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Uh Lex, we're never going to get rich like this. We need more people giving us....uh I mean sharing their dating nuggets. Maybe you could do the goat dance to bring in more customers.   The Goat Dance only brings out the worst of the domesticatrixes. Or should that be domesticatrices? Jeez, I don't know, and I'm the one who made up the word. Well, whatever. I'm starting to think people don't HAVE rules about dating. And that explains a LOT! (If you think about it. Or even if you don't.) One of my rules is "No LDRs." Been there, done that, got the ninth degree burns. From now on, I'm not getting involved with anyone more than six blocks away. Make sure you add Learn the Goat Dance to the Lexanity List, the girls want to stay on top of their duties. They've got at least a few more important duties than that, on top or otherwise! You dirty dirty.... Hate the sin, not the sinner. |
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Ohhh if ya say your 5'10 please make sure your at least close to that height shshsh meet one guy and we were looking eye to eye and I was in Tennis shoes  hummmm last I checked I was 5'3 well unless I grew and did not realize it If we're going to talk about the lies men tell I'd like to bring up a lie women tell. 50 is much more than a few extra pounds. Also, if you don't have the body of an athlete don't say your build is athletic. |
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes.
BTW, my profile says average.
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes. BTW, my profile says average. I really am 5'10" by the way. |
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes. BTW, my profile says average. I really am 5'10" by the way. And I really am 4'11. You'd have to get up pretty early in the morning to be shorter than me. *insert blond emoticon here* |
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Dear Forum Members, While joking with Lex in one of the threads, I stated I would put the rules for dating on my Profile. Well Lex checked. They weren't there because I couldn't find them. Hence a brilliant idea was born. This thread is to capture all the rules you've learned while playing the dating game. Give us your best, brightest, hardest learned and a few silly anticdotes wouldn't be amiss either. Lex and I are going to collect them, add to them with our creative abilities, get them published and become millionaires. We will give you the proper literary credit but no cash. Thank you in advance.  Lex, did I miss anything? Don't date? epic win!!!!!! Epic encounters are the best |
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes. BTW, my profile says average. Hey, I gave you all my best first impression stuff on page one. Do I have to write the whole freakin book for you? I guess I could put together another post about planning a great date that costs less than $30. Then follow that up with a few tips about foreplay (which starts the moment you pick her up) and closing the deal. But, I don't think anyone's reading my last post. So, why bother? |
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes. BTW, my profile says average. Hey, I gave you all my best first impression stuff on page one. Do I have to write the whole freakin book for you? I guess I could put together another post about planning a great date that costs less than $30. Then follow that up with a few tips about foreplay (which starts the moment you pick her up) and closing the deal. But, I don't think anyone's reading my last post. So, why bother? ... Hey, I'm reading it ...
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A gentle reminder that I will not get rich like this. I need real dating tips. What works, what doesn't, funny stories. Please all, momma needs a new pair of shoes. BTW, my profile says average. Hey, I gave you all my best first impression stuff on page one. Do I have to write the whole freakin book for you? I guess I could put together another post about planning a great date that costs less than $30. Then follow that up with a few tips about foreplay (which starts the moment you pick her up) and closing the deal. But, I don't think anyone's reading my last post. So, why bother? Texas, does someone need a hug. I read and agreed with most of what you wrote. It is actually going to the be preface for the book. The tips about foreplay, we could use as a lead in to our next book, Sex, what is it really?
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Okay, I'll get to work on something about planning a great date.
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Alright, here it is. My guide for planning a great date that won't cost you a bank and everyone will have a great time.
