my so called "boyfriend" told me his friend saw a pic he had of me and he told me his friend said im hot and wants to do naughty things to me he even told me his friend asked for my phone number but he said "no"...im like what else is new i here it all the time and that it would be nice to be thought of in a differnet way for once coz really thats all i here him say to me these days too i even asked him so what did u say about what he was saying and he said "i was like um ok good on ya".....am i over reacting a bit to feel a little insulted that he'd doesn't care and would just let someone talk like that about me or is just that its giving him a huge ego boost and wanted to come across that way by telling me....

its giving him a huge ego boost



yep....tell him you don't like it....it will continue....but at least he won't tell you about it

I would consider that a red flag...

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

yep giving him an ego boost. Let him know how you feel. If he doesn't respond appropriately you might want to consider moving on.

How long have you been with this person? How old is he?

been together about a year. we're both 23

he's just bragging
stupidly thinking that you will find it a compliment

well everyone is proud of their squeeze
(or should be)

but he is just being immature about it
the thing that is grating is that he
seems to be focused on your looks rather
than who you really are. you rightfully
want to know that he cares for you and
not merely your appearance.

like ddn says, tell him that you don't care for it -
that you want him instead to just tell his friends
what a wonderful person you are rather than discussing
your looks and if they are jealous well that just
can't be helped. but he and his friends need to treat
you nicely and with respect if they want to keep yours.



you know?

i say bust out the tazer

or bust out the tazer

but do you really want someone like that?

wonder what's next?

Communication is key here. Does he have no consideration or does he think he's being funny?

someone talked about my woman like that, i'd shut it down asap, thats just me tho

I agree .. I date younger guys and find often that they are very into the 'my woman is hot' thing .. and like when other guys pay attention to me. But if a guy is really into me, then he moves from 'brag' to 'pride of being the one with me' .. which also shows his depth of feelings

Ego. Definitely.

oh no, i got blue faced

That's a really long sentence!

if youre so hot wheres your pic and why don't you have your profile filled out...

plus he could be kidding.

yep,,,,,,,,big red flag

I knew a male friend who showed me a picture of his girlfriend and soon to be wife in see through lingerie. I thought, "What am I supposed to say? Why is he taking shots and showing me?"

He was very proud of his girlfriend's looks. She was attractive and he wanted to show her off to others. I said, "Wow she is good looking. Good for you, I'm glad you found someone." The same thing I would have said had she been clothed. I decided he wanted to hear that and get a reaction on my face. His relating the story to you is because he thought you would also feel better knowing you were desired by others.

My friend wasn't a bad person. He had been without for some time and maybe that added to why he showed the photo to others. He was a bit on the slow side but was his lack of jealousy should be noted. Talk to him letting him know how you feel. He needs to know.

From what you wrote he was only quizzed on what he did in response to his friend's comments. Did you ever say how you felt to him? Was his reaction acceptable? You alone have to decide what to do. Coming here and venting is fine and that is what you need to do with him.

I hope you do not expect anyone here to give you a complete answer as to what you should do. We are very opinionated and leery of others. We look to the worse in people and can only relate your story to our past. We don't walk in your shoes.