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 You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way... Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya!  Yes, it's negative. I guess its an East Coast thing.... the NY Metro area seems to be pretty ok with my "attitude" as you folks have called it... ...but I'm still not getting the negative. It makes sense. Period. If sensibility and logic is negative then wtf is this world coming to NOW?!?! I'm about as east coast as you can be. Being blunt, direct, and having preferences are good. You have stepped beyond that into negativity. You know the cliche about not being able to see the forest from trees? Well there ya go... Yeah Mitch! I was hoping some fellow "east coast" people would defend themselves. Still trying to figure out who "Mitch" is, as I haven't noticed any folks from the NY Metro area on this thread.... so WHO's defending WHAT? |
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Anybody that likes the Pink Panther can't be all that bad. You have just been redeemed.  awww Gee.. thanks ;) ~ he is only the COOLEST cat EVER ;) lol |
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So I feel the need to vent.... I know what I want, and even more so I know what I DON'T want. It is a fact that no matter how much someone may stimulate you mentally and emotionally, if there is a 'defect' in the chemical attraction of any kind, eventually THAT will be the ruin of all that seems good. Just like that of a great passionate relationship that is solely based on the physical, if the mental portion or the emotional portion is not in line you will soon find yourself sabotaging the relationship without even thinking about it. I also know that you cannot find something worthwhile when you are not looking. Good things come to those who WORK for them. Sitting by idly thinking something will just happen is a recipe for disaster. The laws of attraction are very powerful, and you have to have your "laws of existence" under control and in line with them. As well, taking for granted something that is right in front of you, and allowing for 'interference' instead of actually giving it your 100% is also a big mistake. Better to go for it all, without fear of loss, and then see what may come... otherwise you not only can hurt yourself, but someone else as well. This "world of online dating" is chaotic. People say they want "the real thing"... then they connect with someone online, meet them and find they mutually have interest in each other... however one or the other continues to stay LIVE on a dating site while they're working on a potential relationship. All because they feel the need to stay LIVE to "keep looking" or "keeping their options open" with the hopes of "maybe something even better" over making the most of what is before them and not taking it for granted... not only is it selfish and totally inconsiderate, but it is straight-up stupid... unless of course, you are only pretending to "know what you want" and really only in this for the "game" aspects. And in that case, you don't deserve happiness as that puts you in the class of people I like to call "the ones who really SUCK". My theory - if someone seems worth your efforts, then give them the opportunity and offer that 100% - lay low and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, what is the worst thing that will happen in regard to this online dating saga? You would have to start over again and reactivate your profile. BIG FREAKIN DEAL! The "potentials' will always be out there.. ya' know? I mean... take away the internet; if this were a public meeting place, as opposed to an online connection... would you go about it all the same way - ? Would you walk around with a sign that says "Single & looking" as to adviertise yourself, and continue to "approach" other people while you are already in some sort of involvement and have stated that you were "mutually exclusive"?   What if a person is married and on the dating site? I will not even acknowledge that with a response. |
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Edited by
thekre8tv1
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Sun 03/22/09 12:18 PM
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anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative. It's a classic copout, I'm from the ghetto and heard it all the time...yet I didn't come out anything like them, but they were "stuck" because of the "area"...blah, blah, blah. OK - somewhere along this thread someone got the impression that I am a total bi**h who hates everyone and has a negative outlook on evrything... talk about the telephone game... SLOW DOWN PEOPLE. Stop trippin! You got on that bandwagon and rode it straight to hell... No one said I am some gun-toting thug who is out hear to bash men or disagree or start confronations from people from the south! My pount about the difference between the way people talk from - for example texas vs. NJ - IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE! It is a FACT. Are you kidding me...?!?! This all goes back to the fact that about 80% of Americans are living in oblivion and persuing the lives of PUPPETS. |
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I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming. But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature.  No offense intended - but you can't deny it is two different worlds so-to-speak. In "these parts" you GOTTA be tough... or you get walked all over. Trust me. I didn't get this thick skin overnight. Cop out... and HOW is THAT a cop out????????????????? It is a fact that around here, you can't JUST be soft... you have to have a blance so that you don't get "run off the road" You're kidding me, right with that lame two-word euphamism?! |
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Just something to consider.... blunt and direct can be good....so can diplomacy. Putting up some deterrents and barricades do serve thier purpose....but, if you throw enough of them out there....no one will be able to get through. Like I said....it is just a thought. I got u - and I actually joked about that with my friends... I know for a fact if I add one more not, the thin line will become about the size of a hair, but ya' know what... that's ok. I would rather deal with lower odds - less opporunity for disaster. |
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I think the negative comments are referring to the overtly defensive and argumentative posture you are assuming. But maybe that is just against my "Southern" nature. No offense intended - but you can't deny it is two different worlds so-to-speak. In "these parts" you GOTTA be tough... or you get walked all over. Trust me. I didn't get this thick skin overnight. |
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Geez... why do I feel like Jack Nicolson in a Few Good Men... "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" It is not about "not handling the truth." We are all adults here and if anyone cannot handle reality then they shouldn't be here. What "IT" (it meaning my initial post on this thread) is about is PERCEPTION and ATTITUDE. You come across as argumentative, negative, and somewhat hostile. I'm only an objective viewer. I have zero agenda. That is reality. Perhaps you would like to invent your own. Feel free to do so. Many others do. I would say you are over-analyzing my own "analysis". And you get stopped at the moment you read the third line in my disclaimer.... 
