I went to get my brother's County sticker for his car a couple of weeks ago. He works third shift and sleeps during the day so I was trying to help him out.

The sticker was only supposed to cost $15 but because he hasn't paid his property taxes on the car IN TWO YEARS!, I ended up having to pay an extra $112 to get the sticker. That was a shocker to say the least.

I paid it because I knew he would pay me back. That was almost 4 weeks ago. I've been giving him subtle hints to remind him about it, cause he's forgetful sometimes (third shift will do that to you) but he hasn't said a word about it. That extra money was supposed to go towards getting stuff that I need for the baby, and even though she won't be here 'til July, I really don't want to have to wait that long.

I'm just so frustrated right now, cause I really don't want to have to come right out and say "Where's the money at?". And he's not dodging me cause he's got the money, it's just that he stays so tired between working and taking care of his 6 six year old son then he gets sidetracked about everything else.

I love my brother and I don't want to be mean about it, but I really just don't know of any other way to remind him about the money. Like they say, "You lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink". I guess my only option right now is to wait it out.

Tell him to give you his debit card and PIN. He can allway's change the # after you get your money.

Just say hey Bro.....Do you need me to do anything else for you. I know getting your sticker really helped you out last month

Your option is to say I need the money I have a baby on the way. I work 14 hours a day between two jobs and take care of my house and my two daughters. School activities and all. I don't get off work until usually 12:30 or 1 a.m. that is leaving the house at 7:25 that morning. I barely have time to function and yes he knows he needs a swift kick to get him in gear to repay you. Sorry to be so blunt but if I can do it with ALL that I have going on in my life then I know he can do it.

Sometimes dealing with family is the worst

But ya gotta be straightforard with him
Why *****foot cause he's your brother

People have to learn to push through their hesitations
And go for what they have to do

QUIT enableing him to be a jerk.
Your actions support his not paying you back.
I bet he has been this way all his life.
Why do you think he got you to go pay his bill.
Hadn't paid for 2 years, HE KNEW THAT.

People like this, give me a big pain in the backside.
Quit complaining, go wake him up & DEMAND your money.

People DO NOT TREAT people they RESPECT like this.

Shows what he really thinks of you.

MY OPINION.

I know you guys are right. I just hate coming right out and asking for the money, even though I'm entitled to it.

And you are right Sherry. I don't have a set schedule for work so my days are always different, so I have to always plan ahead.

Unfortunately, SOME guys are very disorganized when it comes to being a single parent, and my brother is definitely one of them! God bless him cause he is a great Dad, but he's been doing this for going on 3 years now and still can't get it together.

I guess, if I really want to get the money back, I'm just going to have to grit my teeth and just ask him for it. I hate doing it, but it's probably the only way to go.

Hear hear!

You r sooo right!!! Enablers drive me crazy
Why do I see so many people who fumble over this type of thing
So many have no backbone and would rather whine when they can take that same whining power and use it to solve their problem! That's real power!

Honestly, I'm shocked your brother did not apologize and pay you right away.

My sister would have died if I had done such a huge favor for her, she would not let me out the door without a check.

He really appreciates you, huh? Enough to let his pregnant sister go wait in line for him, then stiff her for over a hundred dollars?

Ewww, I hate that word

ENABLER

I didn't think of it that way, but I suppose by allowing this to go on, that's exactly what I'm doing.

I'm usually not one to be that way. My brother is typically a responsible guy. And I was actually shocked to find out that he hadn't paid the back taxes, cause he's really good about keeping up with his bills.

Okay, I guess it's either sh!t or get off the pot, as they say. So I'm just going to come right out and ask for the money.

I suggest he take you out to a nice dinner, PAY the bill, then give you a check for what he owes you. It is the least he can do. Oh, and put together any baby things you need assembled...

Two suggestions. Next time you see him ask him for his checkbook. Plain and simple, you dont have to feel funny about it. Its not like he's a stranger. When he asks why, tell him you are writting a check to cover the stickers you got for him. End of story. Second, stop being his doormat. There is no excuse for his behavior. There are lots of folks that work second shift, have more than one child and still manage to accomplish things that need done. With no outside help. ( Either that or, buy him a daytimer or a really big calander to start writting down stuff that he has to remember and get done.)