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Topic: People need to get over themselves
EveningKiss's photo
Sat 01/24/09 08:53 AM
Am I the only one whom gets pissed off when your trying to talk to someone casually and they thing more is going on then what you have already stated?

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 01/24/09 08:54 AM
I get more pissed off when the entire "friends" thing shatter to nothing more than not one damn bit of communication...

TBRich's photo
Sat 01/24/09 08:56 AM

Am I the only one whom gets ed off when your trying to talk to someone casually and they thing more is going on then what you have already stated?


You are not alone. In fact this week, someone called the cops on me and for what, I was accused of walking up and down a strip mall (was doing laundry) and talking on my cell and looking in the shop windows. Five cops surrounded me and one was two inches from my face yelling. Finally, he said "do you know what is going on now?" I said no not really, He said "You are frightening the people down there, they think you are planning on robbing them".

moonlight_ride62's photo
Sat 01/24/09 08:56 AM
I get tired of having to work all the time...

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Sat 01/24/09 08:57 AM
smokin Don't talk to them smokin

moonlight_ride62's photo
Sat 01/24/09 08:58 AM

I get tired of having to work all the time...

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CleanBathroom's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:00 AM
I think you posted this because you love me. smokin

TBRich's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:01 AM
Ladies dig a guy with a clean bathroom

EveningKiss's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:05 AM

I think you posted this because you love me. smokin




Only in the most impure way i asure you =P


Seriously though. I had some dip**** think that i wanted to sleep with him or date him because i was talking to him and his friend all night. He stated earlier in the night he didnt date. I was JUST talking to him and my other friends in the club. He staretd getting REALLY freaken rude. Never once did i say i wanted to do anything more then talk to him outside of the club. *shakes head* idiots.

FragmentedAlpha's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:10 AM
He forgot rule #3: If you are drinking and a woman seems interested in you, you are wrong.

Truly, people need to get over themselves. I ask dumb questions all the time, just because I wanna make sure what I think is going on resembles the reality.:smile:

writer_gurl's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:14 AM

He forgot rule #3: If you are drinking and a woman seems interested in you, you are wrong.

Truly, people need to get over themselves. I ask dumb questions all the time, just because I wanna make sure what I think is going on resembles the reality.:smile:

We got a smartthink on heredrinker bigsmile

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:15 AM

Am I the only one whom gets pissed off when your trying to talk to someone casually and they thing more is going on then what you have already stated?


bigsmile Yeah it pisses me off tooflowerforyou

EveningKiss's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:18 AM


He forgot rule #3: If you are drinking and a woman seems interested in you, you are wrong.

Truly, people need to get over themselves. I ask dumb questions all the time, just because I wanna make sure what I think is going on resembles the reality.:smile:

We got a smartthink on heredrinker bigsmile


Hes smart and single. Okay um. . . What happened? LOL

prisoner's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:19 AM

Ladies dig a guy with a clean bathroom
:smile: that leaves me out but silverfish do make great pets...be seeing you

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:24 AM
Thanks to my therapist I only have to get over me. I do miss the voices sometimes when I get lonely.:smile:

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:25 AM


Ladies dig a guy with a clean bathroom
:smile: that leaves me out but silverfish do make great pets...be seeing you


waving Be seeing youwaving

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Sat 01/24/09 10:05 AM
Edited by JackFids on Sat 01/24/09 10:09 AM

Seriously though. I had some dip**** think that i wanted to sleep with him or date him because i was talking to him and his friend all night. He stated earlier in the night he didnt date. I was JUST talking to him and my other friends in the club. He staretd getting REALLY freaken rude. Never once did i say i wanted to do anything more then talk to him outside of the club. *shakes head* idiots.


You said something that gave him an expectation OR you said a lot of little things he read as HINTS plane & simple, he was looking for them.
A lot of people will assume you are interested in them if you spend time with them & make a statement like "you're cute" or your picture is.
Some hang on each & every tiny thing that can be seen as complementary then thru-out a conversation they add them up thinking that each one was a "hint" that you are interested.

