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Topic: Living together before marriage.
MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:33 AM
:smile:What are your opinions on living together before marriage?:smile:Why?:smile:

chevylover1965's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:35 AM
yup, all for it !
this way you will know if thing's or going to work out between the two of you ...

laughsandgiggles's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:35 AM
Hmmm well i've done both- gotten married without living together and it didn't work and i've lived together without getting married and it didn't work.

my thoughts- just live alone and see each other on the weekends.

hmmmmm maybe its just menoway frustrated biggrin

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:36 AM
I think it's great. I would never marry anyone without living with them first. I get half the bills paid, free sex, coffee made for me (hopefully), and no one biotching about what a biotch I am. That comes after marriage. laugh

directandwrite's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:36 AM
Don't really have a problem with it morally if it is just living together...the question becomes, for me, what else are they doing together if they are living together before married...which opens a whole new can of worms and moral debate what with religion and personal opinions...

So to be perfectly frank with you, I have mixed feelings on it.

Hope you're doing well Mirror! flowerforyou

sexybabyforu's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:37 AM
i see it as a good idea.cause there is alot quicks thats they may have or habits.that if u where to just get married what happens if u hate it.i would rather get too knw person before i have relationship with them..

adirtygirl's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:37 AM
compare it to buying a car site unseen and not driving it first...how do you know you will make a good fit.....

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Tue 11/04/08 11:40 AM
Ive done both!!! I think the key is to really get to "know" that person before hand before doing ANYTHING!!!noway Im not into the surprize psycho crazy violent people!!! I like to know this stuff before I marry anyone ever again!!!noway

Pink_lady's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:40 AM

I think it's great. I would never marry anyone without living with them first. I get half the bills paid, free sex, coffee made for me (hopefully), and no one biotching about what a biotch I am. That comes after marriage. laugh


Yup! thats how i see it too!! sums it up nicely! lol!


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Tue 11/04/08 11:47 AM
Hey!!! Im only a b*tch when they dont do what they are told!!!pitchfork :wink: laugh laugh laugh

chevylover1965's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:49 AM
it put's the lotion on it's skin !noway

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:49 AM
No, we are biotches when we remind them of broken promises, if you do what they said they were going to do, if you do it in front of them, if you do anything you did before you got together, if you go anywhere, wear anything other than sweats, if you wear sweats, etc etc etc etc etc.

Infinity.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:50 AM

Don't really have a problem with it morally if it is just living together...the question becomes, for me, what else are they doing together if they are living together before married...which opens a whole new can of worms and moral debate what with religion and personal opinions...

So to be perfectly frank with you, I have mixed feelings on it.

Hope you're doing well Mirror! flowerforyou
flowerforyouIm doing pretty good, thanks,I hope your doing well.flowerforyou

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Tue 11/04/08 11:53 AM
Living together is a good idea. I do not think you really know someone until you live with them.

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/04/08 11:55 AM
And see if they hang up the towel or shut the shower curtain, or have these freaky little quirks. One guy freaked because I closed but did not latch the cupboards. I also left my coffee cup by the sink and not "in it"... heavens to betsy. noway

It is odd how much those things add up. And c'mon, trash pickup is always the same day, why is it so hard to remember?

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Tue 11/04/08 11:57 AM
OMG I forgot about the snoring!!! I cant deal with it!!! SHADDDDDDDDDDDAP ALREADY!!!explode noway laugh

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Tue 11/04/08 12:19 PM
I think you should try living together before getting hitched!

keepthehope's photo
Wed 11/05/08 12:05 AM
There is no guarantee in anything. I can tell you from experience, living together doesn't help at all. Trying to get out of that situation right now. I have also been married, without living together, and that didn't work either. I think we all just have to be very careful with any relationship that you think is going to lead to marriage, or even just a permanent relationship. I wouldn't do it again that is for sure.

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Wed 11/05/08 12:07 AM
take the test drive...

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Wed 11/05/08 08:54 AM

:smile:What are your opinions on living together before marriage?:smile:Why?:smile:


I've had about a dozen live-in arrangements, and I think they're great. You can get to know a lot more about a person by living with them than you can through the twice- or three-times-a-week date. If they're boring and lifeless, you find out a lot sooner by living with them.

As for the "before marriage" part -- My ex-wife and I lived together for awhile before we got married. The really radical bad changes in her -- the overpossessiveness, the jealousy, the drug use -- didn't kick in until after we were married.

I can see myself living with someone again; but, marriage? Not bloody likely.




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