Okay, so you have sorted through all those phone numbers and eliminated the flakes. You have found at least one woman that trusts you enough to meet you someplace alone. Good for you! The first thing you need to do is RELAX. She made a plan to see you. That means she likes you. You don't have to worry about that. It's your job now to form a real emotional connection with her. You cannot fake this. It has to be real. I can't tell you how to do it, but I can tell you how to make it easy to do. The main thing she needs is time. She wants to talk and get to know more about who you are. So, DO NOT TAKE HER TO A PLACE YOU CANNOT TALK WITH HER. Like a movie or a loud bar. It's going to take her about 15 or so hours with you to feel comfortable enough to begin a sexual relationship with you. You could spread this out over two of three dates or, if you plan well, you could get it all out of the way on a single date. This is the way I do it and it's what I'll be talking about here. Face it, we're men. We want to get to the sex as soon as we can. So, I like to plan a date with the end in mind. I want the date to end with her having breakfast in my bed the next morning. Believe it or not, women want this too. She wants to have sex. She just doesn't want to feel slutty about it. It's our job as men to plan a date that eases her into sex in a way that feels natural. Like it's just the next step to have a great day. The trouble most guys have is they either try to rush her or they leave everything up to her. Rushing her will only make her think she's on a date with an octopus. Waiting for her to make the move sends the single that you don't have the ability to lead the interaction and want to be a follower. Women are attracted to leaders. So, lead her gently all the way to your bedroom. As I said, start with the end in mind. That means you should ask her to meet you at your place or at least somewhere close to your place. I like to start a date at some kind of little local place with a light atmosphere. A coffee house is good. It's even better if you have a few friends there that will say hello, but won't be a bother. This sends the single that you age a cool guy with cool friends. It helps build trust because serial killers don't have friends. So, chat for a while at the coffee house. Just relax and vibe with her. Have fun! But, keep in mind that you need to break the touch barrier soon. This let's her know that you are interested in her as more than a friend. Just give her a little tap on her hand or knee as you make some point in your conversation. The four play has now begun. Throughout the date you should be slowly escalating the physical contact. But, if she seems the least bit uncomfortable STOP! Rewind. Take it back a step or two and start the climb again. This will drive her crazy with desire if you do it right. But, take it very slowly. You should plan the date to have three or four venue changes. This keeps thing fresh , interesting and exciting. So, if she came to your place to meet you invite her in, but do not give her the tour. Allow her to see it and move things along quickly to the next venue. After coffee you could take her to an art gallery or a museum This is good because there are lots of things to see and talk about. Ask her what she liked the most and listen to her reply. Tell her your opinion of what you saw as well. You don't have to agree with her about every detail. If she liked the elephant and you likes the lion that's fine. Just be laid back and cool. The next venue I like to be doing something. This could be shooting pool, bowling, plating darts or whatever. So long as it's interactive. It's alright to have a beer, but don't over do it. She'll be watching to see if you may have a drinking problem. Also you don't want her thinking you are trying to get her drunk. Afr that it's time for dinner. You don't have to take her to a fancy French place with high prices. Just don't take her to McDonald's either. I have found that quaint little local places are the most charming. If they offer some kind of unique food or drink make sure you tell her about it. In fact, you should have already told her about it during the pool game. Y0u want to avoid asking interview type questions like “where are you from?” and “do you live around here?” or “do you live around here?” Instead ask her about her future plans. Ask her about her carrier. Unless she a waitress or something ask her what she finds most “fulfilling” about her work. This is a deeper question than “what do you like about your job?” It makes her think on a deeper level. And it makes her think “wow, this guy is really interested in my life.” And you should be interested in getting to know her on a deeper level. During dinner you can bring up some cool thing you have back at your place. This is sort of planting a seed. It'll give her a reason to come back to your place later. Women need this. She knows the two of you are going back there for sex. But, she needs to feel like she's going over there to see this cool thing and sex “just happened.” I know, it's silly. But, that's how women are. So, give her what she needs. If you notice her yawing or getting tired, order coffee. Or even better espresso. You don't want her felling worn out. After dinner I like to take a woman to a nightclub (not a bar) to see a band. Not a heavy metal or punk band. But a Jazz or Blues