I was seeing a guy I met on match.com. He said we were exclusive (we had
met and "hooked up.") One night I came home from seeing him, and he was
online on match.com. I asked him about it, and he said it was something
to do. I told him I couldn't trust him and that he shouldn't call me
again. Good riddance to bad garbage.

People you gotta take your time! You can't rush a good thing!

Hmmm.... yeah games and drama... geesh.. Some people, all you ask for
is a little honesty you know? But I hear you, some people are just
plain rude when it comes to the way the treat others. You know if feel
a certain way you should just tell that person, not dance around or just
plain up and disappear or something. Oh well.. the people that do those
types of things have issues and are best not wasting time on anyways
. Guess you have to just go with the flow and eventually you
will meet someone truly worth your while. Well... I'm done with my
rant, lol

Tom!!!

LOL Where have you been hiding?

Hey! lol, ummm... under a rock... haha

Oh yeah, so how is it under the rock, eHhh?

Dont expect anything. (Only recently learned that, and its the most
awesome piece of advice)

Cant be disappointed if you dont have expectations.

... apart from expecting them to be human

if ya rush ya will get burned

I agree, real love (like anything else worthwhile in this life) takes
time.

Don't outrun your headlights.

By that I mean, don't try to see farther down the road that what you can
see, but don't go too fast so that you can't stop in time. Make sense?

i agree with angel..are u sure he told the girl that....lots of people
cant stand to see two people happy..... im not saying he didnt tell her
that but u should be sure of it ....before u think further...

Hate to say it but if you don't want to get hurt don't date.

i agree with abs
you have to decide what things are worth the disappointments/pain/hurt
and go from there.
you are very young.

Dreamer, If he told her that, obviously he told her about you. Which I
think if he was trying to hook up with her, he wouldnt have told her
anything. I know sometimes its really hard to trust someone, especially
if you met online. I do also know that, if it was meant to be, it will
be. Try not to rush into an exclusive relationship and "falling in
love". I hope everything works out.




River, I understand the disappointment when you seen him online there,
but you were to or you wouldnt have known he was on. I think maybe
telling him that you couldnt trust him not to call you again, was kinda
harsh.

angelintraining: I went on match.com to see if he was on or still
checking his profile. My lack of trust lead me to look. I went on match
to check out his activity, not to look for guys. He was on looking at
women. How big a hypocrite do you think I am?

Well that makes since. I was just like wait she was on there to. I am
in a relationship to and I still come on here, but if you look at my
profile you will see that I state that here and I dont look at guys
either. I just come on to read the post and all. If there is no trust
there is no relationship. Now that I know why you were there, it makes
sense to say what you said, but the way it read the first time, I was
just a bit confused I guess.

I had years of training, spying on my (now) ex-husband, lol. I learned
that if you feel like you have to spy, there really is something
wrong--either your instincts are correct and where there is smoke, there
is fire, or you are either really insecure and paranoid. My instincts
have been correct more than not.