Topic: When your kids break your heart...
EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 04/25/08 01:28 AM
Ugh! There are so many bad influences in the world and I know I can't protect my daughter from them... it just hurts so much when I can't do anything about these things that are breaking my heart!!

sad

How do you not let it get to you...

ominousman26's photo
Fri 04/25/08 01:31 AM
get some super glue or some tape and that will fix your broken heart real good

Marie55's photo
Fri 04/25/08 01:32 AM
Don't know how old your daughter is, but my advice would be that you just make sure she knows you love her, that you are always going to be there for her - no matter what - and when she wants your help or advice give it freely.

Other than that, there really isn't a lot you can do, she is growing up and will fall on her face now and then as she spreads her wings. Just be there to catch her or pick her up when it happens.

ominousman26's photo
Fri 04/25/08 01:33 AM

Don't know how old your daughter is, but my advice would be that you just make sure she knows you love her, that you are always going to be there for her - no matter what - and when she wants your help or advice give it freely.

Other than that, there really isn't a lot you can do, she is growing up and will fall on her face now and then as she spreads her wings. Just be there to catch her or pick her up when it happens.
HOLY CRAP! kids have wings?!! thats FREAKIN AWSOME!!!

jonny63's photo
Fri 04/25/08 01:49 AM

Ugh! There are so many bad influences in the world and I know I can't protect my daughter from them... it just hurts so much when I can't do anything about these things that are breaking my heart!!

sad

How do you not let it get to you...

It will always get to you. prepare yourself for the years to come.Get ready for the friends of your children to do the same to you. Its all a part of being the older one.

EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 04/25/08 02:39 AM
It's really amazing how many times one heart can break.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 04/25/08 04:31 AM
My daughter has broken my heart repeatedly. She is basically a good kid but she has some serious issues and makes some horrendous choices. Now that she is almost 18 it isnt' any easier than it was when she was 14. And I don't think it ever will get any easier.

sorry I don't have better news

SCURLOCK's photo
Fri 04/25/08 05:47 AM
when their born thier in our arms allthe time and when they grow up theyre on our hearts seems like they are with us always through their mistakes and mishaps take two asprins and call it a day then be ready to face tomorrow with the attitude ive been here beforebigsmile

missy51970's photo
Fri 04/25/08 05:58 AM
Isnt it amazing how many times they break our heart and how much we still love them...Someone else said it before me, just make sure your daughter knows you love her, no matter what..The bond between a mother and a daughter is so amazing, so strong..

My daughter went through a rough spot too (14 to 16) , made horrible choices, didnt care at times it seemed as tho she ws doing it intentionally to hurt me.. I lost sleep, I cried, I got angry...

My daughter who is now almost 18 is an amazing young woman.. She grew out of it. She thinks before she does things now ..off to college and medical school soon..

We are as close as a mother and daughter can be, I am so proud of her..It does get better hun, just try to breathe and realize that sometimes they have to make their own choices even if they are bad and they have to suffer the consequences..They do learn from it..and so do we as parents...IT GETS BETTER!!flowerforyou

EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 04/25/08 02:09 PM
Thanks all... I'm trying not to let it get to me because I know this is really just the beginning... I just didn't sign up for this roller coaster ride and sometimes it's really nauseating. If I get back what I probably put MY mom through, I'm in big trouble.

oldsage's photo
Fri 04/25/08 03:06 PM
I talk to my son openly, we agree to disagree, But respect eachother in all things.

EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 04/25/08 08:52 PM
AAhHHHHHhhh!!! Someone make them answer the phone!!

Dealing with an ex REALLY sucks. As if this wasn't hard enough already...explode

missy51970's photo
Fri 04/25/08 08:59 PM

AAhHHHHHhhh!!! Someone make them answer the phone!!

Dealing with an ex REALLY sucks. As if this wasn't hard enough already...explode



I can completely understand hun!!!

Ex's always complicate things

EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 04/25/08 10:27 PM
Okay, I feel a bit better now after I finally was able to talk to her about it. The whole reason I was upset was because of a song she was listening to that came from her cousin's myspace page. WOW that song was nasty. I told her what all the lyrics meant and let her know again how filling her mind with that kind of garbage just numbs her to other things.

The music they listen to now is WAY worse than when I was a teen... and I thought I was being rebellious back then! Stupid media...:tongue:


Shaden's photo
Sat 04/26/08 12:25 AM
From my experience they get worse before they get better. That is not meant to upset you. flowerforyou I thought my world had ended when I saw a picture of my, under age drinking on his myspace page, with under underage youth. Threw a great big crybaby fit. Cried for hours, told him I felt like a failure as a mom, then started thinking. I did that stuff, too, when I was a teen.

If you instill the proper principles, by example as well as in conveying - most come back to the proper way of thinking and acting. You are so right in explaining the harm, but they have to know we love them dispite their mistakes. Thinking back I should have handled that better. That was definitely one of my most melodramatic mom, times.

PacificStar48's photo
Sat 04/26/08 12:43 AM
Someone told me the really terrible two's had a zero behind them. That has kind of turned out to be true. One thing that comforts me is that even in Bibical times they had Proidigal sons (and daughters) and the world kept right on spinning so I am just going to enjoy the current phase. LOL don't tell me what they do at 30 Something. I already feel old enough.hahahaha

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sat 04/26/08 01:02 AM
Yeah she said tonight she thinks I expect her to be angelic... laugh I kinda chuckled and jokingly said no, but maybe you could just choose to maybe cuss a little instead of surrounding yourself with slutty things? laugh It's funny the way she doesn't like it when boys cuss while they're talking to her, but she can listen to it in her music just fine. ugh. She knows I love her no matter what.