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| Topic: What's Easier? To forgive .. or to trust again ?? | |
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for me, if someone wants forgiveness and trust back, prove it, otherwise, one can rot for all i care.
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Thu 02/19/09 04:54 AM
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You asked "What is Easier, to forgive or to trust again?" This isn't a question that can be answered by just picking one or the other, they both have to be understood. Trusting someone comes naturally through interaction over time or through reputation. Forgiveness on the other hand only comes after one has been wrong and is willing to make amends by attempting to restore the relationship.(whether it be between friends, family spouses or neighbors) Before one can trust again they must forgive to repair w/e relationship was damaged. Next it takes time to repair anything to the "way it was". Even then it's never the same again. So to go with the flow of things, You have to forgive before you can trust again, Niether is easier then the other but forgiveness comes first. I totally agree that trust must be 'earned' (ie what you said re: over time or reputation) .. so why do some people on line expect you to 'trust' them when you don't 'know' them .. Any other women on here get THAT comment .. "Trust Me" from a guy (maybe some women online tell guys that too) and I've actually had guys who were incensed that I didn't "trust" them from the beginning. WTH! 
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It has been my experience that I forgave and forgave and forgave but could never trust him as far as I could throw him. Did I ever really forgive him...not until his death and then found out what he was going through.
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Forgivness is something that you decide to give. Trust can't be recovered after it's lost.
So forgivness is easier. |
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Fool me ONCE, things happen
Fool me TWICE, MY fault. Fool me a third time, NO WAY. I expect people to treat me as I treat them. Actually DEMAND that. Simple rule that keeps my lafe sane. |
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It has been my experience that I forgave and forgave and forgave but could never trust him as far as I could throw him. Did I ever really forgive him...not until his death and then found out what he was going through. how sad eh? |
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Forgivness is something that you decide to give. Trust can't be recovered after it's lost. So forgivness is easier. I don't believe trust can NOT be recovered. We all deserve a 2nd chance when we blow it. As my dad would say though, it only takes 1 action to lose trust and many many to regain it. |
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forgiving is easier
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forgiving is easier I totally agree .. Here's another thought. LACK of forgiveness is damaging to US. Not so much the other person. But lack of TRUST can only leave them hanging .. Savage Garden "I believe forgiveness is the key to your unhappiness"  
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if someone spills coffee on me accidently and they apologize...i forgive them,but would i trust them to never do it again..no cause it could happen again....see my point sort of.
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i don't forgive anyone and i don't trust anyone so the question does not apply to me be seeing you
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Do you think they are intrinsically tied together? ie if I don't attempt to trust you again then I didn't really forgive you? If I can't trust them again, chances are I'm probably not going to really be able to forgive them. |
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I always found revenge much easier than forgiveness or trusting.
PS- that is a joke. |
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i don't forgive anyone and i don't trust anyone so the question does not apply to me be seeing you lmao .. why even interact with others then ?? 
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I always found revenge much easier than forgiveness or trusting. PS- that is a joke. It may be a joke, but revenge is best served cold  
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