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  I really hate this topic.. lol The way "I" see it... #1 she/he is cheating on the person they are sleeping with.. by even chatting to you online even saying the "I love you" words. And getting that deeply involved in the communication  That's taking it WAY beyond friendship. #2 if he/she is not in a committed relationship and THEN using the words "I Love You" to you.. then in a sense, yes, they're cheating.. those words are for a SERIOUS COMMITTED relationship.. *steps off soapbox" I'm done..... BRAVO! 
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I think you call that "Hit it and Quit it".
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How many sexual partners are we talking about here???
I really do not consider it cheating unless you make it official that you're together. But seriously, how can someone really have feelings for someone and then just go screw someone else? She may or may not be playing you, but do you really want to wait around to find out? I sure hope she's using condoms.. 
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yes...that's cheating
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How many sexual partners are we talking about here??? I really do not consider it cheating unless you make it official that you're together. But seriously, how can someone really have feelings for someone and then just go screw someone else? She may or may not be playing you, but do you really want to wait around to find out? I sure hope she's using condoms.. Hmmm, truth be told i never asked how many. =P and no I didn't wait to find out. I ended whatever we had then. That happened long ago though... but anyway, as far as how understood it, she had "friends" whom she sometimes had sex with. She said she loved me and the others were "just sex." And while I see and maybe even understand her point of view on the matter... i personally did feel cheated so I walked away. |
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How many sexual partners are we talking about here??? I really do not consider it cheating unless you make it official that you're together. But seriously, how can someone really have feelings for someone and then just go screw someone else? She may or may not be playing you, but do you really want to wait around to find out? I sure hope she's using condoms.. Hmmm, truth be told i never asked how many. =P and no I didn't wait to find out. I ended whatever we had then. That happened long ago though... but anyway, as far as how understood it, she had "friends" whom she sometimes had sex with. She said she loved me and the others were "just sex." And while I see and maybe even understand her point of view on the matter... i personally did feel cheated so I walked away. Sorry, my opinion, you don't have sex with someone period unless you're actually in love with them, or have strong feelings and it's mutually headed to love, and the monogamous commitment is already there. |
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Say you meet someone online and you spend a few weeks chatting and talking to this person and you fall for her/him, and he/she tells you he/she is in love with you too... but then find out he/she has been having sexual partners while this is happening. Would you consider that as cheating? Would you even consider it as having a "relationship" with someone you've never met in person? No, it is not cheating. First of all you said it yourself. If you "NEVER MET" how could anyone even cunsider it being a relationship or anything at all other then being friends. If your getting to know someone, it's there choice in life where theu go with it. The only thing you can say to yoursel is, what i'm willing to deal with. |
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A male will always view that it is cheating.
A woman may not cos they seperate love from sex. The male is much more jealous whereas the female can deal with it. This has actually got to do with male instinct. This really shows in the birth of a child. A woman knows her genes is passed on but a male must be positive that she is not cheating to be determined the father. Can you see what I am saying? |
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Also, like marriage, I dont think any relationship is concrete until intimacy occurs between both people. After that, cheating is much easier to define.
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I really hate this topic.. lol The way "I" see it... #1 she/he is cheating on the person they are sleeping with.. by even chatting to you online even saying the "I love you" words. And getting that deeply involved in the communication That's taking it WAY beyond friendship. #2 if he/she is not in a committed relationship and THEN using the words "I Love You" to you.. then in a sense, yes, they're cheating.. those words are for a SERIOUS COMMITTED relationship.. *steps off soapbox" I'm done..... You do make some good points. The way I see it, some people have "buddies". They mean nothing but sex. If during that time they meet someone on line, talk for months, start to have feelings, fall in love etc and should DURING that time have a "session" with the "buddy", that to me would be cheating. I guess that is how I read the OP, not that they were IN a REAL relationship and talking online at the same time. 
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