are men afraid of committment?

Ok, so I've been dating on here for a little while, and I've come to the conclusion that men are afraid of committment. They tell me they want a committment, and then when they get sex from me, they walk away, never to talk to me again? WTF? Even the one's that say they want a relationship really don't want one, or don't know what they want. So I'm asking if there is a guy out there that actually is not afraid of a relationship. I'm asking if there is a guy out there that can think out side there ****? hmmm? I don't know? I'm about ready to give up! Some one please prove me wrong!!

this topic scares me..eeeks!!!

Dont give up sweetie. I am looking for a good guy too

Also its not just the men, women can be afraid of commitment too

im outta here!!?

Maybe it's the sex thing... It's a respect thing in "most" cases..

I'm afraid of it.

Yeah it goes both ways, Just depends on the person.

yup, been hurt to many time's !

thats not totally true

Not afraid of it and I hope your luck changes.

Maybe you should wait awhile before having sex with them, no guy will try for 6 months to get some ass if that's all he's interested in.

Ur trying with wrong guys...In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are, NOT FOR SEX. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think the sun shines out your ass.Will love u, care of urs. love is about caring.Once u able to find a person who cares for u from his heart. he will nvr afraid of commitment.That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with.

Perfect....that was quick!!!!

i only commit to good Mexican food.

I say this without wishing to antagonize any one
I am not frightened of commitment
However I have kids and they come first
Dating has lost its meaning to me
the trials are to find someone compatible at all levels so that I can comfortably grow old with. The word comfortable is not meant financial comfort but a spiritual comfort. When I say at all levels I mean at all levels including sexual.

I would go as far as to say that I will even live with that person if compatible enough but would not commit myself until kids are grown and gone.

I would try to examine what happens that those men run away what is said during or after sex that pushes them away. I dont mean or want to pry? you asked the question I am trying to help you for you to find the answer

I dont think that it has to do with just men.........alot of women are afraid of committment as well!!! It depends on the person.......the guys you have been dating were obviously not "right" for you......

OK...laughing aside!

Maybe the answer lies somewhere other than fear of commitment. Could it be the opperative questions have not been asked?
Such as...Do YOU want to have a committed relationship with "ME"???!!!

My feeling is that maybe ...I'm going out on a limb here, but maybe the sex is happening before a true bond is developed. It might be best to wait in the future until you know there is a real friendship, with respect, trust and a bit history (living life on lifes terms) together .

If nothing else, the time spent might afford you a great long term friendship, less heartbreak even if it does not become a true LOVE match.

Just some thoughts....good luck to you

That generalized moral high ground you're standing on is dangerously close to quicksand. 2 posts, and you've come into this place with a hypothesis, as far as I'm concerned, based solely on your experience with men, and not men in general. Hypothetically speaking, there may actually be some part of you that would scare the hell out of even the most loyal man, for all I know. Only you know for sure.

No, there's going to be more laughing, or else! Do you realize you are rarer than a fart in a woman's restroom? Imagine that, a sexy blonde woman, living in San Francisco, actually looking for a man, who actually has brains!

Okay, I'll go hide under a rock now.

i am somewhat scared of commitment...
I think that thats only the smart way to be though...

just a personal belief i guess