I broke up with a guy recently. He was baffled. He thought things were going so well and that the relationship had had real 'potential.' I found myself biting my lip to giving any details that would answer the question 'Why?'.

I should have liked to be honest and tell him he spoke too much about his mother, that I couldn't stand those plaid shorts and that maybe he should never even wear shorts, that I lost all sexual attraction when he actually allowed me to pay his beer, that having his car towed cause he had an expired tag AND no proof of insurance made him a loser...the list goes on. Yes, he did need dental. No, he shouldn't have only replaced the lenses of those frames. Yes, he did need a shower before we got intimate. Don't brag about a cheap, bad haircut. Driving a classic doesn't automatically make you cute or interesting. The list goes ON.

I think he would benefit in a future relationship if he knew maybe some things to do or not do. Isn't that better for him than letting him scratch his head about my ending it, or do I simply have a greater sadistic side than I realize?

I broke up with a guy recently. He was baffled. He thought things were going so well and that the relationship had had real 'potential.' I found myself biting my lip to giving any details that would answer the question 'Why?'.

I should have liked to be honest and tell him he spoke too much about his mother, that I couldn't stand those plaid shorts and that maybe he should never even wear shorts, that I lost all sexual attraction when he actually allowed me to pay his beer, that having his car towed cause he had an expired tag AND no proof of insurance made him a loser...the list goes on. Yes, he did need dental. No, he shouldn't have only replaced the lenses of those frames. Yes, he did need a shower before we got intimate. Don't brag about a cheap, bad haircut. Driving a classic doesn't automatically make you cute or interesting. The list goes ON.

I think he would benefit in a future relationship if he knew maybe some things to do or not do. Isn't that better for him than letting him scratch his head about my ending it, or do I simply have a greater sadistic side than I realize?

I'm pretty sure if he stays away from you he will be fine!

I'm pretty sure if he stays away from you he will be fine!

I'm pretty sure if he stays away from you he will be fine!

people can not correct their flaws if they're never brought to their attention. you should have told him before/as you were dumping him. if you do it now it you will only sound like a bitter ex who's trying to hurt him.


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If he was such a loser, why did you go out with him in the first place.???

I'm sure he knew, it's like when a girl says it's not you it's me. You know she's sparing your "feelings". People know there shortcommings. Life goes on.

I broke up with a guy recently. He was baffled. He thought things were going so well and that the relationship had had real 'potential.' I found myself biting my lip to giving any details that would answer the question 'Why?'.

I should have liked to be honest and tell him he spoke too much about his mother, that I couldn't stand those plaid shorts and that maybe he should never even wear shorts, that I lost all sexual attraction when he actually allowed me to pay his beer, that having his car towed cause he had an expired tag AND no proof of insurance made him a loser...the list goes on. Yes, he did need dental. No, he shouldn't have only replaced the lenses of those frames. Yes, he did need a shower before we got intimate. Don't brag about a cheap, bad haircut. Driving a classic doesn't automatically make you cute or interesting. The list goes ON.

I think he would benefit in a future relationship if he knew maybe some things to do or not do. Isn't that better for him than letting him scratch his head about my ending it, or do I simply have a greater sadistic side than I realize?

maybe she didn't know he was a loser, or he became a loser during the relationship? it happens, trust me

Bad teeth, BO, clothing choices, and a bad hair cut were there in her face when she first met him.
That didn't show up after they were intimate.