How do you show someone you are real, honest, srtait forward and still not seem like you are weird and something like a stalker? I mean I'm an honest and straight talking guy, and it seems that everyone I have ever talked to on here has the wall up. Even if I'm only talking friendship.

Id refrain from posting in the fork and dorks.

I find the less time I spend focussing on what others think, amd more time on being myself....the less concerned I am about others.

And as if by osmosis...the real people appear.

the what? sorry I don't get it.

There are many who are not honest, real, and straight forward. Sometimes chains are protective armor

just be myself and let the chips fall where they may, is my stratagy. If someone wants to wall me off it's their loss, I reckon...

No walls....I'm claustrophobic.....


People either talk with me or look right past my posts....their loss if they do.

well people who have been burned or hurt a lot on the past tend to keep a wall up,just be yourself and im sure there walls will begin to tumble but if they never do its their loss hun.

just seems to me that friends should not be a wall issue, lovers yes but not friends.

well did you ever stop to think that friends can be using friends for something or just be a bad friend period?

Well I don't see that... I see a friend as someone that is a friend, not something that can be used... but thats me I guess..

ive known some bad friends so i got rid of them,but people can be mean even if you call them friend you may not see it like that but it can happen

Keep it simple. Show genuine interest. And see where it goes.

I'm sure it can, but my friends are my friends, I would not hurt them, even for a relationship. I valur friends, and it's those friends that believe in who you are or can be. I think even friends you have just made can learn you without having to fear you.

Some People just don't have "Social Skills" They don't know HOW to be Friends.
Some people do not have the time to start a Dozen new friendships, so they start one at a time, Focus on it, and then, when it gets going, and is reliable, and "an old friend" they can then start on friendship #2
It's sometimes hard to give new people the attention they're looking for - especially on the Internet, when you cannot see Facial Expressions, and hear tones of Voice, so it's just plain Safer to keep it on a more... err... umm... Shallow? level.

Guess my point is this... you do not have to trust in a friend like you do in a lover, a friend is someone that can take your word for who and what you are, if you talk to someone several times, and do nothing to threaten that person or talk in a threatful way, can you not be friends until you prove to them you are not worthy?

i guess it depends on the person and their definition of trust and friendship.with anybody ive dated or been friends with i show them my word is better then gold.

A lover, one would hope....IS a friend.....and a friend you do not have sex with deserves the same level of trust as a lover.


Funny thing..... I always felt a relationship, of any sort is based in trust, be it friend or lover....or both rolled into one.

Nicely Put.

ok so you trust in a friend the same as someone you are in love with?

Me a friend is there for dark and light times, a friend listens to you when the romance has left your life, there when they are in love and asking questions...

I'm a friend to many, love only one..so how can the trust be different in love than friendship... alot.. the one I love is more important to be true to, my friends I'm honest with...make sense?