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i'm a very blunt person, but I try to do it in a positive way. you can be blunt and let someone know how the cow ate the cabbage without being brash or appear rude there is a difference in the approach "Out East" we are a bit different in the way we approach many things. It is what it is. |
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i listed the likes and dislikes to an extreme on mine before....but i didn't appear negative in any way. i got many emails saying they don't fit in the descriptions but liked what i had to say I am not short on emails love.... in fact I have rec'd quite a lot of messages that read the same way "I FREAKIN' LOVE YOUR PROFILE", "I love the way you think", "You are a REAL straight-shooter" or my favorite yet is one that simply said "I identify with you completely" to just name a few... |
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You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way... Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya! Yes, it's negative. I guess its an East Coast thing.... the NY Metro area seems to be pretty ok with my "attitude" as you folks have called it... ...but I'm still not getting the negative. It makes sense. Period. If sensibility and logic is negative then wtf is this world coming to NOW?!?! |
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I would first advise that you lighten up--in life and in your profile. You do seem to focus on the negative. That probably comes from unsuccessful relationships and past hurts. But all that is in the past...unless you keep bringing it into the present. Focus on the positives. In your profile, take out your disclaimer. Any man in his right mind is going to hit the back button when he sees a woman start off *itching. Be charming, witty, humorous, as your profile says you are. Don't talk about it; show it in your writing. Your profile is your advertisement. Sell yourself. Don't take life or love so seriously. Your profile isn't the place for it; it's a place really to just briefly introduce yourself, what you enjoy in life, what great qualities you have, something to get a conversation started. Get a first date, a second date, weeks of dating, before you get to your serious expectations. Just enjoy the ride. The right one for you is out there somewhere, but are you the right one for him? Dump the negativity and lower your expectations somewhat so you'll be the right one when your right one comes along. Until then, just enjoy dating and hanging out with different kinds of people. We can learn something about ourselves and the world around us through anyone we encounter, whether good or bad. See - now you have assumed I have not already TRIED that approach. I will not lower my expectations. I also will not alter my character to please someone else as they consider my profile not to their liking. Its not up there to just "impress just anyone". I am in Advertising... I think I know a thing or two about marketing. "STATE YOUR DEMPOGRAPHIC". It as a critical first step in marketing. Somone who WOULD find my profile worth reading all the way thru', is someone I would want to know. Every single word in it has a purpose. I am not fluffy... I am crass - however I am also wise, witty, and creative, as well as being open to the possibility of a good connection - and a man that would be able to see that even IN my disclaimer, is one who would continue to read. |
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Actually I was purely going from what you posted and had not looked at your profile yet. For many, what is posted is the "first impression" you get on someone. My knee jerk reaction was that you have a hard set of goals and values for someone to live up to. That was all I was implying. I am a straight shooter. But I guess I'm just a little less brash about it.  yes.. I can be brash - or crass - depends on where you come from I guess. For some it is appreciated, for some it is frightening... I wouldn't want a man who couldn't handle me 'as I am' - as that theory of "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" is something I live by. To get the best of me, you gotta be able to handle the factthat I am flawed. Perfectly IMPERFECT. I look only for someone with the same sort of character. Good, but not a sucker. A realist, with an open mind. |
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I think a disclaimer is all fine & dandy...& you're entitled to ask for what you want...but I'm wondering how many will read beyond it...? Well that is just it - I created it AS a deterrant.... if they can't get past that, they really don't need to know me becuase they would not be able to handle my character. And/Or they ARE Out of work, Ex-cons, or short little fellas with tall-chick fetishes that I am TOTALLY over getting propositioned by! |
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*watches*  enjoying thetit-for-tat are ya'? It's turning into quite a show... lol I'm just watching. I'm one of the most opinionated, vocal, anti-politically correct, take-no-bullsh!t people you'll ever know, so I'm just watching to see if you know what I know.  LOL.. so am I living up to your expectations....?:) |
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Geez... why do I feel like Jack Nicolson in a Few Good Men...
"YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" |
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Up on my Soapbox
Edited by
thekre8tv1
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Sun 03/22/09 11:22 AM
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Don't get me wrong - as I mentioned before - I do beleive in compromise and sacrifice as it is necessary in a good relationship. But my point is, that in order to really give something a CHANCE to be good, if there is a mutual interest - I beleive that both parties should be going into it equally. I am willing to give 100% upon such a scenario, so I feel that to make everything "fair", then he should too. What is hostile or negative about THAT?
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and for the record - my profile disclaimer IS written as a deterrent for those who I would avoid on ANY given day. It acutally works to the benefit of the one who might come across my profile and actually posess some of thos "Dont's" I have noted... I find it to be fair, and brutally honest. If you read my actual "What I'm here for" and my "About me" you would see that although I have my "agressive deterrent" as the first part of my profile... you would see once you read what I am about, that I am not hostile or negative. I am actually open to the opportunity that there are good people left in the world. But I guess you didn't read that far becasue you couldn't handle my "disclaimer".
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*watches* enjoying thetit-for-tat are ya'? It's turning into quite a show... lol |
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hostile - ? I like to consider myself as blunt - direct - and your standard straight shooter. Sometimes the truth isn't kind and defintely not "fluffy".  I appreciate the support... too many people run around just telling people what they THINK they want to hear... I have yet to meet a real mind-reader yet! What's worse is the ones who just sit idly and say nothing and just settle for putting up with things that they should not! Yes, relationships are about compromise and sacrifice - but NO ONE should have to put up with nonsense. Its not fair. |
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