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Topic: This place is very clique-ee
soundedmind's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:21 AM
Or am I the only one to notice this?

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:22 AM
It may appear that way but I think it is more the friendships formed by those who are on here at the same times as the others.

LadyHawkeByDay's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:24 AM

It may appear that way but I think it is more the friendships formed by those who are on here at the same times as the others.


I second that...

soundedmind's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:27 AM
I dunno... I've been here a couple years now and it's always seemed that way to me.

krupa's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:27 AM
So....hang out with me!

Cliques will always form when more than a handful of people hang out. Doesn't matter if it is here, work or church....it just happens. We all tend to hang out with people that we have more in common with.

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Sun 03/15/09 08:29 AM
People have been "cliquish" ever since we lived in caves. This place is no different. Those with a similar sense of humor, intelligence, and outlook on life tend to stick together.


AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:30 AM
Edited by AllSmilesInTulsa on Sun 03/15/09 08:31 AM

I dunno... I've been here a couple years now and it's always seemed that way to me.


I've been here almost 2 years and we have about the same number of posts. The people you perceive to be in the clique... take a look at the number of their posts. I think it is a direct reflection of how much time they spend here talking with others, thus allowing them to bond more with other members.

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Sun 03/15/09 08:31 AM
Mingle is like my family..
Alot of fun people.smitten

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Sun 03/15/09 08:35 AM
I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.











BettyB's photo
Sun 03/15/09 08:37 AM
Edited by BettyB on Sun 03/15/09 08:41 AM
I have never really noticed that, but on the other hand not something I really care about anyway. flowerforyou

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Sun 03/15/09 09:01 AM

I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.














:thumbsup:

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Sun 03/15/09 09:02 AM
cliques? sure there are .. but does it offend you? sounds like it.. But here is how I handle it... "if they don't like me for who I am or what I have to say on here , then they can just move on. I personally do not care if I am "accepted or not".

I am not here to have a huge list of friends to boast about , but to have friends I care about... Enjoy the forums and get to know each other learn by reading how they post , what they post. it will give you an idea if you want to know them as more then mere Mingle clients? good luck .

trgirl's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:05 AM

Mingle is like my family..
Alot of fun people.smitten


i agree 2kidsmom, i love this site, i have made some really great friends through the forums... i LOVE my mingle family...flowerforyou

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Sun 03/15/09 09:15 AM
Edited by 2KidsMom on Sun 03/15/09 09:16 AM


Mingle is like my family..
Alot of fun people.smitten


i agree 2kidsmom, i love this site, i have made some really great friends through the forums... i LOVE my mingle family...flowerforyou

It is so true trgirl,This family has carried me through some happy times,and sad times.Alot of people do not like me,BUT alot do.Sometimes I cry here and sometimes I am laughing so hard ...I almost pee my pants...and I have learned that "no response, is the response"with some people,but hey you live and learn.I still hope to find true love,and true friends.:heart: to.bigsmile flowerforyou drinks glasses smokin

Roco's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:20 AM


I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.














:thumbsup:



good point..newcomers vs. incumbants...new entrants vs. gatekeepers..happens all the time

roco

Jules0565's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:22 AM

I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.













Hi there! By the way.. is my poem finished yet? lol flowerforyou :wink:

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Sun 03/15/09 09:23 AM


I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.













Hi there! By the way.. is my poem finished yet? lol flowerforyou :wink:


Not quite -- the car accident put a bit of a crimp in my plans. Not to mention in my back....!

Jules0565's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:25 AM



I've been commenting on the cliques here for ages.

It used to be a lot worse, back when the site was newer and smaller and some of the real old-timers resented it when anybody other than themselves posted anything. They developed an entitlement attitude, complained ceaselessly about how "This is not MY JSH anymore," and eventually they went extinct.

The few real cliques we have now are smaller but maybe more vociferous, in terms of the forums. They like to post long threads about nothing, six or seven of them posting the same things over and over, and they make a concerted effort to ignore any non-cliquers who try to join in.

They're easy to spot and easier to ignore.

We have so many new people, people who are actually trying to communicate and get to know the terrain here. I would much rather deal with them than read the same old boring clique-o-rama trashola that the few truly cliquish cliques put out there.













Hi there! By the way.. is my poem finished yet? lol flowerforyou :wink:


Not quite -- the car accident put a bit of a crimp in my plans. Not to mention in my back....!


Car accident??? Oh no! When did this happen?? I have been absent for a few months. I hope you're ok!!

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Sun 03/15/09 09:33 AM

Car accident??? Oh no! When did this happen?? I have been absent for a few months. I hope you're ok!!


http://mingle2.com/topic/show/202299


This was about a month and a half ago --

dubbers's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:38 AM
Cliques are bound to happen any where. I'm on a gaming site where there are a handful of people that talk while the ne people are trying to communicate. It's just not right to me, but then again I'm more out-going then some.

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