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i've had an online love interest for awhile and i am pretty sure shes cutting me out. shes not answering my emails and i wait about three or four days between the letters. this has happened before with about five or six people, for two or three weeks they they say i am awesome and that they really like me and then bam!...nothing. i would understand if it was a single letter or if i used profanity or negetive tones but i am almost always caring, romatic and deep in my letters and the it usually lasts a couple months.
i can't think of any rhyme or reason behind it other than a vague idea that i am really different and that i want a deep and meaningful relationship. thank you for reading so far, do you have any ideas or answers which might help. : ) thank you. |
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Edited by
2KidsMom
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Tue 01/20/09 07:31 PM
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Do not have a clue-Has happened to me too.It's sad how ppl will just stop talking to you for no reason. Who Know's? good luck..
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Move along to the next one. Sh*t like this happens a lot on online dating. Women are fickle as hell usually until you find the right one who isn't.
If they say you are awesome without meeting you you are being spoon fed bullpoo. Like anything else online, tread carefully! |
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what you say and mean in your e-mails may not be preceived by women!
example: I once wrote: I like to have fun. she read it: I want to have sex and I am not serious! good luck!
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They are probably feeling like you are too much of a nice guy. Some woman think stuff like that is overwhelming. And they might feel the letters are too romantic maybe. Or they just dont have an interest anymore. But that was way sweet of you! But it would have been polite of them to respond to your emails instead of just leaving you hanging.
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some honestly just want the attention, they want to 'feel' like someone out there cares...but over the internet that can change in an instant and become old it's the whole 'i can get him' 'but can i get him' game. Some it is a game unfortunately where they just want their ego stroked, but if they feel it is getting too much and they actually don't know/arn't ready for anything better for them to back off...but that's jmo
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Wish I had an answer as well. I've had guys do the same thing....say they're interested and want to talk, but then they never write back after a while. If they don't want to talk, I wish they had the decency to say so. I guess that's all in the game of "dating" though.
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Did you try doing the Robot?
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I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. " This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love ... They try to posses it, they demand, they expect ... And just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, You can not change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love.To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring." Passing thought ... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away. |
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i've had an online love interest for awhile and i am pretty sure shes cutting me out. shes not answering my emails and i wait about three or four days between the letters. this has happened before with about five or six people, for two or three weeks they they say i am awesome and that they really like me and then bam!...nothing. i would understand if it was a single letter or if i used profanity or negetive tones but i am almost always caring, romatic and deep in my letters and the it usually lasts a couple months. i can't think of any rhyme or reason behind it other than a vague idea that i am really different and that i want a deep and meaningful relationship. thank you for reading so far, do you have any ideas or answers which might help. : ) thank you. Some people are in this sites to play around only .Sorry to hear that:( |
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Could be that you look like the guy from House.
 I agree with the "fickle as hell" part. However, it depends on how you are writing your emails. Are you writing something out of a romance novel? I've seen threads on here from some of the guys and their writing can be a bit over the top. Have you met any of these love interests in person? Writing love letters isn't the way to go unless you have actually met. Hang in there. |
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I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. " This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love ... They try to posses it, they demand, they expect ... And just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, You can not change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love.To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring." Passing thought ... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away. Great story dude, thanks for sharing! 
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It's because as long as it's online it really doesn't "matter" to some people. It's not real. Sucks but it's true.
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I read through your profile. Personally, I would lose the Aristotle quote "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies". Sounds like someone wanting to f@#k themselves.
Take into consideration that you are 21 years old. I don't know the age of the women you are emailing but the majority of people in your age bracket are going to college and cutting loose. Not saying there aren't a few out there wanting to fall in love but those are the party days for most of you. You're young so you have plenty of time to find love. Stick with making friends, going out on dates and focusing on the things you love to do in life. Love isn't going to "complete you" or bring you happiness. Find happiness within yourself first, and then look for a copilot to join you on this crazy roller coaster called life. Hope that helps. |
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i don't know, I think its more they loose interest, they get overwhelmed and really aren't ready for something of that magnitude...
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thank you for the comfort and advice guys.
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with online dating, you'll never know the answers to problems like this.
for instance... she could really be married, and her husband found her profile. there are MANY random reasons that things like this happen. good luck with a future love!
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Watch Out,
I will NaNaNaNow Bust a M'M'M'M'M'M'Move! Groov'v'v'v'y! 
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I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. " This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love ... They try to posses it, they demand, they expect ... And just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, You can not change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love.To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring." Passing thought ... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away. Very well stated
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Generally I think sometimes it is just a distance thing. It sounds all romantic and so forth to start but when people start thinking about what it really would mean to pick up and move away from everything and everyone they know they get cold feet.
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