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Topic: Question About An Ex
EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Fri 08/01/08 01:51 AM
Umm yeah... it should be completely obvious why he'd want to keep you around. A free cookie on the side, whenever he wants one, is what a great deal of men want. The better question is, why are you allowing him to degrade your worth by sticking around?

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Fri 08/01/08 04:53 AM
because eventhough circumstances dictate that you can`t be together,.he doesn`t want to loose you,.. maybe he feels more strongly about your relationship and is testing the waters to see just how strong,..

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 08/01/08 05:23 AM
Emotional addiction. I've been in a relationship that carries the same connection. Like Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee ... can't quit each other. No way out but cold turkey .. Wish you the best hon

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Fri 08/01/08 05:24 AM
Those who have once been intimate, and are able to maintain sight of why they became friends in the first place........ .....usually are such valuable friends to have. The special insight gained is so valuable when seeking advice. Quirks are known, there's minimal editing, and "BS" will be called when necessary like a true friend should. A few of my exes are incredible confidants whom "I" would HATE to talk less frequently to.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 08/01/08 05:28 AM
Those who have once been intimate, and are able to maintain sight of why they became friends in the first place........ .....usually are such valuable friends to have. The special insight gained is so valuable when seeking advice. Quirks are known, there's minimal editing, and "BS" will be called when necessary like a true friend should. A few of my exes are incredible confidants whom "I" would HATE to talk less frequently to. Beach that's a real treasure you have. Not all can keep up good communication with ex's. shows a very good quality about you

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Fri 08/01/08 05:36 AM
Aaaaw TY Judy. Why should we forget why we became friends....and that's a love that will stick after any hurt goes away.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 08/01/08 05:52 AM
Aaaaw TY Judy. Why should we forget why we became friends....and that's a love that will stick after any hurt goes away. Yep excellent perspective. But usually the intimacy side gone bad messes up the friendship. So you are rare my friend ..

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Fri 08/01/08 05:56 AM
Aaaaw TY Judy. Why should we forget why we became friends....and that's a love that will stick after any hurt goes away. Yep excellent perspective. But usually the intimacy side gone bad messes up the friendship. So you are rare my friend .. TY again! ...I hope not...and I have to believe that more and more folks don't equate intimacy with possession.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 08/01/08 06:16 AM
It is hard when a friendship doesn't stay friendly. It's even harder when the twoo f you obviously have different levels of emotions. He doesn't want you, but hedoesn't want anyone else to have you either..... Hmmm. That is abusive and controlling behavior, any way you slice it. I say kudos for seeing it for what it is and walking away. Stay strong and love yourself enough to tell him no. You are worth it.