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Topic: WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS - part 2
chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:44 PM
her last words to me where I LOVE YOU HONEY!

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:45 PM < continued from this topic > < part one of this topic is here >
Awww That is wonderful to know that! Those were our last words too. Even though he was extremely sick, we didn't know that that goodbye WAS goodbye. He went in for a procedure and "coded" on the table. We kissed, said I love yous and then he was gone. In time...and a great deal of time mind you...I was able to be glad that we were able to say that.

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Sat 07/19/08 07:46 PM
I was wondering about you just YESTERDAY, how you were coping, how you were managing.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:46 PM
Another thing I want to say to you, is things like that...her knowing it, saying it, those things will in time bring comfort to you. Right now you are just so raw, very little probably does.

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:48 PM
That is special. I just want one more moemnt

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:49 PM
I know you do! I sooo know exactly what you feel.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:49 PM
Are you working? eating right, sleeping as best you can?

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:52 PM
i am trying

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:53 PM
it just hurts so bad But i want her back and God is not listening

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:53 PM
Sleeping was very difficult for me. I would wait to go to bed until I was about to fall over. My mind would be all over the place. But it's important to rest and eat as best you can right now.

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:55 PM
I go to bed just to see her again.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:57 PM
I had very very odd dreams about my husband! Always the same weird one that repeated for about a year...and it was that he left me for his high school girlfriend. ???? people told me it was my mind's way of trying to somehow explain him being gone. Dreams can be odd at times but other times so nice to see them.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 07:59 PM
What about her things Dan? Where was she living? Do you have some things with you to keep?

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 07:59 PM
But I hope truly it is her talking to me.

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 08:00 PM
You know what the worst part is? I cant possibly make love to anyone else without thinking of her.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 08:02 PM
Well you could find some books on dreams..or some things online. I always wondered about that although mine didn't seem to make much sense. And he NEVER EVER spoke a word in them. I've heard some people say they do, some say they never did. I would talk to him in my dreams and he never spoke a word.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 08:02 PM
Dan...All I can tell you about that is....that you can...and you will. You will just have to trust me on this one. It takes time.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 08:04 PM
My husband's birthday was Valentines Day and I never thought I'd EVER be able to share that day with another man, but I did, twice, in the last 9 yrs.

chopperdan Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1475	Sat 07/19/08 08:08 PM
I will never find another like her. SHe sent my soul on fire and took my heart with her.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 07/19/08 08:09 PM
No, you will never find another like her.