People who get on my case because I have certain preferences and YES even guidelines in my profile. So what? don't we all have certain things that we are looking for? So what I find women who lie about their weight and are fat or obese are unattractive to me? Do you hear any gripes about a woman being to skinny? That too I find unattractive. It's the lies, and when you go to meet someone you just shake your head and wonder "wht"..

All these sites .. and I mean all of them have one thing in common. That is they rely on the people to be honest.....If it hurts someone's feelings and they take it personally? I can not help that. People are not perfect including myself. And if others here want to shun me? do you really think it matters? It's a damn singles site, not my family or even my best friends here. Just ordinary everyday people, a venue to exchange thoughts and have open expressions.

Agreed, we all have our preferences!

People just have to understand that not everyone will be attracted to everyone else. We all have preferences. At least you state yours upfront.

nothing wrong with preferences. you are honest about them. it would be nice if more people were honest

Hi Durty Duck! Are you having a moment????
No you are not wrong to be honest on your profile about not being attracted to fat women!!!!
This is how I see it...
You work out really hard to stay in the BEST possible shape that you can.. You work out eat right and feel good..
You want a mate to share your life with.. one that shares comon interests.. is also fit.
I feel the same way..
I would not be joined to someone I dont find HOT and sexy!!
Am I superficial or judgmental??
NO I am not!
I am just me and I know what I like and what I am attracted to..
Dont worry about what people say about you!
Live life and have fun!

yep

Amen to that, brother.

I get e-mail from people who have read my profile and want to argue with me because of my preferences -- they say things like "You should give it a chance" -- if they had bothered to READ my profile (admittedly a massive undertaking) they would realize that I HAVE given it a chance, and that's how I KNOW what I DON'T want....!

What would be the point in my trying yet another relationship with someone who simply doesn't fit my criteria? Where is THAT going? -- in the toilet, actually, and almost certainly within 3 months.

No means no, right?

That's one of those hackneyed soundbytes we've all come to know and love.

No means no.

No alcohol means no alcohol.

No drugs means no drugs.

No kids means no kids.

And I understand that there isn't anybody like that on any dating site I've ever seen, but it doesn't mean there COULDN'T be, someday.

I'll wait.

And I'll be damned if I'm going to start haranguing women because they want a guy who drives a certain car, or who has a certain level of income, or who is a certain height, or whatever. They are CERTAINLY entitled to their preferences, whether I approve or understand or not.

It's really none of my damn business.

Now if only they could figure out that mine aren't any of their business.

Hey! I once had a 275lb woman w/ hair on her chin & wearing a grass skirt ask me if she could throw coconuts at me.Geez!That's enough to sicken any normal man.WTF!

I get 'hate' messages all the time form guys that complain about my profile. I just look at the situation as being their problem -- not mine.

Just take a deep breath and let it roll off your dirty little duckie feathers!

I have no complaints

Meh, pick up and start another day is what I do..

Having a bad night and tired of explaining myself over and over to the same people. Those that just don't get it..We are allowed to have a preference..

Don't say that too loud -- the Preference Police have big ears and small tolerances for individuality....

i agree with you....and im fat, so what?

I would much rather read a profile like Lex's (sorry haven't read yours) that spells it right out there than have one that is so darn generic that who the heck knows what that person is looking for. I am one that isn't going to get offended by someone's preferences, dislikes, or likes. Like you said you are expecting most people to be honest out here.
If you have it on your profile what you want so be it.
Since way back when I had two first meets of people that weren't who they say they are I insist on webcam sessions first. So at least I know who,I am going to meet. If that isn't the person that walks through door I am out the back one.

I don't understand though why you feel like you have to validate who and what you are looking for or what your opinion is; We all have them and we all are entitled to them.

Completely true. We do all have our preferences...we're all human, none of us probably even like the same veggies! However, preferences stated often and stridently.....NO one's cup of tea. I for one do not expect everyone who meets me to like me.....lol...I'm not THAT likeable! But I think all of us can show a modicum of respect and decorum when voicing our opinions...about anything. If I am one who has offended you Mr Duck, I am sorry. I know for myself I tend to be reactionary...and then think about what I have said.....!

Sitka, thank you for the endorsement!

I can understand Duck's frustration, though -- there have been days when I just haven't felt like explaining my preferences for the 1932nd time. OK, I shouldn't have to explain them at all -- nobody should. But a lot of people have this attitude, "If you don't believe the same things I believe, then you're a bad person," and you end up getting vilified simply because something appeals to you that they don't understand, or you just don't want certain issues/conditions in your life that someone else considers "mandatory."

It's all about the idea of people trying to impose their own personal values and beliefs on others.

I personally don't want to have anything to do with those people.

But there are enough of them out there that sometimes you just can't avoid them.

In an open discussion I can handle my own. People are also entitled to have their opinions on here. I respect others and let them have their opinions, even if I do or don't agree.


wait there is a knock at my door .. Oh it's the preference police...

Absolutely true, I agree!!

NO problem Lex you know I have long respected you. I guess I am guilty of mainstreaming it out in forums now in emails privately that is a different story. I have my preferences I just chose not to shout them from the roof tops. When I am asked about them directly then I stated them and be damned.

I know Duck here is very open about his preferences on the forums as you are which I actually like saves a lot of time.

I do think Duck that maybe not the weight issue as much as the BMI should be considered since I have seen some very skinny people in my life that I would be afraid to take on a long hike as I would someone obese. If they are in shape shouldn't matter so much to me.

To me people have all kinds of preferences such as some women hate baldness others it is a turn on. some men prefer short hair to long hair. the preference list is endless.

I just figure there are enough little fishy's in the sea that eventually we all will find one of our own and be perfectly content.