I've seen great profiles texts here, and then there are those who post absolutely nothing but small photo, and expect a response?... tsk, tsk, tsk.

Upon receiving a few emails myself, one person felt it necessary to let me know my profile was way too long (I already acknowledged it being lengthy in my first line or so), too self-centered, and too demanding... HOWEVER, isn't it better to place as much info as you can think of on the table NOW, instead of dragging it out later, and have the interested party complain you "purposely left things out"?
I have yet to respond back, although my first instinct was to tell him if he didn't like it, to stay the heck away from my profile... But I was being nice. :-)

Would you have a problem with such a profile, and prefer to find out "hidden things" about someone, once your relationship was well on its way?

I really can't tell too much about a person from their profile, it's just a glimpse into what they might be about, getting to know about a person is best done by talking & then deciding if you even want to meet them. To me some people can over do it!

Your profile is a short one compared to mine, and many other peoples.. Say what you think needs being said, and if they don't like it... They can cry when someone else gets you.

Make your profile as you see fit. Some value brevity. Some like detailed descriptions. Others like a sense of humor and quirkiness.

However, when all is said and done, it is only the communication BETWEEN two people that will determine how things will develop. People can only get a sense of you from your profile. They get to know the real you through interaction.

I would agree with Pats on the fact that talking to someone is much better than guessing on a profile.

To answer your question Lani, I like to read someones profile and be left with questions unanswered. It adds to what Pats said about talking to someone and finding out things that way.

Too little leaves too much to the imagination,
Too much leaves nothing to the imagination.

I guess a happy median is the best, at least for me.

added...Just looked at your profile. Whoever said it was too lengthy is a profile snob. Looks good to me.

TM

{j/k} Personally;I appreciate & admire someone who is direct & upfront in their profile.It removes much of the guesswork & also assists in weeding out other candidates whom are seeking less serious long term relationships.Also I do not feel that your profile is lengthy whatsoever.G'luck! Godspeed!Cy

I always thought of a profile as mearly an introduction, not a life story. If the intro sounds interesting I'll get the life story later.

i just look at the pics

my profile can be summed up with a simple "leave me alone"

but I'm only here for the forums and papersmile

I can see how another would want to craft their profile to be like a little cover letter of introduction

My profile tells you nothing, and everything about me.

If you don't understand it, then you wont understand me...

simple.


NEXT!

Profiles should reflect the indivdual. Whatever you feel like conveying it is your right. We are all looking for something different so it makes sense the profiles would be too.

Your profile isn't too lengthy. I like when someone takes the time to put some info about themselves in their profile, rather than someone who provides no information. Don't change it just because someone was too lazy to read it.

im with Dubz

Who is this guy that is always critisizing womens profiles?

I always love the ones that say a laundry list of what they will and won't put up with. Isn't the point suppose to be to tell about yourself, hobbies, interests, etc? I always figured the rest would come out in conversations.

We've found that Women READ your profile BEFORE they open your email. If your profile description sucks it doesn't matter how good your email is. Make sure your description contains "Hopes and aspirations", "Hobbies/interests in general", "Musical Tastes". These are all conversation starters and will show a women you have something in common with her. If your profile description is blank or super short you are 9 times more likely to get "unread deleted".


However, men just look at the pictures.

Hmmm..not so sure about that. I opened an email once from a guy with a VERY short profile description!

My profile is about as long as "War and Peace" (with commentary) and I like it that way. People read it a lot, some will write to me about it -- I've heard "it's too long," but I don't care; it weeds out the impatient types, the illiterates, and the 174% of all women in the world who don't match up with my preferences and deal-breakers. Except for the ones who want to argue with me and tell me my preferences are "wrong"!

MOST profiles -- about 99.2% (number made up for purposes of hyperbole) are less interesting and less informative than the expiration date on the Arby's coupon.

To me, a profile that consists of "I don't know what to write here" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask," or ANY profile with the same dozen or so brain-dead cliches you'll find on seventy billion other profiles, tells me that this is someone I don't really want to have anything to do with, anyway.

Two people who click will ALWAYS have an ability to find something to talk about -- I've been there. It was ecstasy.

So keep your profile as long as you want it. Don't shorten it, don't change it, don't dumb it down. Make it a reflection of who you are; that's what a good profile is supposed to be.

And some of us are more complex than others; maybe we need more space to fully explain who and what we are....!