Bored & lonely.

How the hell do some of you people do it? I'm a decent guy, honest, loyal, smart, funny, confident, with a good job and a healthy hobby, and I have to put myself through sheer hell sometimes to even get someone to talk to. Christ, I'm 22 years old and I've been on 1 date.

Seriously, what in God's name am I missing? Or am I just supposed to be the definition of "nice guys finish last"?

You're ONE date up on me!!

join the marines,girls like a guy in uniform

Ok so go take a look at Kayz profile...

just search the username kayz

tell me whatcha think

i know her personally ill put in a good for ya

dont feel bad, I have only had 4 dates my whole life so far, no one ever comes up to me offline, online I get alot of guys wanting to talk an what not. but they all live to far away

Seems like a nice girl...but me in WI and her in KS, that'd be my 3rd LDR out of, well, 3. The people that tell you LDR's are hard to keep up: they ain't bulls***ting

Thanks though

*starts counting fingers* One, Two.........................Damn only two.

You are young and have plenty of time, it's not the quantity you need to worry about, when you find the one that's all that matters

SO TRUE! But he could get a job at the Police Dept, or the Fire Dept or at the Hospital.....no need to go into the service!

TRUE!

Bored and lonely... yeah, we're all there sometimes. The trick is to make it look like you aren't.

No one wants to hang around with a bored lonely person because they are... boring and lonely. Socializing is a skill that takes practice like any other - some people have an intrinsic talent for it, the rest of us have to learn it the hard way.

As a male it's your job to pursue females (instinct trumps social conditioning here - equality of the sexes is not always equal) - so what is really happening here? Are you not pursuing, or is there a flaw in your approach or follow through?

Also - stereotype yourself. Do you fit a type? Chances are you do and that is who you will appeal to. If you are miss-categorized, then you need to get in touch with yourself and try to come closer to a social norm. If you can't find a stereotype you fit, well... don't ask me that's the problem I have.

I have to throw myself under the bus and say that half the time my own problem has been a failure to approach, so I don't get the opportunity to practice follow through.

Just because you embarrass yourself once doesn't mean your chance is shot, no one will remember you the next day anyway... unless you fail spectacularly, then be proud - it will be a good story, just use good judgment - restraining orders are not a good way to impress potential dates.

Ah youth, wasted on the young.

If you're bored, its because you are boring.
Get out of the house, and go do something that you enjoy. Go with the guys.
Find out where girls are and be there.
Take a sign language class, I've found in the classes I took, way more women than men there.

It comes and goes. I feel really lonely right now to the point that I feel sick. If you think too much about anything it will get to you. I am going to go distract my mind and wait for this feeling to pass.

Maybe you're just trying to hard and that's coming across to women. Women don't like a man who seems desperate. You need to relax buddy.

My advice is this. Try finding places to go where women like to go and men seldom travel. Art museums, art fairs, flea markets, and the rest. Loads of women and little competition.

Learn how to dance and go dancing. Women love men who will dance with them. If you really like one of them, get her phone number or email address.

Try finding a woman who wants a friend to do things with. If nothing else you won't be lonely anymore.

Could do what I do and talk with the voices...they are so interesting sometimes, just the other day my voices were explaining how easy it would be to take over the world with an emo song.

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