Are you a person that follows your heart? Or a person that believes you should think things through and be rational? In matters of love what to you is most important and why?

Wow I have so much trouble with this one I can't wait to hear others input

Good topic

Mind pretty much exclusively. My heart is too plugged up with cholesterol and memories of bad relationships.

In matters of love, I would have to be with someone who HAS a mind -- that's been mostly lacking (one major exception) up until now.

Boo!!

Did I scare you?

I personally envy that ability to separate your heart from decision making in matters of the heart. I lack that quality myself entirely. I seem to always let my heart guide my actions. I just plain get too overwhelmed with emotion to make rational decisions with love issues. But that is just me.

mind,....not to many bright people in the world these days...mind is a definite must....we can work on the heart part later after i explore to see if the "mind" part functions properly first.....lol

Omg yes Mayhem! I am quivering! hehe How are ya?

Good...let me give ya a nice hug to quit that quivering.

Awe...soo nice! I like my hugs!

In my case, this ability has been developed over a period of many years and dozens of truly horrible entanglements, which, in retrospect, completely baffle me -- as in, why would I have ever gotten involved with those people in the first place?

This has been a learning process -- much of it more directed toward what I DON'T want as opposed to what I do want.

As it stands now, I have become cynical and skeptical enough not to rush into anything too quickly -- or, in most instances, at all.

I guess there are benefits to being naive as well, hehe. You can't be open to love if you wont give it a chance. I guess I would rather risk the ache of losing than to lose out on the chance of the perfection that I seek. I learn, slowly and painfully. But I am a sure forgiver. Luckily I am not one of those people that gets burned too badly and loses out in the end. I wish I could find that happy medium though. Learning from mistakes and guarding my heart a little better but still trusting when deserved, ya know? In the middle is my problem. I am currently struggling with loving a man that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt will be my demise. I just cannot help being drawn to him. The ache of losing him is more treacherous to me than the ache of guarding myself from inevitable hurt.

Neither completely but rather a little bit of both.

i think with my mind,if you think with your hear,you get hurt be seeing you

This is really good food for thought indeed. In most matters I am a logically oriented person and tend to see things in black and white, rules are rules, past experiences and present circumstances dictate my actions and or reactions.

But, in matters of love, now that is something quite different. While, when I first meet someone I am not looking for an instant attraction or love at first sight, my mindset might well be analytical in nature. However, if Love has entered then I let my heart guide me. I believe the heart and spirit need to be the guiding forces in a truely loving relationship.

I once read that Wisdom is the perfect balance of knowledge and love.And a wise man would not analyze nor give up on love, but rather accept that love as unconditional and grow in spirit as in love.

I have only felt in love one time... and I let her go.... the hardest thing to do is to let go unconditionally. So much harder than to love unconditionally. My heart still aches for her sometimes. But I know that to love unconditionally I cannot hold another hostage in any way. So we are both free... from on another... and for one another.

I haven't figured out how to seperate the two enough to figure out which is saying what

I liken it to the idea of "How many times am I going to allow the same piano to fall on my head?"

See, the problem with this is that you can only survive so many piano attacks.

I tend to blend the two. I love all the emotions and I use my brain to think things through. I think that the heart is so important.
The mind will rationalize.
The heart just feels.

I always think things through. I've always had the uncanny ability to be able to look into my personal little "crystal ball", and based on plenty of previous experiences, or simply from common sense foresight, I can usually predict what the outcome will be long-term down the road. Nine times out of ten, I'm more than perfectly correct. This does not only apply to relationships, but to any area of life.

People like to think I'm fulla sh!t....until I'm proven right. Yet, the times are extremely rare, very few and very far in between, when anyone has ever admitted that I was right. In fact, more often than not, whatever I said is usually completely forgotten that I ever even said it.

Good question. Would like to think I combine the two. Often times the heart leads the way, as it being willing to open the door. It is marvelous when they blend together and torture when they are at odds. Have been accused of over thinking things....and being to willing to jump. Learning to take it one step at a time. Let the two work together. Even "old dogs" can learn.