm going to start calling, and just telling people that I'd like to get together again. Most are just like me...closed in that recursive loop of daily life and just not breaking the routine, and would love to have a new friend. So think of it like this, the more people you befriend, the more friends you have. I'm going to be trying to get all I can..even if it means all those computers, cars and appliances to fix for free. It's worth it. :)

Theres a certain something to be said for human contact too. Who doesn't feel the need to hug someone that we havn't seen in years or who just came from a war zone? We can SAY all we like to someone and hear all we like, but human contact is a primary need.

I have said this before, but not quite so nicely as you have.
I think that theres something to be said for online friends that do not have the capability to intrude on you at a bad time, do not need to be rescued off the road in the middle of the night, etc. Ones that you can banter with on your own terms. Of course.

While people on here are "real people", we are not exposed to them except when they feel like it. We cannot tell how they react to circumstances, if they're smiling or scowling (in spite of the litle emotes) or even if they are who/what they say. It's SAFE to have friends here but I suspect that those that spend th majority of their time online and with virtual friends have some issues. Could be confidence, or maybe just circumstances that prevet them from being out and about. Hard to tell. I know that of the 7 or 8 people I've met from online, 2 were genuine. One lived with me for 4 years. One, I visited with 4 minutes. My good friend married a girl that he met here and is, by his own reports and attitude, VERY happy. You just can't tell.

Its good to get outside and do DIFFERENT things even if you do have friends on here. And a look ,smile, and short conversation in line at the grocery store more often is a better indicator if you truly like someone than what we choose to tell about ourselves behind this sheild.


Damn I talk too much. Someone tell me to can it!!

Wow. I really don't even know what that is. And it doesn't bother me a bit. TV sucks, IMHO.

Got a honeybun and McDonalds coffee.
I hate being a bachelor!

Long hair and beards. Still got that Snidley Whiplash fear going especially in small towns. The "church ladies" braved my house for coffee a time or two on my farm in Texas (TINY community) but only in herds.

Brother, in this world today, that little girl could have spun around and put a burst from an AK into you, small town or not. You can't ever tell who the bad guys are like you can in the movies.

I've lived in NYC, San Fran, Seattle, Houston, Dallas, Phoenix and...damn I hate to admit this....Lincoln Park New Jersey, and here in Shreves-freakin-Port, Louisiana. And I've lived on my farm in the middle of nowhere Texas on the lake over 7 miles from the NEAREST neighbor. Of all those places, Shreveport has the second highest crime rate in the US. I've been shot here...more than one time, run over, had two guys try to invade my home, had my car broken into....and I have to be armed and look a little dangerous just to keep the hoodlums at bay. Hard to tell who they are. Its a trade off. Look innocent and like food, or look (and be) like it would be a mistake to f**k with you. Your call.

Its a far distant world from when I came up and we really did leave our doors unlocked. Sad too.

Probably help you live a lot longer, not just not kill you. EMR coming off em is like a brain cancer gun, no matter what the industry tells you.

Anyone got a this is your brain on cell phone smiley?

I've lived in Houston a few times too. Just long enough to remember how bad it is, then leave. HATE IT! lol

Hill Country, Hippie Hollow, Armadillo World headquarters, Heart of Texas Music... smokin weed right in front of cops. lol I still visit Austin from time to time and may move back there. May not. But hey, still one of the most fun, easy going, nicest towns in the US.

Sorry for the off topic. Every time I see the word Austin, I go off. lol

The other white meat.

Austin Rocks One of my favorite towns.

I had a radio-telephone in a freaking Ford Pinto in 1977. Got the first car phone ever put ut when only the president of Cellunet ad I had it, moved up to the Motorola Brick when it came out. Still have a cell phone but I NEVER call anyone. My friends think I'm dead. (No PatsFan..not wish..THINK lol) When people call me it goes something like this "Hello".."Yes".."No".."Bye". If Im busy or with company, dont answer it. It takes messages. COOL!

But I always gotta have one. Not the latest or greatest and I dont text, have tones, etc. Just ringy ding ding hello and goodbye.