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Topic: Starting a relationship
Jamie82 Joined Tue 05/08/07 Posts: 14951	Mon 05/05/08 06:27 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Mon 05/05/08 06:29 AM
about 5 hrs

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Mon 05/05/08 06:30 AM
I would have the talk as soon as I had thought it over and knew I felt I wanted a "relationship" in order to see if he was on the same page or if he wants more time, OR TO CUT HIM LOOSE. It's just part of the relationship you have already, the communication part. Doesn't mean he has to be in the same place, but it's part of the sharing and caring aspect of a relationship. Just my 2 cents. Best wishes.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:32 AM Edited by Peccy on Mon 05/05/08 06:37 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. You can just look into one another's eyes and know. That my $.02.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 05/05/08 06:37 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. is it? lol peccy do you just start assuming you're in a relationship? what is your partner doesn't have the same assumption?

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:38 AM Edited by Peccy on Mon 05/05/08 06:40 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. is it? lol peccy do you just start assuming you're in a relationship? what is your partner doesn't have the same assumption? then kick them to the curb, simple. plus 3-4 straight dates usually equal a month if it takes them that long to decide, then just leave

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Mon 05/05/08 06:39 AM
I think as soon as you want to be exclusive, then that needs to be brought up. If you are exclusive, than it is usually safe to say you are in a relationship.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 05/05/08 06:39 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. is it? lol peccy do you just start assuming you're in a relationship? what is your partner doesn't have the same assumption? then kick them to the curb, simple so after 3 dates if he doesn't assume the same as I do that he is my bf then I should get rid of him?

Jamie82 Joined Tue 05/08/07 Posts: 14951	Mon 05/05/08 06:40 AM Edited by Jamie82 on Mon 05/05/08 06:41 AM
Thanks for the input And Peccy yes i understand but usually at a certain point ppl want respect and want to be introduced as ur boyfriend/girlfriend.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Mon 05/05/08 06:41 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. You can just look into one another's eyes and know. That my $.02. So, you're saying....you won't go steady? No pin, no letter jacket...nothin'?

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:41 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. is it? lol peccy do you just start assuming you're in a relationship? what is your partner doesn't have the same assumption? then kick them to the curb, simple so after 3 dates if he doesn't assume the same as I do that he is my bf then I should get rid of him? straight dates, you and no one else

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 05/05/08 06:42 AM


Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:42 AM
When do u think is the proper amount of time to have the talk with someone u are seeing to be in a relationship??....I know most ppl will say it depends on how the person feels and all but im just looking for opinions and some input. I kinda feel like why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it why label it? It's sort of a given after 3-4 straight dates anyhow. As we get older terms like "going with one another" become funny sounding and silly. The is much power in the unsaid word. You can just look into one another's eyes and know. That my $.02. So, you're saying....you won't go steady? No pin, no letter jacket...nothin'? I might with you, but that's it

Jamie82 Joined Tue 05/08/07 Posts: 14951	Mon 05/05/08 06:43 AM
Ok now u are confusing me

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:45 AM Edited by Peccy on Mon 05/05/08 06:47 AM
ok, when a guy starts dating you and stops thinking about others, THEN, you could verify I guess. With a guy, when we start taking you out exclusively, then you have us....or we're real desperate to get laid.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 05/05/08 06:46 AM
Peccy- so I went out on one date with a guy, we haven't been out since just cuz of our schedules. But we got alot accomplished in that date we talk everyday tho. He tells me he misses me and calls me sweety and all that good stuff lol so do I assume he is my bf?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 05/05/08 06:47 AM
ok, when a guy starts dating you and stops thinking about others, THEN, you could verify I guess. With a guy, when we start taking you out exclusively, then you have us....or we're real desperate to get laid. how do you know when he stops "thinking" of others?

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 05/05/08 06:48 AM
Peccy- so I went out on one date with a guy, we haven't been out since just cuz of our schedules. But we got alot accomplished in that date we talk everyday tho. He tells me he misses me and calls me sweety and all that good stuff lol so do I assume he is my bf? not after one date no

Jamie82 Joined Tue 05/08/07 Posts: 14951	Mon 05/05/08 06:48 AM
ok, when a guy starts dating you and stops thinking about others, THEN, you could verify I guess. With a guy, when we start taking you out exclusively, then you have us....or we're real desperate to get laid. how do you know when he stops "thinking" of others? Yea good point...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:50 AM
3 - 4 dates? wow!! well that is about the time i can tell if i either want to spend more time with a guy or dump him... usually but to call him my boyfriend? not really takes over a month sometimes and lots of spending time to figure that one out... then the feeling sure has to be a mutual thing to be able to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend...