Just broke it off with my boyfriend and I feel like im dying on the
inside Do you know what I mean when I say sometimes
in a relationship it feels like one person does all the work and the
other is just along for the ride? Whats happened to integrity? Whats
happened to romance? Are we so burned out on love that we dump the other
person with all the work? What happened to doing and saying sweet little
things just cause you care a bit? Oh god I could go on and on but I will
spare you my ranting lol Just needed to dump a little on you
all

Here are some flowers for you Karen.

Romance is alive and well-just not everywhere we all look.

Don't burnout please...simmer a little.

Karen...

There are givers in relationships and then there are takers. You are
obviously a giver. I know it HURTS right now, but every day that goes by
you will feel better about it. Believe me, I am in the middle of a
divorce, gave till I had nothing left. Now is the time for you to focus
on yourself and what your needs are. Things will get better, believe me
they will.

-Joanne

Aww hugs Karen!!! I guess I am lucky, I got a romantic one!! I think he
is the one that does all the romantic stuff.
I don't think romance is gone, I just think that people get so caught up
in work and their own lives that they forget to do the little things? I
really think that women are so different then men, we take everything to
heart....to where men don't see every little thing like we do.
I guess not every man is like that, so if you find a man that is
romantic....you best grab him and hang on to him Just
remember Karen....there was a reason that you met him...we grow with
every single person that we meet.
Oh and to my "friend" I am thinking about you today and missing you very
much

for many it is easier to stay uncomfortable , but in familiar territory,
than to risk the possibility that comfortable is somewhere in the
unknown

but that in it self is a fallacy, because it lies in you, in you
choices,

there's more.....a tension builds up to this point you've arrived at and
then you decide...enough. but the tension is still running , has been
for a long time and it will find it's outlet and somehow you have to
shift where you invest your tension....i suggest the gym...heavy metal
lol...pumping iron
or totally starting a real garden. those 2 things will get you thru if
you redirect your self and all the patterns that you have insideously
built over the course of the relationship.

give yourself one year... all seasons... and rediscover YOU

in the words of a good friend...




"love the one you're with"

Alex-you know Stephen Stills?

figuratively speaking.....


doesn't everybody?

Gotcha!

*Takes Nusalors flowers*
They are the first I've had in awhile! Thank you my friend and don't
worry I am simmering enough to make stew!
Joanne you are a love thank you and I won't even begin to
compare my situation to a divorce.. I feel for you as I have been there
too. If you need a shoulder I'm here.
Unsure You are absolutely right.. I need to see my responsibility in the
failure and learn from it.
Bl8ant.. This relationship was fairly new.. since Feb.. I just was
really liking him and Im currently sitting here pumping 15 lbs arm
weights LOL
GOSH IT SUCKS....... If it dosent rain ill start my garden!

I know what you mean Karen. I'm one of those guys who feel exactly the
same as you do. If that sounds strange to any one oh well. I've given
constantly and not got anywhere near the same in return, and not that
there should be a tally but when it gets so one sided, it does drain and
crush the spirit some.

Exactly Rproman, I feel like my spirit is crushed! Thank you for putting
a name to it. It helps to feel validated

Karen...

I have learned that relationships should basically be a 50/50
proposition. When you feel that your not getting anything back, that's
the time to sit back and take a good hard look, why. There are days that
the scales tip to one side, but they should gradually go back to be
EVEN. It will get better....just give it time.

-Joanne

Rick's the name and your welcome.
The person i gave my love to that i'm refering to told me, she
didn't know what to do with my love. HUH?????

Karen, sorry tohear that, but from what you say, it is best that
youended it instead of staying in a relationship that was one
sided.Unlike me, I always tried to no ened to make it work, but I always
endeduponthe trash pile.Iknow it hurts, but as you move on and heal,
your life will be better.

Hi Loanne, I know i'm splitting hairs here but i couldn't help myself. I
believe in 100/100

oops sorry JOANNE LOL

Rick! She didnt know what to do with it!
What an idiot!

Wolfspirt.... me too but I'm learning that I'm worth more then to be
treated like that..
I'm thinking either my pecker picker is broken or my locator is outta
wack...
Could someone remove the nutmagnet from my forehead?

Oh god I just made myself laugh at myself Heres a flower from me
to me!

only thing i could say is , be careful of the grass is greener syndrome
,

spent many years with a woman, who couldnt see the forest fro the trees
, because all she could see was what i wasnt doing , instead of what i
was ,

we've been divorced two years now , and im still finding out about all
of her affairs,
not saying what you did was right or wrong , but if it felt like you
needed to do it then you needed to do it ,

anyway , i guess what i'm trying to say is ,sometimes we compare our
relationship to other peoples and say , why cant we be like that , or ,
he never does that for me ,
you need to be careful and realize that not everybody shows love and
caring the same way , ;-)
perhaps you do, but i know its a trap a lot of people fall into

hope you feel better soon ,

I left my nutmagnet remover on my other saddle...