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I just want to die a beautiful death
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Edited by
Mrtap
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Fri 10/24/08 08:32 AM
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I went through cancer with the man I loved and he passed away almost 16 months ago... Obviously due to being terminally ill we had spoke of death a great deal... He had no fear of it at all - his only fear was how his death would be for those left behind...the most important thing I guess is living your life in a way where those you care for know that you do, and truly enjoying every day you have...because you never know when it's your time. I was with him the morning he died - there was a hospice nurse at the house and she told me it was happening. So I went in to hold him and make sure he felt loved and like it was "Okay" to let go... There was no fear, no pain, no tears at the moment it happened... we smiled at each other, said a few things, I kissed him and then there was just peace....it was the most heartbreaking beautiful moment of my life... and in that moment I learned, death really is nothing to fear at all... Not living life where you're loved and smiling at the end of it is what there is to fear.  I watched a uncle and good friend both die end of last year one the day after Christmas. I was there for the end. all total I seen 5 last breaths in my time. |
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Edited by
FreeToB
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Fri 10/24/08 08:35 AM
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I went through cancer with the man I loved and he passed away almost 16 months ago... Obviously due to being terminally ill we had spoke of death a great deal... He had no fear of it at all - his only fear was how his death would be for those left behind...the most important thing I guess is living your life in a way where those you care for know that you do, and truly enjoying every day you have...because you never know when it's your time. I was with him the morning he died - there was a hospice nurse at the house and she told me it was happening. So I went in to hold him and make sure he felt loved and like it was "Okay" to let go... There was no fear, no pain, no tears at the moment it happened... we smiled at each other, said a few things, I kissed him and then there was just peace....it was the most heartbreaking beautiful moment of my life... and in that moment I learned, death really is nothing to fear at all... Not living life where you're loved and smiling at the end of it is what there is to fear. That's a sad sad story ending with a beautiful sentiment. You're stronger than me. I watched my two best friends die of cancer, slow and painfully and it left me with a deep sadness that I still have but some relief that they were no longer hurting. [added after some thought about them both] One of them, Tommy Taylor from Haynesville, LA, lived his last 6 months or so unable to lay down because of congestive heart failure on top of his cancer. He told me many times that he was going to die on his dads farm where he had so many good memories. To his credit, he did just that. Made it all the way there by himself and they found him leaning against a tree on thier old farm. He died well and was not scared of it. |
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Me? Oh, I made peace with my inner demons years ago, so I have no fear of death. As a matter of fact I am so comfortable with my personal religous beliefs that I am actually anticipating it. The Diety I worship has a lot to answer for and I'm putting the screws to him!!
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Don't be afraid your life will end .. be afraid it never began.
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Don't be afraid your life will end .. be afraid it never began. 
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Nope. Sooner or later we all come back and have to do it again.
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No matter how strong your faith in the beyond we all suffer a healthy fear on the unknown.
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Death will come to all of us one day, that is for certain.
Make the most of each day and your life is worth living. 
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####Tomorrow is promised to no one####
SO Live and Laugh   
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Nope. Sooner or later we all come back and have to do it again. Crap Just when i thought i had it done I have to come back
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Nope. Sooner or later we all come back and have to do it again. Oh I ain't coming back, nope ain't happenning. I'm passing over and this time, I'm staying. I don't care, send one of the gods back in my place, I'm done with this rock. Now if they want to send me to the Andromeda Galaxy to live on that planet that has the really cool waterfalls, I'd think about it, but short of that, I ain't going. |
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I am afraid...I to watched a loved one pass away from cancer (my mother) she went from a vibraint,active woman to a a little old frail sickly wheelchair bound shell of a person in 5 months.Eventually we stood around her and watched her take her last breath as she lay in bed. It scared the hell out of me...watching her slip away like that. When my time comes, I just hope its fast....not like that.
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Everyone is afraid of something at one time or other.
Death is something we should never be afraid of no matter how bad we meet it. Life is what we should be afraid of, because it is full of both happiness and hurt. Life is the ultima high because you never know what tomorrow will bring no matter how small it is. We just have to have the strenght to see the subtle and major changes that await us and with the choice of what to do about it. Life is ability to choose and live with the choice. If is one we disagree with we still have the choice to do something about it. So when death comes and visit we look it in the eye and say ok. Life is the scary and happy demon we have to embrace. Death is just the last page turned in many pages before. |
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Not of death itself...
Now if we are talking about some hideously painful or miserable death, then the process of dying is absolutely terrifying! |
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I dont know how to make it out of this one alive...so Ive been preparing for it all my life.
So I guess not really. |
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I am not I know it part of the cycle of life. I just hope I can go out on my own terms That is one door I know I have to open so why should I be scared. I am content with who I am and how I choose to live. I am not religions either. So then, oh wise one, how many times have you almost died or . . . have you died . . . or just full of it on assumption of how you imagine you would behave? |
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I am not I know it part of the cycle of life. I just hope I can go out on my own terms That is one door I know I have to open so why should I be scared. I am content with who I am and how I choose to live. I am not religions either. So then, oh wise one, how many times have you almost died or . . . have you died . . . or just full of it on assumption of how you imagine you would behave? If you had read further it to the post you have seen that I did state I have meant my mortally more then once to be prise 3 times, and have watch 5 people take thier last breath also. No assumption on my part. |
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Mrtap, well said. However, life is what we should not be afraid of, I'd say. Too many of us are scared to make a move, decide somethhing momentous, out of the "what if" fear. What I am afraid of is what if I don't and then I'm sorry later? What if I passed up a wonderful opportunity. I'd rather be told no, or lose, fail, whatever than constantly wonder if I missed out on something wonderful.
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