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the title of this thread..."tells" me ...your not comfortable with this arrangement......i could be wrong???????
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Stay outta the shower!
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ur not getting the jist of the situation..ur not dating if u never met and if t think he is waiting for marriage to have sex ur out of ur mind..lol 
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ok... so... this has been totally the opposite of helpful... its like... i had wanted to try this because people seemed geniune and actually kind and helpful and yet wow... loving the judgement! so thanks... but no thanks.. its strange.. its crazy... and yet... its my life... best wishes and luck though
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maybe i am not seeing the picture u have to physically date in order to call it dating..my question to everyone is this..she keeps talking about love..can u love someone without physically touching them or spending time with them? 
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(((sharp))) hey handsome
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maybe i am not seeing the picture u have to physically date in order to call it dating..my question to everyone is this..she keeps talking about love..can u love someone without physically touching them or spending time with them? Thats a really good question..since I am in a similar situation and we love each other...but it is a really weird situation to have a "virtual" mate..and it requires keeping your feet firmly on the ground while you allow your head to free-float in the clouds....I guess in the end, time will tell... |
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Well honestly, if this happened with my gf I would be mad. All she would have had to do is to stop talking to him. All people are different, but it would upset me I agree, stop talking.... If a converasation goes in a way that I don't like, I have the skills to pull it back to where I want it.... It's not being "nice" to go along with someone when you are uncomfortable....It's weak..... I would not say it is weak to keep talking, If the guy was my friend and we hadn't really talked dirty in the past then he started to talk dirty I would think it would kind of hit me as a shock and I would first just try to say no and change the subject. I would not call it weak ethier because not everyone has the same skill set to just pull back. |
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(((sharp))) hey handsome
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Well honestly, if this happened with my gf I would be mad. All she would have had to do is to stop talking to him. All people are different, but it would upset me Everyone has their own views of relationships. If she considers them bf and gf, then that's what they are. Maybe you don't define it the same way, but it's the same. ....If it were 1943 and they met and coresponded thru the mail they could be engaged and know one would be so negative about it....people in the military world have a different kind of standards they conduct themselves by than civilians.....If you've never been a "west pac widow" or "back home Betty" you'll never get "it" any way.... military people have a urgency about love , devotion and romance. It may not be your cup of tea but everybody needs love and support....I had a Desert Storm baby/pregnancy and to this day felt every bit supported he was home in time for the birth, and 15 years later my only regret was the person he became when the threat of war was once gone and priority and maturity became a regression issue...I've experienced the phenom of how mature and prioritized a military relationship can be, the hard part is how they deal w/the real thing... which for the moment is not a possibility. War time romances in abstention have been happening for 100's and 100's of years, they are different by standard, each situation should be dealt w/on its own merits...with that said, a little more maturity and fore-thought will help you with the email problem, if you wouldn't say it to a guy standing in front of you or on the phone then the same rules should apply sweety...you are talking about guys here....read up on the way they think vs us, "to be fore warned is to be fore armed" you dont want to be known for being a tease because of ignorance, just like in court "ignorance of the law is no excuses" you wanta play in the big kids pool research the rules... ...good luck, and understand the odds for success/failure so you dont feel hit by a truck if/when things turn out different than you both thought....physicality will be only one of many face to face tests you will endure...  ~wicked~
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Well honestly, if this happened with my gf I would be mad. All she would have had to do is to stop talking to him. All people are different, but it would upset me Everyone has their own views of relationships. If she considers them bf and gf, then that's what they are. Maybe you don't define it the same way, but it's the same. ....If it were 1943 and they met and coresponded thru the mail they could be engaged and know one would be so negative about it....people in the military world have a different kind of standards they conduct themselves by than civilians.....If you've never been a "west pac widow" or "back home Betty" you'll never get "it" any way.... military people have a urgency about love , devotion and romance. It may not be your cup of tea but everybody needs love and support....I had a Desert Storm baby/pregnancy and to this day felt every bit supported he was home in time for the birth, and 15 years later my only regret was the person he became when the threat of war was once gone and priority and maturity became a regression issue...I've experienced the phenom of how mature and prioritized a military relationship can be, the hard part is how they deal w/the real thing... which for the moment is not a possibility. War time romances in abstention have been happening for 100's and 100's of years, they are different by standard, each situation should be dealt w/on its own merits...with that said, a little more maturity and fore-thought will help you with the email problem, if you wouldn't say it to a guy standing in front of you or on the phone then the same rules should apply sweety...you are talking about guys here....read up on the way they think vs us, "to be fore warned is to be fore armed" you dont want to be known for being a tease because of ignorance, just like in court "ignorance of the law is no excuses" you wanta play in the big kids pool research the rules... ...good luck, and understand the odds for success/failure so you dont feel hit by a truck if/when things turn out different than you both thought....physicality will be only one of many face to face tests you will endure... ~wicked~  wicked smart and pretty as well
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 ....thanks sharp honey KURTSEY KURTSEY !!! we'all just turn into puddles when a sweet southern man says such things... ...lol... ~wicked~
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did i do anything wrong and do i tell the boyfriend about the situation? and what should i do about the boyfriend.... how can you tell if you are a priority to someone? Do you feel guilty? Do you feel "ashamed" over what happened? It doesn't sound like you should stress over it. As far as the boyfriend thing goes, you'll never know for certain that you are a priority of theirs. The best you can do is treat them with respect and hope the same comes back to you. You say you both have a ton of stuff going on. That's all well and good, but do you "feel" like a priority? |
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