Sweetie, I am a woman. I know why women wont have sex with their husbands. Trust me, if he was treating her like a queen she would not be withdrawing. Maybe she's only there for money. But one thing I know for sure... She should be informed that her husband is having an affair. As a matter of fact he should be the one telling her. it is obvious he is tricking this other poor woman into believing that his wife is such a bad person so that she will keep giving him what he wants and waste her life away waiting for him. Why did he not divorce this supposed ' horrible wife ' he has? why does he want to wait 3 months?

Double up or quit Double stakes or split

I've been on both ends but separated with the mother or my child
living separate but still wanting her bad, even no I meet someone
that was, younger funner thinner prettier 100 times better in bed
but same thing when I got in her company again she would shut
me out fake NOT having an orgasms then say "we better not???
I was propriety O and she slept with her back to me for 18 months on and off
when we lived together but as soon as I saw the other one again,
and seen how happy she was to see me when I got back, I was sold
and never looked back.
initially a wanted the mean one because she pushed me away, and that
makes us want, its the rejection that draws you back.

I think his situation have run its course, and its just the draw of rejection
that's drawing him back, but if you could see him soon, he will know instantly
but if he's still reluctant then its became he's feeling your there anyways.
and then I would tend to dout how hard done by he is.
I think he's telling the truth, & I would bet my bottom $ it won't improve.
think if he was lying he would have said he hates her, but he's got to "play to
game" for money? kids? ect..

sounds like you guys are frends and have some mutual respect,
if that's truly his situation and I were him I'd go with you if you respected me,
sex was good you are cuddly/affectionate, love & friendship, then I'd be there in
a heart beat, I dont like been taken for granted,
on the back Burner, thats disrespectful of her not to
discuss the sexual breakdown. I'm sure she says "don't do that in the bed!
go to the bathroom or downstairs & do that" then waits 5 minutes then
comes over and kicks the door and calls him names.

It doesn't mean the guys going to ever cheat or lie
some relationships can bring out the worst in one another
you two my be each others "one"

that's the gamble, every relationship a gamble, Im sure he's is just seeking happiness
but his emotions are unbalanced from the rejection, he's in denial

I allso had a two year affair with one that was in a 16 year abusive relationship
then she moved in with my, for three months, that probably wasn't the best, but
it helped me get over my wife from 5 years earlier.

Take that time and see IF you still feel the way you
do. If he does leave his wife are you worried that he
might cheat on you the way he did on her? I must say,
it does not always go that way but it could.
Do you trust him? If there is no trust in a relationship,
then that relationship is not going to last. You have
to do what your heart tells you to do. I really hope
that you have NO contact with him and let him decide
what he wants. I know it is hard on you and you might
be depressed, but it will be worth it in the end.
The truth will come out if he loves you or not! I only
wish you the best I think you know this. Take this time
to breath and IF he does get a hold of you...do NOT
answer him.
Good luck girly!!!!

I thought everyone knew that when a woman does not want to have intimacy with her husband it is obviously something about the way he is treating her that is causing her to withdraw. This is female psychology 101. he probably cheated on her before and you are being tricked into giving him what he can't get from his own wife! Don't be a fool and look for a single man! There are plenty of fish in the sea.....now go find one.

I could not find any statistics stating that MOST women refuse to have sex with their husbands.

Regardless of that, I don't understand how someone discovers that a married man is the best sex they ever had. How do you love someone who cheats on his wife? Their sex issue is not for you to understand...it's between the two of them alone. Adding a third party is NEVER going to help unless the third party is a councilor trained for couples therapy.

I'm assuming you are not a couples councilor.

That's my opinion. Sadly, it's probably not a very popular one these days.

I have to agree with him...if he is in a sexless
marriage and they are not happy, you should ask
him to meet some of his friends. If he says that
he can't let you do that, then you know he is a
liar. Do you know where he lives? Do you know his
home number? If you were to call him and tell him
that you needed him, would he come and be with you?
Is everything on his terms? Do you only meet him
when he is available? Do you ever get to spend the
holidays with him? Sorry I am asking so many questions
but I just wanted you to think. If most of your answers
are NO, then you really need to stop and do a lot of
thinking.

I have to agree with him...if he is in a sexless
marriage and they are not happy, you should ask
him to meet some of his friends. If he says that
he can't let you do that, then you know he is a
liar. Do you know where he lives? Do you know his
home number? If you were to call him and tell him
that you needed him, would he come and be with you?
Is everything on his terms? Do you only meet him
when he is available? Do you ever get to spend the
holidays with him? Sorry I am asking so many questions
but I just wanted you to think. If most of your answers
are NO, then you really need to stop and do a lot of
thinking.

A little boy has a toy. He has loved it for years had good times with it. But he's getting bored with it so he puts it up on a shelf where no one else can enjoy it and goes and finds a new toy. He plays with the new toy until it breaks and then goes back to his ol favorite.

Hi friends.
I had a relationship with a married person. We started it with sex relationship.On the way we fell in love.We had a good physical and emotional relationship. Later it is make us very difficult and hurt. I love him very much and he too.This is the best relationship and sex I ever had. I realized this would not working for me and I told him I cannot have this relationship anymore.

This is his story. He has been married 25 years. His wife doesn't interest in sex. He has high sex drive. He is not happy with his marriage. He tried to help her asking what is wrong with her and how can help her. But she refusing talk about that and going doctor therapist and counselling.He is so frustrated with his marriage life. She is not a cuddle and romantic person. She is busy with her pets and friends. No time for her husband. His kids married live on their own.

My problem is I have no any connection with him now. But he is asking time. He want to workout things with his wife. If she is not corporate with him, He wants to leave her. Life is too short. I want to enjoy my life.

I would like to know,what should I do.I am heartbroken. I want to move on. I feel bad to hurt him even though it is hurt me. I loved him still do very madly. He is a great lover, he knows how to turn on women.Very kind respectful person. I cannot believe how is she (wife)refuse this wonderful husband. Please help me what should I do.Please don't criticize. I value your kind feedback.Good advise preffred.
Thanks

The first thing I notice on someone is the eyes.
I love someone who has a good personality, and who
treat others well.
They have to be honest, kind, loyal, trustworthy,
caring. They must have a good heart, I go for the
inside not the outside because looks fade..but the
inside can always keep growing.

NO SEX
NO RELATIONSHIP !

It depends on why are we not having sex if we are in a
relationship? If it is a religious reason or we both have
agreed to wait until we are married, then yes I can wait
and I would have no problem with it.
Sex does not make a relationship, it just enhances it.
I know that when I start dating someone, I give myself a
certain amount of time before I even consider sleeping with
them. To me, if you sleep with someone right away..you become
confused. Sex boggles your mind and you are not sure if you like
them for the sex or if you like them for other reasons. So I
honestly hold off on the sex for awhile.
If you hold off then you also find out IF that person likes you
for you or were they just out for sex. IF they decide to wait
and they keep coming around, then you know they must like you
and it has nothing to do with sex.
I am like everyone else, I like sex but I want to make sure
that I am with the right person!

not sure of the question.

sex is awesome. sex is not love.

MOST women refuse sex with their husbands? Are you sure about that?


Yes, the wrong treatments for any issue rarely work. I don't know any woman who feels cherished by the man she loves who can not get in the mood. A pill will not make you feel cherished. Neither will a councilor...well not the ones who adhere to any professional ethical standard, that is.