band. Again, feel free to have a drink, but don't over do it. If she wants to dance don't freak out. Just get up and do it. All you have to do is step side to side in time with the music. It's like tapping your foot to the beat. Don't worry about looking foolish. She likely can't dance an y better than you anyway. Just have fun looking silly together. If you have been slowing working your way up the touch ladder you may be able to find a good moment for a kiss. It should be in a secluded place in or outside the venue. Don't force it. It should feel like the next natural step. Relaxed and easy. By this time it should be around midnight. Take her back to her car, but invite her back to your place to see that cool thing-a-ma-jig you have there. But, tell her you have to get up early and she can't stay too long. This will calm any fears she may have about coming inside. Again, she's not stupid. She knows sex may happen if she goes back to your place. Once she's there it's your job to make her feel comfortable with whatever happens. It's your job to make things “just happen.” |
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Alright, here it is. My guide for planning a great date that won't cost you a bank and everyone will have a great time. Okay, so you have sorted through all those phone numbers and eliminated the flakes. You have found at least one woman that trusts you enough to meet you someplace alone. Good for you! The first thing you need to do is RELAX. She made a plan to see you. That means she likes you. You don't have to worry about that. It's your job now to form a real emotional connection with her. You cannot fake this. It has to be real. I can't tell you how to do it, but I can tell you how to make it easy to do. The main thing she needs is time. She wants to talk and get to know more about who you are. So, DO NOT TAKE HER TO A PLACE YOU CANNOT TALK WITH HER. Like a movie or a loud bar. It's going to take her about 15 or so hours with you to feel comfortable enough to begin a sexual relationship with you. You could spread this out over two of three dates or, if you plan well, you could get it all out of the way on a single date. This is the way I do it and it's what I'll be talking about here. Face it, we're men. We want to get to the sex as soon as we can. So, I like to plan a date with the end in mind. I want the date to end with her having breakfast in my bed the next morning. Believe it or not, women want this too. She wants to have sex. She just doesn't want to feel slutty about it. It's our job as men to plan a date that eases her into sex in a way that feels natural. Like it's just the next step to have a great day. The trouble most guys have is they either try to rush her or they leave everything up to her. Rushing her will only make her think she's on a date with an octopus. Waiting for her to make the move sends the single that you don't have the ability to lead the interaction and want to be a follower. Women are attracted to leaders. So, lead her gently all the way to your bedroom. As I said, start with the end in mind. That means you should ask her to meet you at your place or at least somewhere close to your place. I like to start a date at some kind of little local place with a light atmosphere. A coffee house is good. It's even better if you have a few friends there that will say hello, but won't be a bother. This sends the single that you age a cool guy with cool friends. It helps build trust because serial killers don't have friends. So, chat for a while at the coffee house. Just relax and vibe with her. Have fun! But, keep in mind that you need to break the touch barrier soon. This let's her know that you are interested in her as more than a friend. Just give her a little tap on her hand or knee as you make some point in your conversation. The four play has now begun. Throughout the date you should be slowly escalating the physical contact. But, if she seems the least bit uncomfortable STOP! Rewind. Take it back a step or two and start the climb again. This will drive her crazy with desire if you do it right. But, take it very slowly. You should plan the date to have three or four venue changes. This keeps thing fresh , interesting and exciting. So, if she came to your place to meet you invite her in, but do not give her the tour. Allow her to see it and move things along quickly to the next venue. After coffee you could take her to an art gallery or a museum This is good because there are lots of things to see and talk about. Ask her what she liked the most and listen to her reply. Tell her your opinion of what you saw as well. You don't have to agree with her about every detail. If she liked the elephant and you likes the lion that's fine. Just be laid back and cool. The next venue I like to be doing something. This could be shooting pool, bowling, plating darts or whatever. So long as it's interactive. It's alright to have a beer, but don't over do it. She'll be watching to see if you may have a drinking problem. Also you don't want her thinking you are trying to get her drunk. Afr that it's time for dinner. You don't have to take her to a fancy French place with high prices. Just don't take her to McDonald's either. I have found that quaint little local places are the most charming. If they offer some kind of unique food or drink make sure you tell her about it. In fact, you should have