PLEASE at least think about this post.

Why even ask this question if you already love and care for your unborn child? You already have one child, would you give your son up because a man didn't want to deal with him? If someone loves you they should except your current situation regardless of what it is. Find someone who is willing to love you for you and your children.

How long has your X had to digest the new situtation...If he truly loves you he will put his pride behind him and accept things as they are...If you abort it will never stop haunting you...My X and I split up in 1986 and when we got back together she wanted her tubes tied..She didnt want me to go with her and several years later while going thru some old tax papers I found an insurance statement where she had a DNC at the same time as the tubligeration....DNC is a polite term for abortion....When she left 2 and half years ago she made the comment that I had no idea what she had been thru to keep me happy..I think I did and had she told me she got pregrenant while we were seperated years earlier I would have accepted things as they were because I have always loved her that much. I.applaude you for telling him...If he can accept that you slept with someone then given time he can accept the child ...There is always the option of giving the baby up for adoption....Dont hate him or give up on him until you are 100 percent sure that if he told you he got a girl pregenant and the mom didnt want the baby so he would expect you to help raise the child as your own..What would your answer be...............

if he love's you it will work out

As you see in the posts above i was pregnant but i went to the hospital last night and found out that i had lost the baby

Give it time He will grow to love the new baby if he loves you...

Sorry to hear that.

Hey sweetie, I was married for nearly 8 years to my two oldest father. I have been divorced for like 7 yrs now. A few years ago I ran back into the love of my life who had 3 teenagers of his own from a previous marriage. That made 5 kids already. We got engaged, I was not supposed to have anymore because i had started the change of life early and my youngest was 8yrs old. Then it happened! My hormones hit the roof and Whoops! there she is! Unfortunately I also found him cheating on me with the married former youth pastor who lived across the street for our entire relationship. Then he decided he did not want her and wanted me to give her up for adoption! Of course, I chose the child over the man....A man can be replaced, a child cannot and every child is God's little blessing! And this child saved my life! Had I not had her and gone through a c-section, I would not be here now because of a blood clot that was near my heart. I would have been gone in less than 6 mos and left my other children parent-less!

He thought we could not afford it and well i refused as you know so I packed up my children and moved 500 miles away to SC to start anew life. I bought a little house for us and I have a job. I refused to give up and refused to return the blessing my God had given me!

2 weeks ago he came to visit to go to child support court. He saw where we were how we were living and wondered how I can do it. I told him all things are possible through Christ! I have never given up my faith and it is my faith that keeps me going! Our baby girl is now 8mos old and still so very precious and the apple of my eye!

And now, he decides he wants to participate! I wish he had gotten his head out of his butt before now, but I cannot complain.

So sorry.

He walked out on you and your baby after you had 8 years! Screw him. He is not worth your time, and that outher guy is a piece of well... you can fill in the blank. I know exactly what you are going through, only My first left after we found out we were prego with #2 baby, I wasn't working... then #2 man was even worse he beat me when I was prego with #3 baby (who is now 8 months old)... I am alone and doing just fine, what I am working on now is finding out who I am without the drama of having a man to take care of... plus, I have better relationships with all three of my beautiful daughters... Never let a man try to tell you what to do with your body, that is none of his freakin business! that baby is yours and you will love it, and it will love you, and you will be happier knowing that you didn't kill it for a man who isn't worthy of you in the first place! stand up for yourself, you are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. Trust me when I tell you that "You don't know how strong you are, until strong is all you can be."

Elenor Roosevelt once said:
"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face... You must do the thing you think you cannot do."

Take this as your challenge and learn who you are before you try to add a man... That baby is more important, and you are more important. Put your children first, you second, and forget the man who is trying to control you, you only think you need him because he has been in your life for so long... Please. From experiance. E-mail me (tiffanylacy85@comcast.net) if you need to, I am here as a single mom who has so been where you are right now.

The important matter here is the kids. You have to do what is best for them. If this guy is not willing to love you still (which is not technically possible, he either loves you or he doesn't) then you will have to move on and find a man who is man enough to see past the technicalities of the children's heritage and more about making a life with you and them. Good luck.

Maybe some of you missed her post, but she had a miscarriage last night.

I did, sorry to hear. I hope you will find what you are looking for. Just always remember that the baby's father was unwilling to love you unconditionally and that will crop up again later.

Good luck.

Two Kids, Two Dads, 23 years old. First, make sure both dads are going to help support THEIR children. Its takes two and in your case doubly so.(is doubly a word?) You dont have to go this alone. Next thing to do is find some personal support. Can you work a job while someone takes care of your children? Mom, Dad, Bro, Sis, Professional? What do you want to do?
Get a plan and work on it.

I agree with adoption wholeheartedly but NEVER EVER do it for the reason youve given here .. a man!!!

You have to do it because you know its best for your baby NOT best for what your man wants.

I'm very sorry for your loss...

Oh wow, hunny Im so sorry for your loss!!

A REAL MAN WOULD NEVER BE SO SHALLOW AS TO THINK OF HIMSELF FIRST INSTEAD OF A HUMAN LIFE ESPECIALLY THAT OF A BABY

TAKE CARE

Hello,
I feel for you. Your situation though tough is a simple solution. You say this man will take you back and I assume you belive he loves you.

Would you ask someone you truely love to kill their unborn child? Hypothetically, if he were a woman?

You are the only one who can make the decision. Just remember, there are many many men in the world who would love you no matter what. If I am not mistaken, isn't that the definition of true love.

My hope for you is you close the door on the man you believe you love. You can still be friends possibly, depending on his maturity level and integrity. You have your son, real true unconditional love right there! What a blessing and another gift on the way. I hope you take care and love yourself first. Love WILL find you again.

Take care of yourself and your true treasure(s)!

sorry for your loss