THEN when they return the hints & you don't pick up on their message they will assume you are a tease & they become rude, they do it because they are hurt by the rejection that they see unfolding...1 minute you appear to them to be courting something deeper then all of a sudden you are not. They are either hurt & do not recognize where the comm. failure occurred OR they misinterpret the time you spend with them as approval & pursuit, when you make your intentions known after a few inappropriate comments they assume you have been wasting their time or teasing and they want YOU to hurt in the same degree THEY are.
One has to be VERY clear about why there is an engagement in the 1st place.
IF you stated at the intro, " You are cute and nice BUT I am ONLY talking because I have time on my hands & I am NOT looking for anything but conversation".....they would likely not stick around or they would at least know your exact intentions.
I wouldn't spend a all night talking with someone who did not interest or stimulate me in some valuable way & if I did have a long conversation & I kept getting hint they wanted more than I did from it I would call them on each infraction of the expectation...gently. Remember we ALL have feelings that can be dented or hurt and that expectations are BUILT 1 brick at a time.
Be careful NOT to raise anothers expectations of your intentions, do not be coy when attempting to be funny or sweet & do not say things that are "lead-ons" unless you mean them. Women like to HINT so that men discover what they want AND men are very keen on searching for hints when they are searching for the relationship they want or expect.

Rack it up to miscommunication & don't get all bent out of shape when it happens because it happens in the best of LTR's after decades of togetherness, you blow it off as an error on both parts and next time you are more clear in your intentions or speech. Simple deal, if it gets ugly or abusive ONLINE, you have an OFF button & if that isn't sufficient there is BLOCK and REPORT to use as tools to end it.

Then there are the imbalanced...
Getting you bothered is actually some yo-yo's goal!
It is a way they can feel/gain a sense of power over you & because they are miserable to begin with their goal is to make everyone feel the way they do, it IS a type of companionship, twisted yes but by doing so it puts all in the conversation at the same level, just don't fall for it and if you find that you already have, STOP the conversation abruptly w/o warning or explanation, afterall you OWE them nothing!
Being clear with your recipient is the best way to avoid that which you experienced, in the beginning and throughout a conversation.
One mistake on the part of another is small potatoes in the overall scheme of things, blow it off & move forward & be smarter for the experience. Life is a classroom of learning & every nice guy & Bozo has something to teach you worth learning whether you enjoy the "lesson" or not..!

AND remember we ALL deserve what we NEED, it is just that some (actually MANY) confuse what they NEED with what they DESIRE, and that is a serious mistake for anyone to make.

GO find that person that makes your heart sing & your knees quiver, they are searching for YOU for the same reasons!

...and don't build a callous on your spirit because of a single incident, that only restricts & damages YOUR potential satisfaction in life & not theirs.








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Sat 01/24/09 10:08 AM


Seriously though. I had some dip**** think that i wanted to sleep with him or date him because i was talking to him and his friend all night. He stated earlier in the night he didnt date. I was JUST talking to him and my other friends in the club. He staretd getting REALLY freaken rude. Never once did i say i wanted to do anything more then talk to him outside of the club. *shakes head* idiots.


You said something that gave him an expectation OR you said a lot of little things he read as HINTS plane & simple, he was looking for them.
A lot of people will assume you are interested in them if you spend time with them & make a statement like "you're cute" or your picture is.
Some hang on each & every tiny thing that can be seen as complementary then thru-out a conversation they add them up thinking that each one was a "hint" that you are interested.

THEN when they return the hints & you don't pick up on their message they will assume you are a tease & they become rude, they do it because they are hurt by the rejection that they see unfolding...1 minute you appear to them to be courting something deeper then all of a sudden you are not. They are either hurt & do not recognize where the comm. failure occurred OR they misinterpret the time you spend with them as approval & pursuit, when you make your intentions known after a few inappropriate comments they assume you have been wasting their time or teasing and they want YOU to hurt in the same degree THEY are.
One has to be VERY clear about why there is an engagement in the 1st place.
IF you stated at the intro, " You are cute and nice BUT I am ONLY talking because I have time on my hands & I am NOT looking for anything but conversation".....they would likely not stick around or they would at least know your exact intentions.
I wouldn't spend a all night talking with someone who did not interest or stimulate me in some valuable way & if I did have a long conversation & I kept getting hint they wanted more than I did from it I would call them on each infraction of the expectation...gently. Remember we ALL have feelings that can be dented or hurt and that expectations are BUILT 1 brick at a time.
Be careful NOT to raise anothers expectations of your intentions, do not be coy when attempting to be funny or sweet & do not say things that are "lead-ons" unless you mean them. Women like to HINT so that men discover what they want AND men are very keen on searching for hints when they are searching for the relationship they want or expect.

