What would you do if your husband got another woman pregnant? would you forgive him, and could you ever love that child?

kick his dead beat butt to the curb !

kthxbai all i have to say

been there.. tried that..
it wasnt the fogiving that was so hard.. it was the getting him to stop the cheating that sucked..
eventualy after 29 girls in 5 years of a 7 year relationship.. i gave up..

of course.. after she got pregnant.. and i found out about the other 20 girls.. and the next 8 that came in the next 6 months.. well.. the forgiving got harder and harder..

so.. no i wouldnt play again.. a leopard cant change his spots..

dag

sure...i would forget him...youu know, all of us have mistakes...

Also, i will file for divorce and ask for alimony and start dating all his friends

my ex hubby did. while we were separated before i even filed for divorce he had a child with that person. but before he had a child 3months before our son was born and i didnt find out untill much later. my ex hubby has a total of 6kids

lol related to your other question about denying the truth.. HAHAHA

not my high point in my life..

I don't know if it's *you* in this situation or if you're asking about someone else or whatever. I'll just address the response to you:

Your husband got this lady pregnant. He's now responsible for that child and, by association, he's responsible for that woman as well. Your his wife though...

For me, the deciding factor is the child who has done absolutely nothing to deserve such a conflicted origin.

Now, if your husband blows off the mother and the kid and comes back to you, that's the easier deal. I'd be suspicious of that if I were you. For your husband to take care of a pregnant woman and finally a child, that's a lot of trouble. If you completely forgive him, I think both you, that woman, and the child are getting the bad deal.

Personally, I'd tell him to be a man and take responsibility for that woman and her child or at least support the lady financially. Then, if I were you, I'd leave him.

As for loving the child, well...the child isn't yours and you are not directly responsible for it, so I'm not sure that's a relevant question. If you do want to take custody of the child finally, then I hope you can finally love the child. The child did nothing wrong; to resent a child because of what the child's parents did just isn't fair. That'd be like hating a child because it's black or something - it's just not fair.

Well, hopefully all that is helpful.

That's good, Notquite.

Ouch, sorry to hear that. Yeah...bottom line - drop that man fast as you can. =\

thank you.. i did.. going on 3 years freedom.. and aside from the one time (that was not by choice) prefer to avoid contact with him..

I recall that story about the guy who had five kids by six wives...and then the wives found out about each other...
...it was on a special episode of tv, about the lawsuits and stuff.
But the guy made a GOOD living, and was a great dad, and each wife loved him to pieces...so they all got together and dealt with it. One big extended happy family...with three homes, in three states.

I've heard that the perfect number of wives is four. If you have two, they rip you apart. If you have three, then two scheme against the third. If you have four, then there's balance.

Not that I would do it.
I was at my limit with just one!!

No I could not forgive him, I would divorce him as quick as possible. I have been cheated on in the past by my ex husband and I did even have a clue, so no I would not forgive him. As someone stated before a leopard doesnt change its spot.

Nope I would'nt forgive...though my ex did'nt get anyone pregnant...he cheated a bunch of times and the last one was the last straw. She was actually the daughter of a family friend (his family) but she was also know as a h*e, she had been with every one of his brothers , a few cousins and everyone at the local bar.

I could forgive and I wanted to forgive. I thought we had something to salvage after 21 years of marriage. He said no to changing his ways. For me not having him value me and seeing me worthy of the effort is something I can't forgive. A year after the divorce, he wanted another chance, but I have moved forward and still moving forward.

Well he obviously isn't happy about something in our relationship, so I'd leave and tell him good luck with that other woman.

i would love the child but as for the husband no way when your married your married there shall never be any steping out

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