Got dumped last Wednesday, over the phone. Saw him yesterday (Tuesday) to get my things.
We chated and he said he'd like to stay in touch.....so is this so he feels better about him self or does he mean it????
What do u think.....
not sure what i want at the mo.

He wants to keep you close enough for a booty call

I'm sure he knew you were hurting.. I think he was just using those words to help "ease" the situation. JMO

i agree

that's exactly what he's wanting to do. he wants his freedom... but he wants you available when he needs a quickie! ditch his sorry @$$. i just went through the same situation a short time ago. it's sooooo not worth it.

I think it will be more hurtful to you if you continue to stay in touch with him, especially if you have strong feelings that are unreciprocated. But, if you can handle it, then by all means go ahead and stay friends with him.

but is it a way i can still be near him....or am i doing myself in???

at the mo i feel like i'd settle for anything.

I think sometimes if the friendship was strong enough, they actually mean it. I have an ex who stays in touch. I talk to him once a month and am friends with his fiance too now...we get together a couple times a year when we can. Our friendship never ended.

sounds like he is trying to be nice.

DONT SETTLE!!!

I would agree

You know him better than anyone. Is he a good person? Eventhough you guys broke up would you want the best for each other? Who wants to feel bad about hurting someone they care about? If you can both go on with your lives, without carring anger, and Pain, then be friendly with each other. Just be carefull with how much you give to the frienship, since you were Intimate. That could cause problems. Good Luck

Blow him off for six or seven months, if he still wants to be friends, it was genuine, if he doesn't, it was the booty call factor.

Your hurt feelings and missing him will pass. It takes time and we humans tend to be impatient. Don't settle.

thank you all so much.
it's good to know what people think who dont know me.

Well guys like to keep their exes around, just in case for a booty call..He does not completly wanna burn down all his bridges.
Guys will say the darnest things.

Don't do it.........don't call don't e-mail don't have any contact........if you do before you know it you are settling for anything. When you can look at his picture and not ctry.......go through a couple days and not want to talk to him.......see him and not hurt then your ready to try being friends. I did what your contemplating with my ex.........booty call was exactly what i wound up being...........your worth more than that

Dear, listen to an old man, frst. thought he just wants to keep you handy for "those lonely nights."
Tell him to tell his story walking, YOU ARE WAY BETTER than that.

Let him prove his FRIENDSHIP & NEVER EVER let him talk you into bed, again.

BET you the dude is working you, for a good time at his beck & call.

If he wants "friendship", let his actions prove it.

OHH< forgot something: He wasn't MAN enought to break up in person. I think that is PURE chicken crap (don't think shit will go thru).
I would NEVER call that the actions of a MAN.
Tell him I said so, if you want.
DEFINATELY NOT a GENTLEMAN.

YOU ca do alot better.

I disagree with just about everyone here. It is impossible to say with any certainty, from my stand point as well, that he just wants a "booty call."

While this could very well be true, there are also other possiblities that should be considered. Maybe sometimes we should take things at face value. I don't know about everyone else, but when I tell someone that I want to keep in contact with them, that is what I mean. It does not NECCESSARILY mean that I have ill intentions or that I want to use that person in any way.
Maybe I think they are a wonderful person, but I need a break. W/e the case, by immediately assuming he only wants you for sex, you are diminishing him value.

Do what you want. If you don't want to talk to him ever, don't. If you do, then do. But it should be on terms that are agreeable to both parties. If he pressures you for "buddy" status or something, then tell him to get lost and re-evaluate your friendship then. There is (IMO, as is all of this) no final evaluation of a relationship (intimite or not), it's a continuous process.

Yep!

Well that was nicely said. Its true.