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Topic: How many widowers out there?
Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Mon 12/07/09 06:51 PM
Yeah I am widowed also! Kenny Hello, how do you do with Christmas coming.. Has it been a while for you? This is a good thread..many good people here.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 12/07/09 06:53 PM
I feel out of my league. Looks like i'm the odd person out in this 50's and over thread Better to be the odd one out on this thread. Still allot of grief in divorce too. yea u get the rejection with divorce so true...I won't say what I'd like to out of respect for the widows/widowers here...

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Mon 12/07/09 06:59 PM
I feel out of my league. Looks like i'm the odd person out in this 50's and over thread Better to be the odd one out on this thread. Still allot of grief in divorce too. yea u get the rejection with divorce so true...I won't say what I'd like to out of respect for the widows/widowers here... There is loss, either divorce or death. How you view the past, the faces present or not. In either case, there cannot be closure. It is only a decision to see changes differently.

Mescale Joined Fri 12/04/09 Posts: 3	Mon 12/07/09 08:56 PM
There is a little Methodist Church in the Mountain Community(Clark Fork)and it's there I can spend Thanksgiving and Christmas,my only son passed away awhile back so there is nothing for me now,I try to stay away from memories by exercising,reading etc.

Katzenschnauzer Joined Sat 03/28/09 Posts: 2731	Tue 12/08/09 01:37 AM
There is a little Methodist Church in the Mountain Community(Clark Fork)and it's there I can spend Thanksgiving and Christmas,my only son passed away awhile back so there is nothing for me now,I try to stay away from memories by exercising,reading etc. I'm so sorry to hear about losing your son. You see, it's proof that we can whine and kavetch but there's always someone with a bigger loss or problem. We care, we really do.

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Tue 12/08/09 06:20 AM
There is a little Methodist Church in the Mountain Community(Clark Fork)and it's there I can spend Thanksgiving and Christmas,my only son passed away awhile back so there is nothing for me now,I try to stay away from memories by exercising,reading etc. It is a sadness that only your heart knows, understands. I am sad for your loss. Writing has been my release.

casualclay Joined Thu 10/22/09 Posts: 1	Fri 12/18/09 05:33 AM
Married----25 wonderful years Widowed----3 1/2 lonely years

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Fri 12/18/09 06:31 AM
Married----25 wonderful years Widowed----3 1/2 lonely years Morning, and welcome here..I left Lake Stevens in Sept, moved to OK..to be near my children. It does feel lonely, I have been widowed since 2005... Do you work for Boeing? stop back in here if you like ..others do..you are not alone in your situation..sometimes that doesn't feel like comfort..I know.. Sharris

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 12/19/09 03:27 PM
I was married less then 3 years and have been a widower for 20 years on April 12 Merry Christmas..have not seen you on the threads in a while. Not an easy time of year.. so ...checkin in..hope all is well

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Sat 12/19/09 04:23 PM
HI Sharris, how are you doing this day? The holidays bring such memories... its been a sad one for me today, thinking of my mom who loved Christmas with her grand and greatgrand kids... Carole

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 12/19/09 05:05 PM
HI Sharris, how are you doing this day? The holidays bring such memories... its been a sad one for me today, thinking of my mom who loved Christmas with her grand and greatgrand kids... Carole Today, ok, as the season nears, I feel those tugs when it is quiet. This year I am near my children, which is good. Though.. memories wrap quietly painful times. So, I will write my way through it a bit. I, too, miss my Mom..I can always find good..so..it will be ok. I am sad your mother is not here..I am thankful your surgery went well. Merry Christmas..and..thanks for the "HI"

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Mon 12/21/09 07:10 AM
Yeap hearing you got to toughen up and move on is hard. But I guess it protects you. I feel awkward posting to this thread, since I haven't lost a spouse. I have, however had many other (albeit lesser) losses, of other loved ones, which have taught me that when life blindsides you, you can only sit out so many rounds to grieve, and then you just have to make yourself get up and get back into the game again. Friends can help, can commiserate, can love you and pray for you....but ultimately, you have to make the move. I pray for all of you....for the losses you have suffered.....and for hope for the future... You right Jan Thank you. I know my loved ones gone would like to see me happy and plus I have allot to be thanksful for for.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Mon 12/21/09 07:13 AM
Yeah breathing :) that is why I got into gentle Yoga :) haven't tried that..walking helps..getting up in the morning, too. It just nothing hard good for the joints.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Mon 12/21/09 07:20 AM
Married----25 wonderful years Widowed----3 1/2 lonely years Glad you found us check out the rest of the forums. It will be 4 years for me on Christmas Eve. People think that is so sad but for him a celebration to be out of pain and with the Lord. And looking at it that way helps. He really lived allot longer than he thought possible.

bluzguy55 Joined Sat 12/19/09 Posts: 11	Tue 01/12/10 04:27 AM
3 years for me.Is it me or does being a widower send red flags up as far as trying to find a relationship?I mean divorce is a choice that was made,death isn't.I know they are both life changing events but....

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Tue 01/12/10 08:49 AM
3 years for me.Is it me or does being a widower send red flags up as far as trying to find a relationship?I mean divorce is a choice that was made,death isn't.I know they are both life changing events but.... Welcome, there are quite a few here...as you have touched upon..not our choice. This can be a good place to find friends..unravel a bit..for we all have those times..check out the threads, the Island one, 50's threads..You could find a spot that fits.. welcome

carolanne58 Joined Wed 07/18/07 Posts: 1727	Thu 01/21/10 09:25 PM
Hello everyone! A widow as well 13 yrs. Still miss him with all my heart. But life goes on and I have been shareing the last year with another mingle2 member.Sadly things have ended.I wish him only the best.hugs to everyone.carol

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Fri 01/22/10 03:32 PM
It's good to see yah Carolanne, miss yah on here :) I don't agree with the red flags on widowers. I think the predators think we are more easy prey. Or maybe just because divorce was more a stigma when I was growing up. But hell I've been both.

reneeclements Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6	Sat 01/30/10 09:21 PM
i lost my husband in 2005

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 01/31/10 05:06 AM
i lost my husband in 2005 Sorry for your loss, been 12+ years for me. Never gets easier, you just get more practice handling it.