already told her about it during the pool game. Y0u want to avoid asking interview type questions like “where are you from?” and “do you live around here?” or “do you live around here?” Instead ask her about her future plans. Ask her about her carrier. Unless she a waitress or something ask her what she finds most “fulfilling” about her work. This is a deeper question than “what do you like about your job?” It makes her think on a deeper level. And it makes her think “wow, this guy is really interested in my life.” And you should be interested in getting to know her on a deeper level. During dinner you can bring up some cool thing you have back at your place. This is sort of planting a seed. It'll give her a reason to come back to your place later. Women need this. She knows the two of you are going back there for sex. But, she needs to feel like she's going over there to see this cool thing and sex “just happened.” I know, it's silly. But, that's how women are. So, give her what she needs. If you notice her yawing or getting tired, order coffee. Or even better espresso. You don't want her felling worn out. After dinner I like to take a woman to a nightclub (not a bar) to see a band. Not a heavy metal or punk band. But a Jazz or Blues band. Again, feel free to have a drink, but don't over do it. If she wants to dance don't freak out. Just get up and do it. All you have to do is step side to side in time with the music. It's like tapping your foot to the beat. Don't worry about looking foolish. She likely can't dance an y better than you anyway. Just have fun looking silly together. If you have been slowing working your way up the touch ladder you may be able to find a good moment for a kiss. It should be in a secluded place in or outside the venue. Don't force it. It should feel like the next natural step. Relaxed and easy. By this time it should be around midnight. Take her back to her car, but invite her back to your place to see that cool thing-a-ma-jig you have there. But, tell her you have to get up early and she can't stay too long. This will calm any fears she may have about coming inside. Again, she's not stupid. She knows sex may happen if she goes back to your place. Once she's there it's your job to make her feel comfortable with whatever happens. It's your job to make things “just happen.” Seems to me that it's not so much a great date as it is some sort of a plan with a means to an end. Maybe you should just call it "How to get a woman into your bed in 10 easy steps". Not saying you're wrong, just that it's waaaaaaaaaay to manipulative. Don't know where you get your "facts" about women from, but I DO find your post very amusing. |
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Seems to me that it's not so much a great date as it is some sort of a plan with a means to an end. Maybe you should just call it "How to get a woman into your bed in 10 easy steps". Not saying you're wrong, just that it's waaaaaaaaaay to manipulative. Don't know where you get your "facts" about women from, but I DO find your post very amusing. How is this manipulative? It's simply the steps of the human mating dance. It's nothing more than a way for men to ease women into a sexual relationship. Something we all want to have. It would be so much simpler if a man could just say "I think you are pretty and I'd like to begin a sexual relationship with you. Are you interested?" But, he can't. He must do this dance and play this game for the human race to continue because women demand it. Every step along the way the woman's feelings and comfort are taken into account. There are no head games, lies or manipulations anywhere in this. If you take a few minutes and think about it I'm sure you'll see that your own sexualo relationships started this way or in a similar way. |
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Seems to me that it's not so much a great date as it is some sort of a plan with a means to an end. Maybe you should just call it "How to get a woman into your bed in 10 easy steps". Not saying you're wrong, just that it's waaaaaaaaaay to manipulative. Don't know where you get your "facts" about women from, but I DO find your post very amusing. How is this manipulative? It's simply the steps of the human mating dance. It's nothing more than a way for men to ease women into a sexual relationship. Something we all want to have. It would be so much simpler if a man could just say "I think you are pretty and I'd like to begin a sexual relationship with you. Are you interested?" But, he can't. He must do this dance and play this game for the human race to continue because women demand it. Every step along the way the woman's feelings and comfort are taken into account. There are no head games, lies or manipulations anywhere in this. If you take a few minutes and think about it I'm sure you'll see that your own sexualo relationships started this way or in a similar way. Hate to admit it, but you're right. Sometimes, I think it would be simpler if a man just came out and said what his intentions are. But then, there would never be the thrill of the chase and maybe getting caught. Still getting used to your straight-forwardness. It's a good thing. I'm one that detests game playing, yet, to a degree, we all do it, don't we? |
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Hey Tex, want to pick me up at my place for coffee?
