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I have a 4 year old daughter that is extremely intelligent, creative and loving. Since my seperation/divorce began last June, she has had a hard time getting on a schedule. My ex was never one to turn off the lights, lock the door and go to bed. He would stay up all hours of the day and night with the lights on, television blaring, making alot of noise. Now that he is gone, she appears to have picked up some of his habbits, despite a rigid schedule I have tried to keep her on.
I have to turn the Direct TV box off because she will get up in the middle of the night, come into the living room and turn the television on. Tonight, she is on a "sleep strike" so I am up at 1:30 a.m. fighting to get her to stay in her bed and go to sleep. No naps during the day - she is like the energizer bunny, she keeps going, and going, and going. My batteries are about dead and I am so tired. I guess I just wanted to vent, sorry. |
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i have to have the t.v on also when i sleep,my son picked up the same habit ..now i have two t.vs going at four in the morning and no one watching them..  ...
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My four year old son is still up
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I don't mind the tv, just her roaming the house in the middle of the night. I have to sleep with one eye open and since it is just me....
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My four year old son is still up I feel your pain. I can tell you, I have so much respect for single parents. When I was married, I just took it for granted. Not anymore. |
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Edited by
nvkikigirl
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Sun 04/05/09 12:05 AM
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I have a 4 year old daughter that is extremely intelligent, creative and loving. Since my seperation/divorce began last June, she has had a hard time getting on a schedule. My ex was never one to turn off the lights, lock the door and go to bed. He would stay up all hours of the day and night with the lights on, television blaring, making alot of noise. Now that he is gone, she appears to have picked up some of his habbits, despite a rigid schedule I have tried to keep her on. I have to turn the Direct TV box off because she will get up in the middle of the night, come into the living room and turn the television on. Tonight, she is on a "sleep strike" so I am up at 1:30 a.m. fighting to get her to stay in her bed and go to sleep. No naps during the day - she is like the energizer bunny, she keeps going, and going, and going. My batteries are about dead and I am so tired. I guess I just wanted to vent, sorry. I also have a 4 year old, a son. And I have noticed that he is very energetic as well lately. Ever since he hasnt been back to daycare for a while now, he doesnt take naps during the day. |
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maybe you should create a game for her, or something that can make her tired. she might be a future athelete who needs to excersize.
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I'm right there with you ladies. I have a soon to be 4 yr old boy and a 10 yr old boy that never want to go to bed at night. Gettin them to bed at night is a battle that rivals D-Day. I have nights where I just wanna tie them to their beds. All part of the blissful life of being a single parent.
 Just know that at some point in time things will fall into place and they will find news ways to exasperate us. It's in their job description. Just as it's in ours to embarass the h*ll out of them at every available opportunity. Such as the first time they bring a girl/boy home to introduce you. Bring out every naked baby pic, potty training pic, dirty faced pic you got in your arsenal when they do. When they ask you "WHY???" simply respond with a sweet smile on your face, "You remember that night back in April of '08 when you wouldn't let me get some sleep???"
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Edited by
LordCole
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Sun 04/05/09 01:39 AM
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I have had this problem since I was a child. I thought taking a seminar at the local library on sleeping and sleep disorders would help, the only thing that seems to help me is succumbing to it. This problem drove my Ex's, that I lived with, insane. Not because I made a lot of noise; but because I would get up three hours after we went to bed, go into the den, art-room, game room or living room fidget for an hour and go back to sleep where ever I happened to be fidgeting. My most recent Ex, who I was with for only 6 years, got so used to it that she still cannot sleep with a man in her bed.
My daughter has it, only she will lay in bed an look at a dark ceiling or scribble in her diary(sometimes she will text me). Part of it has to do with sleep cycles and those ninety minute gaps of actual sleep we get of a night. One solution for your little one who also cannot stay in bed with out television(or something to occupy her brain): Get a small TV/DVD combo, have the child pick one movie for the night, put it on loop and turn the volume down. The trick to this solution is that you cannot under any circumstances let the child use that television any other time other than bed. A kind of Pavlov's dog thing, also helps not to sleep anywhere else but the bed and use the bed for nothing but sleep. When my Daughter was a Tot she would find me where ever I was in the house, cuddle up for a half hour to an hour then sac-out again. She has three hour cycles like me also, so we had to make some rules for when she is not with me or when she is alone. The biggest rule that we came up with when she was eight was that we cannot eat food of any kind. No chips, popcorn, cereal, cookies or even movie candy. Nothing worse than eating when your body should be sleeping but your brain is awake, you can seriously hurt your metabolic state. So NO midnight snacks, after all now that she is a teenager, her track and tennis teams need her to be healthy. We've made up several rules over the years but those are just Daddy/Daughter bonding rituals I wont get into here. Anyway take a look online or the library or Sleep Cycles, Circadian Rhythm and for the child Parasomnia. I'm not a doctor and you might want to see a sleep specialist for the child and maybe get help to manage it before they are older. -- Oh yeah, I am flipping the laptop back to Mediaplayer and going back to sleep- Nite 
