forgiving is easy
it's the forgetting that's the hard part

I don't agree with that.

fantastic advice!

How to get over it???
Assume that you do not own anyone. Assume that she has self esteem issues that you nor anyone else will ever solve for her ... well maybe a shrink. Recognize that YOU did not cheat and are a good guy (I assume) so her loss. Assume that through what she is lacking she is going to go through lame, lying, cheating, scuzzy dog after scuzzy dog in search of happiness through a man's erection and short term attention ... and at the same time you are going to be well received by many many wonderful, intelligent, interesting women waiting to FINALLY meet a decent guy. Her loss buddy ... just remember that and remember the good times you had together and move on. Don't wallow in it but put it in a box and toss it in the trash. Give yourself the time you need but also make friends with some great women (friends I said, not lover) and see that there are so many wonderful women that are honest and trustworthy.

It isn't you, it is her. Heck consider how lucky you are to have discovered it and can find a really good woman when you are ready and make a much better choice.

Good luck to you ... from a guy with three kids and a crazy ex that would have made your wife blush re the "cheating".

Ive learned not to trust any woman. I judge them by their actions. if a girl wants to be with me she will be with me, if she dont then she is free to go. You shouldnt get too attached. Thats whats wrong with a lot of men. Attachment leads to suffering. Keep this in mind about women and your life will be a lot easier.

Hopefully our instincts are sharpened, but not to the point of constant suspicion...if it is, you may not be ready. I've never seen a relationship thrive weighed down by distrust.

No assumptions here becaue assumtions are just that, assumptions. My 2nd ex was unfaithful, I found out after seven years of marriage. She was a "head turner" whenever we went out in public. We went to marrige counseling before we divorced. It came out that the reason for her cheating was her own lack of self-esteem. She was getting older and she had to prove to herself that she still "had it".

She's been living with another guy for the past two years. How I love that saying; "better him than me!". Once a cheater, always a cheater!

Don't blame yourself for your mate's cheating. It's what they choose to do for whatever reason. No one bends their arm to be unfaithful and dishonest.

Will I trust another woman again? Absolutely! I not so naive to think or make the generality that all women cheat. That's absurd thinking!

Just exactly how is it that you had something to do with her cheating on you? Did you put a gun to her head and order her to have sex with someone else? No? Then stop blaming yourself. Hell..I had two wives cheat on me. I figured it HAD to be me that was the problem. I was right....I kept picking the wrong women. Both felt they needed to prove to themselves they could wrangle up a man whenever they wanted. Both have been through two marriages apiece since our divorces. Guess it wasn't me after all!

Trust is something that comes with the right person. I haven't found that one yet either but it does not stop me from looking. Once you find her....you'll know.

Mirror, you are killin' me!!! I'm so sorry you were hurt that way. You seem like such a good guy, good egg... You don't deserve being hurt! And, I'm still crushin' on you!!!

like lily said u need take time for urself and don't blame urself because u couldnt do anything to warrent getting cheated on..once trust is broken in a relationship u can never get it back. u need time to heal.

Easy way to get over cheating? Come to a valid realization that you have no control over the other party. This is why you build trust. Trust is not something that is guaranteed, it is an application of faith. You either have it or you don't.

That said, also understand that the other person could not give you something you desired. If that's the case, then you should be overjoyed that the other person is out of the picture.

Realize that each individual person is just that, an individual. Just because one woman cheated doesn't mean all will, any more than just because one man cheated means all will.

No matter what you do, or don't do, no matter what you did, or didn't do, each person's actions are their own choice. You can't "make" someone cheat any more than you can make them be faithful.

I don't know you, so I'll put this forth as diplomatically as I can. You may or may not have done things that encouraged her to cheat. You may or may not have left things undone that encouraged her to cheat. For these purposes though, that is irrelevant.

She made her decision, you didn't make it for her. That's not your burden to bear.

You said you may be the blame for this. Take the event's that occurred into thought. You'll find your answer's in your own head.