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Seems to me that it's not so much a great date as it is some sort of a plan with a means to an end. Maybe you should just call it "How to get a woman into your bed in 10 easy steps". Not saying you're wrong, just that it's waaaaaaaaaay to manipulative. Don't know where you get your "facts" about women from, but I DO find your post very amusing. How is this manipulative? It's simply the steps of the human mating dance. It's nothing more than a way for men to ease women into a sexual relationship. Something we all want to have. It would be so much simpler if a man could just say "I think you are pretty and I'd like to begin a sexual relationship with you. Are you interested?" But, he can't. He must do this dance and play this game for the human race to continue because women demand it. Every step along the way the woman's feelings and comfort are taken into account. There are no head games, lies or manipulations anywhere in this. If you take a few minutes and think about it I'm sure you'll see that your own sexualo relationships started this way or in a similar way. Wow! Now I know why I gave up on dating. No offense, but I respectfully disagree. Blunt is better. The guy that walked up to me and said what he was really thinking, for instance your above declaration, would stand a better chance than this plan of yours. I admit I'm strange. Not all women want sex. And if we do, why be ashamed of it? I don't feel like a slut when once every few years I go out and do exactly what you suggested cannot work. And don't tell me it's different for men and women. I tell him I want him, no fifteen hours of schmoozing needed, no games or jumping through hoops, no lies or manipulations; it's what it is and we both know it. If you truly believe that all women only want sex ultimately, but just demand the game to save face, then your logic is flawed. If all they really wanted was sex, they'd just ask for it. I've proved it works and I'm sure most women know it does too. We do control it, so you seem to be admitting here. Appears to me that what we really want is not sex, but to make you guys play these stupid games so we can laugh at you, knowing the whole time we're going to get what we want in the end, whether that's breakfast in bed dutifully cooked by you or just a free meal and some schmoozing. Joke's on you. Have fun being that perfect date.  I'm sticking with honesty!  Ain't failed me yet!
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Kristi, didn't you know that no man will admit to being less than 5'9"... not really? If they say they are 6 or taller than your chances are good. I almost started bringing a tape measure. I'm 5'8" barefoot!! One guy said, is your barstool taller than mine or is your torso just longer? I said, "Neither. I just didn't lie about my height like you did". haha lillith,,, do i need to change mine from 5'6". I am afraid of heights. |
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At the risk of sounding like I'm bragging, all this was backward engineered from literally hundreds of dates. I kept a journal. I could have posted some real head games. All of them tricks I learned when women used them on me!
As I said in my first post, if anyone feels this would help them, please try it out. If anyone disagrees they are welcome to post their own guide. I for one would love to read about what works for others. You cannot fake an emotional connection. At least I can't. All this is nothing more than setting the scene. If the woman has no feeling for the man she won't just fall into his bed because he took her on a date like the one talked about. This isn't mind control! It's just a date. Men think that taking a woman where she wants to go is what she wants. But, women want a man that can plan a great date without her input. Ask a man what he wants for his birthday and he'll tell you exactly. But for a woman plan a great birthday for her where she is just along for the ride and she will love it. "I want you to relax sweetheart. I've taken care of everything." |
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When a person shows you WHO they ARE ... Believe them the first time! YES! 
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Hey Tex, want to pick me up at my place for coffee? You'd have to meet me at least half way. |
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