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I have had this problem since I was a child. I thought taking a seminar at the local library on sleeping and sleep disorders would help, the only thing that seems to help me is succumbing to it. This problem drove my Ex's, that I lived with, insane. Not because I made a lot of noise; but because I would get up three hours after we went to bed, go into the den, art-room, game room or living room fidget for an hour and go back to sleep where ever I happened to be fidgeting. My most recent Ex, who I was with for only 6 years, got so used to it that she still cannot sleep with a man in her bed. My daughter has it, only she will lay in bed an look at a dark ceiling or scribble in her diary(sometimes she will text me). Part of it has to do with sleep cycles and those ninety minute gaps of actual sleep we get of a night. One solution for your little one who also cannot stay in bed with out television(or something to occupy her brain): Get a small TV/DVD combo, have the child pick one movie for the night, put it on loop and turn the volume down. The trick to this solution is that you cannot under any circumstances let the child use that television any other time other than bed. A kind of Pavlov's dog thing, also helps not to sleep anywhere else but the bed and use the bed for nothing but sleep. When my Daughter was a Tot she would find me where ever I was in the house, cuddle up for a half hour to an hour then sac-out again. She has three hour cycles like me also, so we had to make some rules for when she is not with me or when she is alone. The biggest rule that we came up with when she was eight was that we cannot eat food of any kind. No chips, popcorn, cereal, cookies or even movie candy. Nothing worse than eating when your body should be sleeping but your brain is awake, you can seriously hurt your metabolic state. So NO midnight snacks, after all now that she is a teenager, her track and tennis teams need her to be healthy. We've made up several rules over the years but those are just Daddy/Daughter bonding rituals I wont get into here. Anyway take a look online or the library or Sleep Cycles, Circadian Rhythm and for the child Parasomnia. I'm not a doctor and you might want to see a sleep specialist for the child and maybe get help to manage it before they are older. -- Oh yeah, I am flipping the laptop back to Mediaplayer and going back to sleep- Nite Nite |
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"Don't Blink"
That is all I can say 
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I wish I could say it gets easier...my daughter is 16 and I have raised her completely by myself.I went from trying to get her to go to bed to now trying to keep her from sneaking out.It is exausting.....
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My youngest is 12 and won't sleep without music blaring away. I bought her a cd player that has a timer on it, it sets so that it shuts off after 90 minutes tops...you know she will wake up and reset it when the music shuts off?? Drives me insane, it really does.
I'd like to tell you it gets easier, BUT........lol |
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Thank you all for the words of widsom. It is nice to have someone who will listen when it starts to overflow every once in a while.
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Oh yes, a place to vent when you want to bang your head against the wall and you begin to understand why some animals eat their young LOL
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I have a 4 year old daughter that is extremely intelligent, creative and loving. Since my seperation/divorce began last June, she has had a hard time getting on a schedule. My ex was never one to turn off the lights, lock the door and go to bed. He would stay up all hours of the day and night with the lights on, television blaring, making alot of noise. Now that he is gone, she appears to have picked up some of his habbits, despite a rigid schedule I have tried to keep her on. Was your husband bipolar? You're pretty much describing normal life for me, in terms of his behavior. You've also already noted your child being intelligent and creative, which are commonly the more positive traits of bipolar disorder. |
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My daughter still has issues going to sleep. I finally figured out what works, though. I put a TV in her room that has a built in VCR. I have a three hour christmas classics tape that she loves, and we put that in when she goes into her room. She watches it until she drifts off to sleep, and the tv automatically rewinds the tape and turns off when it's done.
As a safeguard, though, I did install deadbolts on the doors that were too high up for her to reach, just in case. |
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Edited by
Meg8771
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Tue 04/07/09 10:56 PM
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I have a 4 year old daughter that is extremely intelligent, creative and loving. Since my seperation/divorce began last June, she has had a hard time getting on a schedule. My ex was never one to turn off the lights, lock the door and go to bed. He would stay up all hours of the day and night with the lights on, television blaring, making alot of noise. Now that he is gone, she appears to have picked up some of his habbits, despite a rigid schedule I have tried to keep her on. Was your husband bipolar? You're pretty much describing normal life for me, in terms of his behavior. You've also already noted your child being intelligent and creative, which are commonly the more positive traits of bipolar disorder. It is very possible - extreme variation in highs/lows very quickly......hmmmmmmm, making me wonder? |
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My daughter still has issues going to sleep. I finally figured out what works, though. I put a TV in her room that has a built in VCR. I have a three hour christmas classics tape that she loves, and we put that in when she goes into her room. She watches it until she drifts off to sleep, and the tv automatically rewinds the tape and turns off when it's done. As a safeguard, though, I did install deadbolts on the doors that were too high up for her to reach, just in case. That is what I have done so far. Tonight, at 1:00 a.m. she is watching a movie as we speak. Just got her into bed even though her bedtime us 8:00 p.m. |
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Edited by
Jimmy59
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Wed 04/08/09 12:18 AM
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This is what I did to get my daughter to sleep.
In the afternoon I would find a hill outside and run her and with her up and down the hill until she could not run any more. Rest and do it again. Grant you I had to make it a game in order for her to do this. After a while she could not wait to get out and run. Now sleep at night she was so worn out she went to bed on her own. Now this worked for my daughter and I at that time. So find something that works for you guys that burns energy Hun.  
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