If you want these attributes, you have to be willing give them.

The "dating" game tends to make us feel pressured to be more than we are, especially if the pressure of physical attraction is too excessive.

For this reason, try not to lead with physical sexuality, instead use humor, look for things you identify with.

Those men (and women) exist, they just don't advertise it, it's not their nature, just keep active, one day you might just get a message from one after he saw something you said that he appreciated.

Life is full of small wonders and hidden beauty, like an intrepid drive up the kancamagus highway during Autumn Foliage, maybe a stop at some newly discovered hole in the wall for lunch, maybe a visit to the old man on the mountain

This experience is enhanced when done with someone that appreciates it the way you do.

I see humor that so many here are defining how and when it's going to happen.

Good luck with that, reality, it's going to happen when it happens, you're not going to define it - and when it does, don't try, trust me, let it be.

First and foremost, condolences - Lost my wife after 17 years together.

She happened to be 10 years younger, while age was irrelevant for us, it's now a matter of probability, there's just a greater probability someone my age is going to be more compatible.

That aside -

The whole premise of "mid-life crisis" baffles me, men my age intentionally reverting back to an age/lifestyle that experience should long since left a healthy sense of fear of.

Being with a woman solely based on physical attraction, to me, is terrifying, so much so that just talking to a woman who overplays her attractiveness makes me feel depressed.

Lara Croft??

You've obviously and completely misunderstood the context of my post, anyone knows it would be Alice from resident evil, I mean, really...

Depth

(yes, I had to look at a guys profile for this)

"You see there is only one constant. One universal. It is the only real truth. Causality. Action, reaction. Cause and effect."

- Merovingian

Oh, it gets worse, she's actually even more attractive as a person, it's ...just ...wrong!!

Though, she does keep hitting for $500....

Yes, sigh, you're right ..it's a tough job, but someone's gotta...

Just days ago I was going to leave, I was only vaguely aware of this forum until a friend convinced me to take a peek.

Since, I see huge potential here, both for meeting, but also sharing in the throes of singles life...

Be yourself, regardless, in the end those around you will have come to appreciate you for you.

Absolutely nothing compares to listening to a kind, compassionate person talk about helping others, painful lessons have taught me just how precious that is.

DA, I love getting to know you, even when you think you're boring, you're not, you're amazing.

Women with a passion to care for young children is my Achilles', I melt, helplessly...

A little steep on the approach, about to hit the runway too hard, pull up!...puulll uppp!!!!

Once had a room mate when I was in my 20's, as soon as he'd remove his shoes it was evident something Supernatural was afoot.

Dr. Scholl's to the rescue!

Off the beaten path, I listen to ambient/soundscape music, it relaxes, soothes and removes you to other places, this is one of many artists I listen to - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9U0j2fU2Bc

This comes with the prerequisite that one actually does focus at work to begin with.

Yeah, I know right, it's, like, very misrepresentational, n' stuff...

You meet a gal here and her face is actually prettier than her photo??

I'm not kidding this is a conundrum, a serious problem!!..Heeelllppp!