Ok... Im gonna make this short...
I have been dating this guy for a while now... hes amazing. I am head over heals for him. I knew after the first date i would fall hard. we are 7 months in and what im wandering is ... when is it time for the "L" word guys. I Love him and I know it....but i dont :scare" him. HELP

Love kind of takes more than 7 months...wouldn't you think? Maybe you are thinking of the other L word...

Love doesn't take 7 months... Duane c'mon!

IMO it takes six months, give or take, to decide if someone it is or not. If this guy is 'it', tell him you love him. If you're too scared to tell him you love him, you don't love him or you don't believe he loves you. Either way, there's a problem.

About 2 or 3 months ago, if that is how you felt. You have given him plenty of time, by now. I would say you have to throw it out there now and be prepared to suffer the consequences. If he doesn't return it, I wouldn't think you would want to waste much more time with him. He's either into you or not, at this point.

I'm editing my response. Because it is also dependent on how much time you have spent with him, how many things and what kind of things you have done together, how long you have been intimate. But if you two have done all the normal things adults do to develop a relationship, I would think now is the time.

The L word is a big word to drop.. It took me about 8 months with my last Girlfriend to say it.. But then again, obviously it didn't work out for me, lol. I don't think there's a certain time when you should say it. You know how you feel about him.. Are you crazy about his personality? Are you willing to (L word) him AND his flaws? These are the questions I often ask myself. Do I really "love" her even though this and that bothers me? Am I willing to accept her flaws? If your answer is yes, then I think you should see how he feels about things. =] I hope this is something that will be of help to you!

What do you think he feels? Does he ever talk about it or hint about it? Is he demonstrating it already? Are you? Are you thinking long term? Do you think he is? Does he ever talk about it?

We really don't have enough info to help much.

Yeah.... does he gag down your mom's meatloaf and say it's yummers? Does he grocery shop for you? Does he trim his toenails over the garbage can? Does he go to the shoe store with you?

People can fall in love at first sight and some people fall in love after five years of knowing someone. Time is not a factor.


I say, don't say anything. If you know the love is there, then it's there. You don't have to say it. It may even ruin what you have right now. He may not even be ready for it. When he is ready, he will tell you.

My final suggestion, don't say anything at all. You dont have to verbally say you love them for them to know you love them. Let him say it first.

It should just come naturally you should have to be scared to say it ...it should just roll of the tongue but JMO ..GOOD LUCK !!

maybe you should just tell him how you feel and see what he says if he loves hell sayh i feel the same way if not upto u to decide what to do next but if i were you go with how you feel inside thats all trust fate to help you if he feels the same way hell tell u if not give him time all depends on how he feels about you

He has taken care of me with strep throat...
When im having an emotional day... yes he takes me shopping ot to a movie..
holds me when we sleep (no we dont live together)
When hes gone ..always calls to tell me goodnight... and so on...
Hell, he even goes shopping for jeans with me...
we like all the same stuff..
and get along great.
I know we have a connection we have talked about it.
I know hes afraid of being shipped out again...
we talk about the future and kids... we just havent come out with the word...
are we both afraid??

WHY are you worrying? You have everything in a relationship you could want. Why mess that up over some stupid word? Let it alone.

Yes, you're both afraid. One of you has to be the first to say it. You could keep waiting for him, I guess. How important is it to you?

Wait until he says it. If he says it firist he means it. Then you will have true love

Steve Harvey says you will know if he loves by the three P's

Profess- He will claim you as his woman in public places proudly, with his friends and family you will be introduced as his woman, his girlfriend, etc... You will not be introduced as a friend in those situations, if you are he is not that into you.

Provide- He will want to care for your needs. Not meaning that he will just take them over but he will want to make sure you have what you need. If he is not doing that he is not that into you.

Protect- If you tell him about a problem you have with someone at the bus stop or at work, he will want to go and talk to them, even if it doesn't make any sense for him to do it. Steve gave an example in his book of his wife deep sea diving and him on the boat waiting for her to return, he drove the crew of the boat absolutely crazy until she returned because he felt he could not protect her where she was and what she was doing. He says they came to an agreement that she would not do that anymore for his peace of mind.


I hope this helps you out.

I think the guy should say it first. But that's just me. And it does (or should) take a long time to decide if you love someone, that's why so many relationships go to hell in a hurry, someone feels "all warm and fuzzy" and thinks it's love and then poof! it's over and they're devastated. Most of the time it's just a case of intense like. Or lust. Or longing. One of those L words anyway.....

i agree

Why is everyone afraid of simple upfront conversation?
Got a question, ask it.
Want to know where someone is at?

Sit down, in a semi-private place, knees to knees, hold hands & TALK.
NO hanky-panky till the conversation is done.
Look eachother in the eye, watch body language & you will very soon have your answers.

Be ready to find the TRUTH.

Good Luck.