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Topic: how to tell if it's a "date", or a friendly "hangout"?
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Tue 01/20/09 06:54 PM
I'm meeting up with this guy for the second time soon, and while I am not sure the importance of the clarification, I am just wondering how you are supposed to define whether it is a date or not? do they really mean different things? Does it really matter??

PATSFAN's photo
Tue 01/20/09 06:56 PM
whoa Wowwhoa

ledi180's photo
Tue 01/20/09 06:56 PM
I don't think it matters how ya label it - go out, get to know each other and have a good time! flowerforyou

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Tue 01/20/09 06:56 PM
wow congrads on meeting twice, I would ask him before we met up was it a date or was this just another meeting.
Cause if you meet again he may be thinking whoohoo time :wink:

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Tue 01/20/09 06:57 PM

I'm meeting up with this guy for the second time soon, and while I am not sure the importance of the clarification, I am just wondering how you are supposed to define whether it is a date or not? do they really mean different things? Does it really matter??
bigsmile its all about spending time togetherbigsmile

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Tue 01/20/09 06:58 PM
Edited by Drago01 on Tue 01/20/09 06:59 PM
Dont ask a guy anything on a date, he will just find some way to use it to his advantage. <cough>
Be an island, make him work at the conversation and you will soon detect his intentions and his ideas.

You seem like a nice girl. Just relax and dont give it up on this date. My two-cents.

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Tue 01/20/09 07:00 PM
Edited by yve726 on Tue 01/20/09 07:01 PM

wow congrads on meeting twice, I would ask him before we met up was it a date or was this just another meeting.
Cause if you meet again he may be thinking whoohoo time :wink:


LOL i've been talking to him ALOT,almost every night for a month now. but becuase i'm so new to this whole dating thing....I'm just not sure what to expect or how to even bring up this kind of conversation..

The first time we met, he insisted on paying for everything..even though i said I'd pay for myself...i just thought if we were just "hanging out", or even if it was a "date", i still should pay for my own b/c i dont want him to think im taking advantage of him

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Tue 01/20/09 07:00 PM

Dont ask a guy anything on a date, he will just find some way to use it to his advantage. <cough>
Be an island, make him work at the conversation and you will soon detect his intentions and his ideas.

You seem like a nice girl. Just relax and dont give it up on this date. My two-cents.


you mean like Prince Edward's .....?

texascycle's photo
Tue 01/20/09 07:02 PM
Offer to pay for your part ... if he insists on paying, its a date. Dating by the book, pg 43 par 2

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Tue 01/20/09 07:02 PM

Dont ask a guy anything on a date, he will just find some way to use it to his advantage. <cough>
Be an island, make him work at the conversation and you will soon detect his intentions and his ideas.

You seem like a nice girl. Just relax and dont give it up on this date. My two-cents.


Don't ask him anything? so I should jsut sit there and answer whatever he asks? lol jk...I can't even bring up this kind of talk on the phone anyway..so i probably wouldn't be able to bring it up in person

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Tue 01/20/09 07:03 PM


Dont ask a guy anything on a date, he will just find some way to use it to his advantage. <cough>
Be an island, make him work at the conversation and you will soon detect his intentions and his ideas.

You seem like a nice girl. Just relax and dont give it up on this date. My two-cents.


you mean like Prince Edward's .....?

Well yeah, why not? If he is truly intersted and she is unsure of his intentions, why not try for a nite of discovery? If they like each other, its gonna happen sooner or later anyway.

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Tue 01/20/09 07:03 PM

I'm meeting up with this guy for the second time soon, and while I am not sure the importance of the clarification, I am just wondering how you are supposed to define whether it is a date or not? do they really mean different things? Does it really matter??


Don't over think it. Go out and enjoy the time together. Get to know each other and see what develops.flowerforyou

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Tue 01/20/09 07:04 PM
YES IT MATTERS!

In a date there is touching privilege after about the third or fourth one but some people move slower.

Hanging out there is no sexual context or intent.

Better be clear where you stand on this.

It can get disastrous if you are not careful!

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Tue 01/20/09 07:05 PM
I wouldnt label it anything at this point, so just go out and have a fun time!

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Tue 01/20/09 07:12 PM

I wouldnt label it anything at this point, so just go out and have a fun time!


hm..that's true..maybe i shouldn't label it...it's just that i dont want him to pay for my part again like last time..so i thought maybe the clarification decides wether it's appropriate for me to pay for my own part

ljcc1964's photo
Tue 01/20/09 07:13 PM
What's a date?

aLittleBird's photo
Tue 01/20/09 07:16 PM

What's a date?


lmao rofl rofl rofl

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Tue 01/20/09 07:21 PM
The "kiss" usually lets me know. Seriousy!!!

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Tue 01/20/09 07:23 PM

The "kiss" usually lets me know. Seriousy!!!


so if you don't kiss it's not a date ?

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Tue 01/20/09 07:24 PM
You will know intuitively if this is just a nice meet and greet and a date shortly. (Dang, I feel like a freakin' Chinese fortune cookie!!! laugh laugh laugh )

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