Rack it up to miscommunication & don't get all bent out of shape when it happens because it happens in the best of LTR's after decades of togetherness, you blow it off as an error on both parts and next time you are more clear in your intentions or speech. Simple deal, if it gets ugly or abusive you have an OFF button & if that isn't sufficient there is BLOCK and REPORT to use as tools to end it.
Then there are the imbalanced...
Getting you bothered is actually some yo-yo's goal!
It is a way they can feel/gain a sense of power over you & because they are miserable to begin with their goal is to make everyone feel the way they do, it IS a type of companionship, twisted yes but by doing so it puts all in the conversation at the same level, just don't fall for it and if you find that you already have, STOP the conversation abruptly w/o warning or explanation, afterall you OWE them nothing!
Being clear with your recipient is the best way to avoid that which you experienced, in the beginning and throughout a conversation.
One mistake on the part of another is small potatoes in the overall scheme of things, blow it off & move forward & be smarter for the experience. Life is a classroom of learning & every nice guy & Bozo has something to teach you worth learning whether you enjoy the "lesson" or not..!

AND remember we ALL deserve what we NEED, it is just that some (actually MANY) confuse what they NEED with what they DESIRE, and that is a serious mistake for anyone to make.

GO find that person that makes your heart sing & your knees quiver, they are searching for YOU for the same reasons!

...and don't build a callous on your spirit because of a single incident, that only restricts & damages YOUR potential satisfaction in life & not theirs.




Do you have the Reader's Digest version?

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:13 AM


Seriously though. I had some dip**** think that i wanted to sleep with him or date him because i was talking to him and his friend all night. He stated earlier in the night he didnt date. I was JUST talking to him and my other friends in the club. He staretd getting REALLY freaken rude. Never once did i say i wanted to do anything more then talk to him outside of the club. *shakes head* idiots.


You said something that gave him an expectation OR you said a lot of little things he read as HINTS plane & simple, he was looking for them.
A lot of people will assume you are interested in them if you spend time with them & make a statement like "you're cute" or your picture is.
Some hang on each & every tiny thing that can be seen as complementary then thru-out a conversation they add them up thinking that each one was a "hint" that you are interested.

THEN when they return the hints & you don't pick up on their message they will assume you are a tease & they become rude, they do it because they are hurt by the rejection that they see unfolding...1 minute you appear to them to be courting something deeper then all of a sudden you are not. They are either hurt & do not recognize where the comm. failure occurred OR they misinterpret the time you spend with them as approval & pursuit, when you make your intentions known after a few inappropriate comments they assume you have been wasting their time or teasing and they want YOU to hurt in the same degree THEY are.
One has to be VERY clear about why there is an engagement in the 1st place.
IF you stated at the intro, " You are cute and nice BUT I am ONLY talking because I have time on my hands & I am NOT looking for anything but conversation".....they would likely not stick around or they would at least know your exact intentions.
I wouldn't spend a all night talking with someone who did not interest or stimulate me in some valuable way & if I did have a long conversation & I kept getting hint they wanted more than I did from it I would call them on each infraction of the expectation...gently. Remember we ALL have feelings that can be dented or hurt and that expectations are BUILT 1 brick at a time.
Be careful NOT to raise anothers expectations of your intentions, do not be coy when attempting to be funny or sweet & do not say things that are "lead-ons" unless you mean them. Women like to HINT so that men discover what they want AND men are very keen on searching for hints when they are searching for the relationship they want or expect.

Rack it up to miscommunication & don't get all bent out of shape when it happens because it happens in the best of LTR's after decades of togetherness, you blow it off as an error on both parts and next time you are more clear in your intentions or speech. Simple deal, if it gets ugly or abusive ONLINE, you have an OFF button & if that isn't sufficient there is BLOCK and REPORT to use as tools to end it.

Then there are the imbalanced...
Getting you bothered is actually some yo-yo's goal!
It is a way they can feel/gain a sense of power over you & because they are miserable to begin with their goal is to make everyone feel the way they do, it IS a type of companionship, twisted yes but by doing so it puts all in the conversation at the same level, just don't fall for it and if you find that you already have, STOP the conversation abruptly w/o warning or explanation, afterall you OWE them nothing!
Being clear with your recipient is the best way to avoid that which you experienced, in the beginning and throughout a conversation.
One mistake on the part of another is small potatoes in the overall scheme of things, blow it off & move forward & be smarter for the experience. Life is a classroom of learning & every nice guy & Bozo has something to teach you worth learning whether you enjoy the "lesson" or not..!

AND remember we ALL deserve what we NEED, it is just that some (actually MANY) confuse what they NEED with what they DESIRE, and that is a serious mistake for anyone to make.

GO find that person that makes your heart sing & your knees quiver, they are searching for YOU for the same reasons!

...and don't build a callous on your spirit because of a single incident, that only restricts & damages YOUR potential satisfaction in life & not theirs.











surprised Wow, thats a lot to readbiggrin

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:15 AM
THere's something your not telling us, what are you hiding?spock

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