Topic: 29, tired of "search"
Intrepid00's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:20 PM
If my profile comes across as blah, that is because thats how I feel right now. I'm sick of writing to women I'm attracted to and getting no response. I wish I was gay sometimes, I really do. I'm just so sick of attractive women. Unattractive women are great except I'm not attracted to them...it's a catch 22

anthsm22's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:32 PM
well my friend, I am no casanova, and get plenty of the no responses and rejections, but that doesnt mean that the search is over. Remember you are who you are and what you show you are is what you will be judged by by the type of women you want in your life.

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Wed 07/09/08 04:43 PM
We all get tired of searching---however, I believe anything that is worth something takes hard work and effort!
Dont give up...maybe just stop looking, thats when people say it happens anyway
Good luck, babe!:wink:

Alterego1961's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:44 PM
Edited by Alterego1961 on Wed 07/09/08 04:46 PM
I think you need to think about something we tend to forget. Looks can be fleeting, but personality lasts a lifetime. A persons looks can change in an instant in case of an accident or something. Long term looks will change no matter what we think. You need to consider what you would do if say your mate was badly burned in a freak "smoking while putting on hairspray" accident. How about a more likely possibility such as losing her hair due to cancer treatments? Would you stay with her because you love her, or would you leave her because she wasn't hot any more? The answer to that question will possibly open your mind up to many other things, regardless of how you answer the question... You need to evaluate yourself and what it is you really want from a relationship. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, you just need to find and accept that beauty... bigsmile

Intrepid00's photo
Thu 07/10/08 02:50 AM

I think you need to think about something we tend to forget. Looks can be fleeting, but personality lasts a lifetime. A persons looks can change in an instant in case of an accident or something. Long term looks will change no matter what we think. You need to consider what you would do if say your mate was badly burned in a freak "smoking while putting on hairspray" accident. How about a more likely possibility such as losing her hair due to cancer treatments? Would you stay with her because you love her, or would you leave her because she wasn't hot any more? The answer to that question will possibly open your mind up to many other things, regardless of how you answer the question... You need to evaluate yourself and what it is you really want from a relationship. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, you just need to find and accept that beauty... bigsmile
I know as well as anyone that looks can change in an instant actually. I was in a car accident and went from a six pack to a foot long, half inch wide scar that runs from just above my unit all the way up to that my sternum (that part where your rib cages meet in the center of your chest) as well as another on my back but I'm not going to be with someone no matter how wonderful their personality if I don't have a desire for them sexually or physically. I don't know if being hot has a whole lot to do with it. "attraction" is not a choice really and it is a combination of things, looks included. For example, I loved a girl named Amy very much. She was in 2002 at the age of 24, pretty much as hot as a woman can be. She's now 30 with 2 kids and is not what she was 6 yrs ago at all. I still love her and would take her and her 2 kids in a heartbeat without even thinking.

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Thu 07/10/08 07:18 AM

If my profile comes across as blah, that is because thats how I feel right now. I'm sick of writing to women I'm attracted to and getting no response. I wish I was gay sometimes, I really do. I'm just so sick of attractive women. Unattractive women are great except I'm not attracted to them...it's a catch 22

Everyone on your friends list is quite attractive so what are u complaining about.

Intrepid00's photo
Thu 07/10/08 08:35 AM


If my profile comes across as blah, that is because thats how I feel right now. I'm sick of writing to women I'm attracted to and getting no response. I wish I was gay sometimes, I really do. I'm just so sick of attractive women. Unattractive women are great except I'm not attracted to them...it's a catch 22

Everyone on your friends list is quite attractive so what are u complaining about.
lol I think like 2 of them talk to me and noneof the hotties

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Thu 07/10/08 08:37 AM
I feel your pain!