I have a good friend back home in Chicago and this friend has an ex..Well, this ex has hurt my friend mentally in the past really bad. And my friend just keeps on going back to their ex and putting up with their crap. I had told my friend many times that it's just gong to happen again. Their ex will hurt them again but, my friend is too stubborn to understand. The question is why would my friend keeping on going back to their ex? If it was me in that position I wouldn't put up with it at all.. Because, it's putting so much stress on me I'm so close to telling my friend that I don't want to ever talk to them again because, I'm tired of trying to convince them that their ex is NO good..Please respond to me and try to help me..Thanks!!!

I have learned that sometimes it's best to let people do what they are going to do.

Puuuntaaang!

haha!! Yes I understand but, you can get that anywhere..Haha!

It all depends on what you are willing to tolerate to get it

He's getting something out of it, or he wouldn't keep going back to it.

he likes pain...my brother was the same way...I tried to tell him his wife was loose but instead of getting upset with her he turned his anger on me...so I shut my mouth and watched as she took him for a ride...

Yea I had figured he is getting something out of it but, still she isn't that good looking.. Haha!

He's not "getting something out of it".....He's puttin' something IN IT!

I just can't understand because, this has been going on for over 2 years..So when I did have a girlfriend my friend was coming over to my house all hours of the night crying..It just kills me because, he is like a brother to me..

Not about her looks or the sex, there is some kind of emotional pay-off that he gets out of this. I used to do the same thing.
She'd break it off and I'd keep going back.
Not anymore.

I guess I can understand alittle. I guess Im just a different person because, if I was in that position I wouldn't deal with it at all...Too many fish in the sea...

Perhaps it's time she got taught a lesson

Sorry, but there's really nothing you can do. And, frankly, the more you tell him how awful she is, the more he's going to want to be with her. You have 2 choices, back off, tell him you're no longer going to be a party to their relationship. That means no coming to you, you won't listen, etc. Or simply end the friendship yourself. But, you cannot control other people, you've talked til you're blue and gotten nowhere and now all you can do is accept that this is what he wants, for reasons you don't get and probably never will. If you can't accept, you move on.

As to the why? Who the hell knows why any of us do that. Many people do, for reasons they probably don't understand themselves. He'll either gain the strength to end it permanently or he won't. Either way, it has nothing to do with you.

people have to come to terms with a relationship on their own, you'll never convince them. a friend should be supportive and while it's hard to sit back and watch a person put themselves in an unhealthy relationship, you gotta let go of that or move on from it. if the relationship dissolves chances are they will see what they did to the friendship you two had and come back.

Some people grow up being made to feel as if they deserve all of the bad things in life....they also see these same things going on as they grow up and this causes them to think that these things are normal...no confidence, low self esteem...whatever....the main thing is...it won't stop until THEY decide they have had enough...sad thing is...most wait until it's too late

Maybe he fears he will wind up on a dating site

I feel what you are going through. I have a friend that's doing the same thing. It's hard to be there as a friend, especially because we both know there are stronger feelings there, but can't really act on them because hs's dating his girl. He's making all the effort and she's doing whatever. Through me being there as a friend, I found out he thinks if he walks away from the relationship that he's failing (maybe that's what your friend thinks as well). I've learned that you have to allow them to make their own choices and hope they come to their senses sooner than later. It's hard to just sit back and watch your friend suffer, but just be there when they finally make their decision and need a friend to talk to.

hey just live your life cos what i know in this life is that you will take a horse to the stream but you can't force it to drink bear this in mind luv is blind and if you are in luv you may be going crazy without even know what is happening to you.

Post a picture of her and will be the judge if she's worthy