here's my thing.......i finally found my dearest friend from high school (he's helped through a LOT.......)....we haven't seen each other since 1999 and he gave his number friday and we've talked on the phone everynight since (not tonight as he's got to get up early in the morning).....grrrrrr.......i feel weird....elated, happy, we're doing just like we did back in high school....calling each other everynight talking for hours.......and i had a secret crush on him then (and he was dating a girl) and seems like those feelings are starting to come back.....and this time, I'm the one seeing someone........


what do i do?????

stop talking to him on the phone everynight, for one. Or else end things with current bf.

depends... for sure you need to take it slow if you can..
you didnt say how long youve been seeing this person.. is it serious? is it casual?
what kind of conversations are you having with your friend?

if you're starting to have feelings with your friend while you have a bf... you need to cut off one or the other. You can't have both. Unless you can just keep it casual with your friend...

very casual....and we're just catching up on things... (and he's been calming me down trying to help me keep my cool around here...)

well you say it's casual but you admit you are starting to have those feelings for him again.

Well stop before it is too late..don't get your head wrapped in those clouds you know..limit your talk w/ him to like once a week..
And yes you have crushed on him back then, but alot can happen in 10 years..he prolly does not look the same, he is a different man than what you are used to trust me..lol
Unless you are having stink w/ your curent BF and wanted to end things, i would kinda keep those feelings in check..

you didnt answer.. how long have you been seeing your current bf

JMO... I would be upset if I found out my bf was talking to some girl for hours on end every night. Sooo I would assume your bf wouldn't like you to do it either

yeah, he's definitely changed lookswise.....gained over 100lbs.....but then again....the "crush" feelings could be a figment of my imagination

1 month

ok y'all......i think i've worked it out.....

well you dont have that much invested with your current bf...
take things slow with this friend of yours... somehow your going to have to figure out if this is something you want to persue.. and if it is then you need to let the current bf know very soon

are you happy with your bf?

not anymore

then move on regardless of your new friend. Don't waste each other's time

Well no matter what you have decided, I am gonna assume that the unhappiness with current BF will make you end things with him. If so, just don't go jumping into a relationship with you old best friend. If you do find that you have feelings for him, explore them. If not, then move along and keep him as a best friend.