Topic: Lots of lookers but few responses
rosebud47's photo
Mon 09/14/09 07:41 AM
Please give me ideas to improve my profile.

no photo
Mon 09/14/09 07:46 AM
Honestly, more pics at different angles and situations would be a help.

But, too, your writing is rather focused on the past. Perhaps add to it what you enjoy doing in life NOW and more positive stuff, values, ideals you have and look for. What you wrote is ambiguous and kind of cookie cutter, and mostly steered negatively as is.

And, of course, getting to know people on the forums is a boon for getting noticed and letting people get a peek at your personality.

Best wishes to you!!

nelnel6280's photo
Mon 09/14/09 08:02 AM
Definitely post some more pictures

and maybe tell us what you like to do.. what your hobbies are

tanyaann's photo
Mon 09/14/09 08:09 AM
Like said before, it is helpful to have more pictures.

There will be plenty of time to talk about the past, if you enter into a serious relationship.

You need to sell yourself! Hobbies? Likes? Dislikes?

What you are looking for in a relationship/partner?

[just a friendly suggestion, you might want to spend sometime with yourself and figure out what you want. Throwing up all that information on a public profile, might suggest that you haven't dealt with it.... especially the abuse. Take some time for yourself!]

lilith401's photo
Mon 09/14/09 08:14 AM
Edited by lilith401 on Mon 09/14/09 08:15 AM
Here it is.... no sugar coating.

No one wants to read about what happened to you. You are portraying yourself as damaged goods. Delete all that.... focus on WHO you are and what you like to do. When you meet someone you like and trust, then tell them about your past. But in no way is that okay to have in your profile. This is about meeting someone you can share your life with, and aren't you more than what happened to you? You are defining yourself in here. And you get to choose what you tell people.

Th3Friend's photo
Mon 09/14/09 08:31 AM
I agree with the ladies... leave the bad things out of your profile. I know I wouldnt want to meet a woman who has depression all over her profile. I am more inclined to be interested in someone who is interesting... not someone who will compare me to her two marriages.

Try saying something that doesnt make any sense at first glance, get people aroused mentally. I do jumping jacks, in the mirror! See... that makes no sense, but damn if you dont wanna know wtf!

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 09/14/09 11:59 AM
From the previous comments it appears that maybe you have ammended your profile.

It still seems to have a really negative defensive vibe. Take each sentence and see how it sounds to a guy.

Your age is stated in your profile why repeat it. Saying you don't look your age always makes people think "wanna bet".

Ditch the drama remark. You don't have to enumerate the bad habits of others to make yourself sound good.

Why wouldn't you be close to your family and grandchildren? Are you going to make the significant person in your life part of that circle of happiness and love or make them stop at the door?

Great you can tell jokes and make people laugh. While a professional comedian might be able to be funny on demand the average person finds it a little intimidateing. Wanting someone who likes to see the funny lighter side is fine.

While my guess is you mean you are not into drinking and wild reckless stuff to say you don't like to party suggests you can't enjoy celebrateing. My guess is you are a really social person that wants everyone to enjoy gatherings and feel good.

MORE pictures would help.