what do you-all say about this?? (Is it worth a thought??)

Can you "create" your woman? Ask for big boobs or a big butt?

If it is a reputable company who initiates contact, sets up visits and most of the payments are for travel, visas, and moving expenses + administrative, I can see it being not much different than here...with the exception of no one here is going to send a women or a man, for that matter, that kind of money to see to their moving and naturalization expenses. A good mail order firm would take the scam out of the equation.

I don't believe that's what most of these are about though. I suspect that being someone's property to cook, clean and take care of children is probably the price some women are willing to pay for their freedom from government and poverty in their own country. That is their choice...but the fact that we have those in our country, in this day and age, who would treat someone with such little respect as to consider themselves the owner of their bride...sickens me.

I think it's a tough thing to call and see how it might mutually benefit some, but also see how easily it could be turn to an abusive situation too.

It's interesting, my talks with many divorced women right here in the United States. Almost always, the reason why they are divorced is because of an abusive ex-husband. Given the numbers I have seen, I think many, many men in this country are abusive. An abusive man is more likely to be found marrying women right here than anywhere else in the world. Let's not overlook our own backyard!

Most American men make/expect their mates to "cook, clean and take care of children". That's hardly a reason for a man to look overseas when most women do these things for a man here. Homer Simpson, though a cartoon, is an accurate depiction of the average American male. Am I wrong ladies?

Abuse by men in this country is so pervasive, I find myself surprised that more American women don't look outside of the United States for a mate!

What's so startling, in my experience personally, is that so many abusive men are working fulltime, wearing suits & ties, etc. My own ex had a fabulous personality, had a college degree, nice family, fulltime job.... and then he was this whole other person at home behind closed doors. And people wonder why I have trust issues???? Heck, it makes it so hard to know if you are with someone genuine or if they'll pull the old switcheroo once they get a ring on my finger like that last one!!

Do any of you READ what you write...YOU WANT TO PAY FOR A BRIDE, someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally, someone who is supposed to fulfill you emotionally, mentally and physically...

Any man that stoops to this level and dehumanizes a person well... I have a few choice words... GO GET A HOOKER.

I can't believe in 2008 people actually think about doing this... I'm stunned and horrified at this practice.

Some people must really, really be desperate for marriage... .

Kind of makes you wonder why we're all on here!

Is being on here the same thing?

Most American men make/expect their mates to "cook, clean and take care of children". That's hardly a reason for a man to look overseas when most women do these things for a man here. Homer Simpson, though a cartoon, is an accurate depiction of the average American male. Am I wrong ladies?

what do you-all say about this?? (Is it worth a thought??)

Not the men I've dated or had relationships with. I have always been treated as an equal partner and with the utmost respect.

But, I've discovered that I've been living in the shadows where abuse is concerned here in the US...I never realized just how common it is until I joined this site. I only heard of cases brought to my attention by the media until now, and have rarely been around it with the exception of one boyfriend my sister had, and I just thought he was a nut case. It's truly astonishing to me.

What worries me concerning mail order brides, is that a man whose experience has been that women who won't put up with him, can use mail order as a means to buy what he is looking for, feeling that she will have no choice about it once the deal is done and paid for.

How many men might use this avenue as a means to purchase a slave?

Mmmm, I would say so. People are on here for pretty much every reason, whether it be to seek out marriage or a one night stand. I've even been contacted by women who are married on this site looking for an affair. One woman has a profile out there where she has a husband at home and he is terminally ill. She's looking for a single man for a relationship. Huh? I've been contacted by women for cyber sex, too. So, yep, being on here is pretty much the same thing! You get every imaginable type!

We're not on here paying for husbands or wives out of catalogs, though. I wouldn't consider this the same thing at all.

Granted this is a free site. Remove money as a factor and there's not much difference. Your still looking for a person out of a catalog, so to speak. The catalog here is search results and suggested/mutual matches.

You're comparing this to buying mail order brides. Can't really remove the money factor.